Would you date someone who is waiting for marriage to have sex?

[Anonymous]

Hi, would you date someone who is waiting to have sex before mariage for religious or personal choice?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. There other things you can do.
1. Dry humping
2. Masturbating to her
3. Mutual masturbation
4. Handjobs, fingerings, clit rubs
5. Blowjobs, eating pussy.
6. Thighjobs
7. Grinding. Where she grinds up against your exposed penis
8. God's loophole (anal). Big among Catholic school girls.

My last girlfriend was waiting for marriage. We tried a lot of things before having sex. It started with making out and her wanting to stay pure, then dry humping (love yoga pants), eventually my penis "slipped" out and I came all over her favourite yoga pants, she didn't talk to me for a week.
So eventually I convinced her just to let me jerk off to her, then jerk off to her topless except for a bra, then just wearing lingerie of a bathing suit, then she decided to let me jerk off to her exposed breasts, then her ass, then her fully naked.
We progressed then to mutual masturbation after eventually she started touching herself as I jerked off.
Eventually she felt brave enough to touch my penis and give me handjobs. After talking to her friends and watching some porn alone she surprised me with a blowjob.
Then we progressed to thighjobs, which is putting the penis between her thighs and thrusting, you can do this from the front or behind and you can run her clit with your penis thrusts if you postion right.
When her parents weren't home we tried grinding up against each other with her naked except for a tiny thong, baby oil works well with this. She would rub her vagina up and down my shaft until I came with nothing but a thong between her vagina and my penis. You can do this missionary or doggy style.
She again was talking with her friends and decided to try "Gods loophole". We did this, she didn't like it at first and cried in pain as I thrust until orgasm, I remember she had trouble sitting in church the next day.
One time while grinding with her in missionary postion her thong got pushed to the side by my thrusting penis and I penetrated her as I was about orgasm, she cried out for me to stop but I kept thrusting. That was how dhd lost her virginity. She was pissed for a week but I talked her around and we started to have full sex from them on and she loved it.

[MMM31]

So you already had sex - according to me and other people.

[rjroy3]

When I was 19-20. Ever since 21 na.

Because I'm not celibate and dating a girl exclusively who will not have sex before marriage is her deciding that I'M going to be celibate.

Totally understand that's not how girls look at it when they make that decision. But that's effectively what you're doing. So unless she is okay with me sleeping with other women still.

While she reserves herself for me till marriage. Then sure I could do that. But I'm not giving up sex for one girl, for the prize of one day having sex again. It's just idiotic to me.

[GrimmGothBabe]

I think personally waiting is difficult to base a marriage without sex. Not because sex is super important but because the dynamics of it. You might not have a good sexual chemistry which can lead to future problems. If your having bad sex and can't find a solution people are more likely to cheat or become depressed or resent eachother. If you want kids there maybe some real bad problems if your sexual chemistry makes it difficult to achieve all the necessary things to create a child or you may have infertility. The stress of not having sexual chemistry can cause outbursts of anger or frustration causing fights and divorce. I'm not saying its impossible to wait for marriage but I'm also saying its something to consider and sure there are some people who can be married and never have sex but it comes down to the things you think are important. I personally want to know how EVERYTHING between me and a partner work before I commit to marriage because its a big decision. Sex is one of those variables you have to know to choose the right fit in a life partner.

I have had relationships where I have waited for an extended amount of time before sex i. e. one time a year before sex and here is the thing it seemed perfect in a few of them but after sex they blew up because of incompatability in different ways each time. Also as a girl its hard to find guys who will wait and as a dude a lot of women I know find it creepy when guys wait. I dunno why but that's what I hear from other women.

[guesswhoseback]

You have a good point. But still divorce rates and infidelity are sky high in modern times. Most people have sex before marriage. What happened? It’s complex.

[SnowyOwl]

For sure (:

If I like someone enough to want to date and eventually marry, waiting for sex is not a deal breaker at all.

I think its one of the lesser things to worry about tbh, because we are all human, thus we are all able to engage in that kind of activity.

Now, there are more important things to worry about like life goals, and lifestyle compatibility.

A guy who wants to wait... I wonder if ill ever come across one, hahaha. That would be so sweet <3 Actually I have met some guys like that, they were religious. And honestly, I would have dated them. Such amazing people, incredible deep conversations. Sex is definitely not the only way to get entertained, hahahaha.

Talking about the nature of this universe however... hmmm, now that is sensual.

I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of people disagree though. Im dont usually comply with the collective trends of thought.

[zeitgeist057]

That's fine, but I would not be exclusively dating that person. If she doesn't want to take the car out of the garage, or even touch or think about it, that's fine, but then she shouldn't mind if someone else wants to drive it. That would just be ridiculously selfish and illogical. Gotta keep those gears oiled.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

No.
To me, a healthy and compatible sex life are necessary. And as someone with kinks and knowledge of exactly what I enjoy during sex, I feel like it'd be unfair not to explore and determine compatibility before marriage.

