Do you think I am gay?

[SirWilliam]

Hello people. I am wondering if I am gay and that really makes me suffering. I am 24 years old. Since my teen years I feel attracted to womens clothing, especially thongs, panties. I like fingering my butt, when I watch porn I imagine myself in the place of the girls, I wonder how and what they feels and I wish I can feel it to. In the same time in reality I only maded one blowjob, but it was a disaster, because he couldnt get hard, even tho I really liked doing it, I liked being on my knees infront of him, it was good. And I had sex with just one girl. I liked it too, but I feel right now that I only have sexual thoughs and desires about men and I can say that I really like cocks..

[Just_someone23]

I think your normal. You have a bisexuality identity and that's awesome. Now you just have to work it out with your brain.( That's easier to say than do)

I went though something similar. Till one day. I said fuck it. I'm going to do what I like and don't care anymore.

Since you shared. I share mine with you.

See I have this thing for cross dressing bisexual men. That's a major turn on to me. I know I'm weird, but that's what I like. The weirdness is part of me and who I am.

[SirWilliam]

Wow, I dont know what to say. I mean I hope you are right and I am not really gay. And thank you for sharing that with me, it means a lot. You are not weird, you are like a dream girl for me. I would love to have a girlfriend like you, who will like and accept that I like to crossdress and that I like men and dicks too... But unfortunately, there is no chance for me, to find a girl like you. :(

[Just_someone23]

Not true, it will just be harder to find one. Best advice I can give. When you do happen to find someone. DO NOT HIDE THIS FROM THEM. IT WILL CAUSE MORE HARM THEN GOOD IF IT COMES OUT OR WORSE IF YOUR CAUGHT. Let them know like say by the second or third date. If they run. You know they are not the one

[SirWilliam]

Well, yes, you are right. I think if my ex was okay with this, me wearing her panties, maybe bring in another man in our sex life from time to time, I would still be with her, but she left me because of this..

[LittleTurtleDuck]

I don't think you are gay, straight or bisexual..
You might be transgender...
But if you feel like you need help to discover this than all I can say is do what you want and stop trying to put a label on yourself.
And if you really feel like you want it figured out try and talk to a therapist or someone like that, they can help understand your mind..

[SirWilliam]

I can't afford talking to a therapist right now and honestly I am not sure that I won't to. I know it is sounds silly that I want to put a label on myself, but if I dont do it, I will continue to be like this. As for being transgender, I am not sure, because I like my life as a man too..

[LittleTurtleDuck]

Well having studied human sexuality and reading all your other comments I would label you as the switch-gender (wants to be male and female), bisexual (sexual attraction to both genders), straight-romantic (only wants to do romantic stuff like dates with woman) type. Cuz there is sexuality in what you are, what you want to have sex with and what you are "connecting" with. And they are various in your case. So I suggest you find a girl who is okay with you sometimes having sex with a man (sort of open relationship) and dressing like a woman. And maybe she might want to pegg you as well. Good luck! And I hope you like your label 😊

[SirWilliam]

Thank you for your amazing asnwer! I would love to find a girl like that, but what If I couldnt? And in the same time I try it with a man, liked it and wants to do it again and again and again, then what..

[LittleTurtleDuck]

There are girls like that, you just gotta look in the right places. Try kink sites like Fetlife or a kinky dating app like Whiplr. And if you like the sex with the man but want the romantic stuff with the woman I already said: find a girl and guy who are ok with that. Welcome in the world of kink, where everything is possible and nothing is weird.

[SirWilliam]

I never heard of this dating sites, but I will look up into them. I think I will like sex with a man ( I am 95% sure about it), but I dont know how I will feel about women after (if) I have sex with a man..

[LittleTurtleDuck]

Well you never know if you never try. So I'd say give it a go, ride that dick 🙂 There are also straight-romantic, asexual woman: they don't want sex but they do like to cuddle up and go on dates with guys. So if you end up liking sex with guys more, but also dates with girls you could look for a woman who is like that and suggest an (semi-) open relationship to her and the guy you want to have sex with.

[SirWilliam]

I like how you said "ride that dick". Believe me I really want to do it, really badly and maybe the fear of being gay its stopps me, but I feel I want and I desire to ride dick..

[LittleTurtleDuck]

Go out! Have fun! There is nothing wrong with exploring yourself I do prefer saying homosexual tho because it is only sexual in your case, you are not homoromantic so technically not entirely gay. Little fact: Homo is latin for: the same (gender) and sexual or romantic indicates the form of attraction to it. So homosexual is just sexual attraction to the same gender that you are born with. Gay is slang for having both romantic and sexual attraction and is a word diverted from a word that means happy/gleeful. Just explore! It is natural! And they who judge are just jealous. 😄

[SirWilliam]

Thank you again for answering and trying to help me. So you encourage me to try and do it with a man? So you there is something which is gay in me, right?

[LittleTurtleDuck]

Yes I encourage you to try. No, you are homosexual, not gay.

[SirWilliam]

Okay, I will try my best to overcome all of my fears and try it with a man finally. I am sure that I will love it!!!

[SueShe]

From the description you give, I would tend for bisexual with a tendency of about 65% towards men and 35% towards women.

