What can I do or say to convince my girlfriend to stop shaving her pussy before we have sex?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been together a couple of months and started having sex recently. She insists she has to “shave clean for me” down there. But it’s like she can’t put two and two together. She thinks I require her to shave when in reality, I like her to look like an adult if I’m having sex with her. I think her past relationships drilled it into her head that she has to be hairless. She’s about 8 years younger than I am so maybe that plays into it too? What can I do or say to help her understand this?

[Barry88]

Talk with her and ask her. Just tell her that you want to know how she would look like with pubic hair, and if she would want to stop shaving. I asked my girlfriend and she went from bare to bush, and she is now used to having a bush.

You're having a relationship since a couple of months, it's not weird to start discussing such sexual preferences now. After all, after a couple of months you can say things are quite serious. It might be that she prefers to be shaved, or that she is used to it, but in my opinion, you should ask her and it would be nice if she would give it at least a try if she knows that it means a lot for you.

[Asker]

Thank you much! Awesome thoughts and ideas. I want to go all the way with her, possibly even marriage. I want her to belike you said, to go from bare to bush and feel comfortable and sexy with it. Just trying to convince her that she would be beautiful

[Barry88]

Beware that it might take some time. My girlfriend first hated her bush and started trimming, and went back to shaving it bare at some moment. She would grow a bush every now and then, keeping it for some time, until she would shave again, although at some moment she didn't want to go bare anymore and she left a tuft or landing strip. She still thinks that looks better on her. But even though a full bush visually isn't what she prefers, she knows I love it. Growing a bush became more and more common over the years. And if she grows a bush she doesn't trim it. It's now more than two years ago since she last shaved or trimmed, it's a full natural untrimmed bush and she is comfortable with it. So don't expect any drastic changes. It might take time before she gets used to it. Encourage her when she decides to let it grow, tell her how beautiful it is, tell her how much it means for you and how much you value her that she is willing to do this for you. And if she decides to shave/trim, it's okay if you show some disappointment but don't get mad on her for doing it. Remember: it takes time, and she needs to get used to the idea of having a bush. It's her decision to grow it. I'm sure that if the relationship between the two of you is serious, and she knows how much it means to you, she wants to give it at least a try.

[Asker]

You are awesome! Thank you so much for your valuable input and advice. It’s very encouraging to hear how it turned out for you and your girlfriend. I’m happy for you and her. Thank you again

[Barry88]

Good luck! Feel free to send me a message in case you have further questions or if you need any more advice. ;)

[Asker]

I will, thank you so much :)

[Red_Arrow]

Have you opened your mouth and said anything, or are you just expecting her to read your mind. In the end it is still up to her.

[B_nash]

I shave as well and I’m completely hairless. If he mention this to me I don’t mind deciding another preference. I’m just use to it and don’t wanna feel disgusting. I’ll be okay with hairy as long as it’s shaped beautifully.

[Asker]

Thank you for your input. You mentioned “feeling disgusting” which causes me to wonder if this is more a general mindset with younger women now days. Could this mindset be a block on her seeing herself as actually beautiful or sexy with a bush?

[B_nash]

Yes because I am use to seeing and feeling good about myself. Plus changes are scared but it’s worth seeing the results.

[Asker]

Thank you. So I guess it’s about something new being uncomfortable until you get used to it but you are still willing to try. That seems fair and understandable.

[B_nash]

Yes definitely

[Asker]

Thank you for your input and honesty. Greatly appreciated :)

[B_nash]

You’re welcome! Thanks for asking us!

[Red_Arrow]

A woman's vulva is such a beautiful thing it is almost a crime to hide it behind hair.

[Asker]

@Red_Arrow I agree in that a woman’s vulva is absolutely amazingly beautiful. I love to see it. For me, the hair complements it by signifying that she is sexually mature and also it’s a bit of a tease in that it hides the vulva until it’s revealed by parting the hair.

[Shorty763]

Tell her straight that you would like her to stop shaving, but if she still doesn't want to stop shaving then you gotta exept that she likes herself shaved.

[Alyssa11]

Just tell her you don’t mind.

[Asker]

Would it help if she could understand that not only do I not mind but that I find sexual maturity beautiful? Is there a better way or words to convey that?

[Alyssa11]

Just tell her :)

[0112358]

Well have you tried telling her you find hair sexy?

[red_knight]

She might be shaving for someone else buddy

[AlexDeLarge]

I used to ask the same of an ex but she never stopped. It's her body so as long as she's comfortable in it then we should be too

[Not-karen]

Just ask her not too. Tell her your prefer her with hair.

[Bartman1977]

Just tell her how much you love that hairy bush how much it turns you on..

[gandolph3]

Just tell her you like a hairy pussy

[Anonymous]

Appreciate her hairs... even leg hair

[Anonymous]

If it’s what she likes then just leave her be.