It'd suck if I married someone only to find they weren't able to be a dom (me) I could trust or that they felt uncomfortable with it. It'd be a short-lived marriage, and a waste of both of our time.

Someone who saves themselves for marriage is fundamentally incompatible with me. And it'd be unfair for them if I married them, too.

[thegirlfromthething]

If it’s for religious reasons I probably wouldn’t because someone that devout would not be compatible with me. But for other reasons I would strongly consider it.

[N192K001]

Yes, why wouldn't I look for someone who shares the same/similar moral-standard?

[Knighted2170]

I can't say it would be easy.

But if you have that strong connection it wouldn't really be a problem. You wouldn't hold it against them either.

Sex is a physical expression of how you feel towards someone. Okay, bad analogy for those who are into BDSM with their partners. But, hopefully you see my point.

Sex isn't a requirement on my part. Yes, it's nice. It's just not a determining factor for me.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

If I was willing to date at all and also not asexual, this would be ideal.

[shy_am_I]

Oh yes in a heartbeat I would regardless of his reason for waiting.

[AlienParasite]

No. I need to be sure of certain things before committing to a person for the rest of my life. Sexual compability is one of them. If a person see this differently we are not meant to be together and dating would be a waste of time for both of us.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea long as we married in like 2 years or less

[Lliam]

No.
1) I don't date religious people. Spirituality is fine, but no religions, holy books or gods.
2) I wouldn't want to make the supreme commitment of marriage only to discover that my partner had sexual hang ups. I want to know that we are sexually compatible.

[Psychoanalytical]

Yes, that's a good sign about her, she is a loyal person. A woman of standards.

I believe that sexual preferences and compatibility can be discussed honestly before marriage without the need to "try" things.

Some men use the "compatibility test" excuse to fulfil their sexual pleasure off you then find some other woman to conduct the same "test" on her. These are players but sadly many women don't get it, they fall in that trap.

A good man will value and respect your choices. A good man won't marry you for sex, but for who you are as a person.

[hahahmm]

1. I know of many cases where a woman pretends to be all about waiting when she's talking to a guy who is a good catch but she's letting unemployed Chad, wannabe gangster Tyronne, and Billy Bob the biker gang member bang her every day of the week. So I'd have to have very, very good reason to believe she's not doing that to even consider it. 2. Is she marriage material? 3. Is she signing that pre-nup today? 4. Do I want to get married?

Lot of questions that would need to have a "yes!"

[TruthBringer]

Ofcourse there are going to be pink dislikes. Because how dare you have standards!

[hahahmm]

@TruthBringer Exactly.

[docdetective]

Yep! I’ll only date someone who is willing to wait.

[GoodEnoughThen]

Yes, as long as we are getting married in three days...

[Imcmullan]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[fireheart105]

I would like someone who's making the same choice as me yes

[lightbulb27]

yes, but I can tell you that can go bad if it uncovers incompatibilities and other emotional issues. I've seen marriages go into incredible suffering and/or divorce related to that. so it's a double edged sword and only you can decide how to limit risks and work through it successfully. you'd think life is so simple... it just isn't because world so damaged.

[bulltaker]

And that is why you should live together for at least a year before getting married, gives it time for both to see the other one's real side.

[lightbulb27]

Clarification: I would respect the woman, thats most important to honor her emotions else there is no relationship. And I'm only talking in a committed relationship. I can say from personal experience, especially as one gets older or experienced, this is really hard and not healthy to go long period of time without this. It is an essential part of the relationship bond, I assume for all as well. Within this are additional compatabilities that are essential to work out and at the moment, I don't know how else to work them out for it is deep intimacy... which exposes all sorts of other emotions. And thus, there is risk in postponement to some magical day. I'm more on the side of make commitment, honor the woman and her emotions, and let nature take it's flow. I see no way to mitigate all risks and some things just have to be explored and worked out as you both evolve. It's equally unhealthy to "buy and try and discard" which seems too often in the current generation thinking. An older couple I met (80's) showed how that generation thought differently. They GOT MARRIED... not a relationship. Then they worked things out. That's that!

[godfatherfan]

If I was younger, no way. Having been with my exwife 25 years, I can say without question it would be one of the worst mistakes you can make in your life. You cannot learn sexual compatibility. Don't find out after you are married that you both are into different things. Or there is something sexually different that you cannot get past. The time to find all that out is before the marriage. There are things you just won't even know you like or don't like until you try them or get more sexually active.

[Berethor]

I think so, but only if a the girl was sticking to that principle for all her life.

[Bratsondanielle]

Nope. I like to drive the car before I buy it.

[modelUN242]

I am as well so it's a must.