You seem to be more attracted towards men than you are towards girls and that is what your dilemma is. You don't want to accept that you are attracted to men because your emotional side revolts against that fact, yet you cannot control whom you are attracted to.

There is not much you can really do to correct this situation and you will have to accept it. If you try to change it, you will only make things worse for yourself as you will never find peace of mind.

Of course, the best thing would be if you could just dismiss your libido or at least reduce it. You can do that by eating certain foods and by practicing a number of dedicated yoga exercises as well as meditation. That will help you get your mind off those sexual thoughts and to live an overall healthier life.

[veecutie]

You probably are trans too

[SirWilliam]

So you think I am both? Trans and gay?

[veecutie]

I think you are trans, and yep I guess the gay things depends on that weird category of cis/trans straight etc female or male which I have no clue on lol since I'm straight. But you're def trans. start from there. I guess if you are trans it's bc you feel you are trapped as a woman in a male body. Which would make you a straight trans female or something like that. Read from the proper sources it will help.

[SirWilliam]

Thank you, but you need to know that I like my life as a man too and I don't want to throw it away, so i am not sure if I am trans.

[veecutie]

Then it's a fetish and you're gay.

[SirWilliam]

Are you sure that I am gay?

[veecutie]

If you are a man and only have sexual desires of men, yes you are gay

[SirWilliam]

I am a man and right mow yes. I only have sexual desires and fantasies about dicks and sex with a man, but before I had desire for girls too..

[veecutie]

Try it, if you like it you are definitely gay. Some people see sexuality as a fluctuating thing. This could be one those cases. If seeing straight porn doesn't cause anything you are def gay.

[SirWilliam]

Noo. I dont like gay porn at all, but I also don't like lesbian porn too. I only like to watch straight porn, but I envy the girls in the porn, I wonder what they feel and etc..

[veecutie]

definitely trans then! can't you see you want to be the girl? maybe you wouldn't be willing to give up your life as a man because it would be too compicated.

[SirWilliam]

Yes and because I don't want to give up my life as a man, that would make me gay, no?

[veecutie]

Nope, because some gay men are extremely masculine and would never incurr in dressing as a girl and would find it an extreme turnoff. Not wanting to give up your life as a man would probably make you a closeted trans.

[SirWilliam]

Ah, I get it. Honestly I desire to be like a girl for some muscular, manly and strong man..

[RoxyFoxx]

Homosexuality and heterosexuality lie on a spectrum. There's no one who's completely one or the other. It's normal being gay while still being attracted to some women and vice versa. As for you, I'd say you're bisexual but mostly on the gay side. So you CAN consider yourself gay.
And just because one bl***ob went badly doesn't mean that all of them will. Maybe the man receiving it had something on his mind? And even if the problem was your lack of experience, you'll learn. So don't let that damage your self-esteem!

[SirWilliam]

Well, he was in his late 40thies and I think he had an erection problem, the point is that I liked sucking even his small and soft cock.. So do you really think I am gay?

[Elsa143]

Buddy you're bisexual. Don't worry you're as important as every one else. Fuck the judgmental people. Sometimes we discover certain things after a certain age with new experiences. Nothing to worry about. We're living beings so we have feelings.

[SirWilliam]

Thank you for your nice answer. :)

[Elsa143]

Welcome. Enjoy your life as much as possible.

[Catlover1999]

Do you ever picture yourself as a straight/ bi woman in any of those scenarios?

[Catlover1999]

I know you said “in the place of the girl” but that’s different to actually imagining yourself as her.

[SirWilliam]

Well, yes. I mean most of the time I picture myself like a straight woman.. I think I am crossdresser, but I doubt that I am trans, because I like my life as a man too..

[Catlover1999]

I would say that you were bi but prefer men over women

[Catlover1999]

Would you want to be in a relationship with a man and do non sexual things like go on dates

[SirWilliam]

I were? So what I am now?

[Catlover1999]

Well bisexual by the sounds of it but you seem to prefer men.

[SirWilliam]

Hmm, I am not sure.. If I was a girl, then yes, but right now, I mean I am a man and I can't see myself go on a date with a man..

[Catlover1999]

But wouldn’t it be a problem if you were with a woman and couldn’t stop thinking about cock?

[SirWilliam]

It would be. I had one girl with who I have been. I mean we had an relationship, she was my first and only. I was happy with her, really. And at first I didn't have these thoughs about cock and men, I mean I was thinking that I overcome them, but later they came back and thats why I am alone again now.

[VanityFair748]

I think you're bisexual but at the moment your preference are men.

[SirWilliam]

Thank you for your answer.

[supercutebutt]

You are 100% gay now :)

[SirWilliam]

Why are you so sure and what do you mean by now?

[ItsTheNephilim]

You're bi.

[Shorty763]

If you like men and you want to be with a guy then yes you gay

[I-have-a-biscuit]

Man: dick gets hard only to guys -> gay
Dick gets hard to both -> bisexual
Dick gets hard only to women -> straight

It's simple as that, dicks are simple things

[JosyJosy]

Go fuck a guy already

[venomwomen]

No you are not

[_Troian_]

No bro u are straight like an arrow 😂

[Anonymous]

If you fantasize about women and you can't imagine a life without anal. In my opinion, you like men :( but this is only one opinion so don't take it personally. Only you know your body and what you like