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Why do people feel the need to express that they just had sex with so and so?

It's like... why are you telling me this? What does you smashing Jeff last weekend have anything to do with our relationship as friends? In the back of my head I can't help but wonder if they expect people to say "congratulations" or "that's so rad" or "my man/women" and be fist bumped with?

Maybe I am just a boomer but I view that sex is a very private and intimate thing.. why announce it to the world?
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  • I still can never unhear this one way conversation I had at the gym with a friend years ago. The two of us and her boyfriend all knew each other from high school, but I hadn't seen her for a while because we were both busy with college and work. So one day, I invited her to work out with me at the campus gym. We get on side by side treadmills where literally ANYONE could hear this conversation, and she proceeds to tell me in graphic detail what they did in bed the previous night. I'm pretty sure the people next to us were giving us weird looks.

    I hadn't seen her in months and THIS is what she started out my workout and our conversation with. We had never talked about sex in any way shape or form prior to this, there was nothing about me that would even remotely suggest I should have been the sounding board for that conversation so with it becoming abundantly clear she wasn't going to end this conversation on her own, I suddenly faked a leg cramp and went to the bathroom to get away, told her I wasn't feeling well when I came back, and just left, and came back later so I could workout. I just never understood why she wanted to overshare like that.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Tbh I like hearing stories like that. I'm interested in other's experience, like how it went, what they tried and stuff. And people actually tend to tell me a lot about their sex life, even though I never ask them directly about it or talk about such topics cause I think asking someone about it is pretty rude and disrespectful but I don't really need to ask lol 😀
    If you don't like being told such stories, just stop them and say, I'm sorry but I feel uncomfortable when I hear about it. That's all

Most Helpful Guys

  • Usually its a matter of 'peer prestige' and hierarchical...
    if the 'gold standard' is reproductive 'allure' then they've proven,
    THEIR DNA could... and would have... moved forward to yet another generation.

    Males are in essence, DNA syringes; females Nature's incubators of recombinant DNA.
    ALL else, is a matter of negotiation and/or subterfuge. ~ ;)

  • They're really happy and they want to share the good news with a friend. chances are if they're sharing that news with you then that means that they like you a lot but not in the type of way that would encourage them to have that type of activity with you but enough that they still feel comfortable sharing that information with you.

    • I should also mention that a person might keep that kind of information to themselves, if they interpret bragging rights and male locker room conversation about girls they had physical intimacy with who are famous performers or centerfolds to be inconsiderate or inappropriate conversation topics. When asked if I wanted a BJ from a famous p*** star about 8 years ago at a daily replace I was working at as part of the promotion for emerging of the two companies, I respectfully declined and when the actress looked like she might have been hurt by the rejection I pulled her side and clarified that I thought it would be just respectful to objectify her that way but that really thought she was cute. How surprised to find out that she felt the same way because we slid into the bathroom when no one was looking and she gave me one anyway. We requested that no one mention anything when they saw us coming out of the bathroom together. I think she's retired now, but a lot of people still probably are familiar with her work. They would probably be surprised to find out that she's actually a very shy girl, though you wouldn't know it in her movies.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Friends tell each other what they’ve been up to, especially if they’re excited about it, and sex is exciting to them. And telling a friend something is hardly announcing it to the world.

  • Last week a friend told me that she just slept with someone. I just went along with it. I figured that’s just her way connecting with her female friends. It’s a new friendship so I was a little surprised she admitted that so soon. I think she’s in her early 20s so it’s still very new. I remember being more open about that stuff years ago. If you don’t feel comfortable with that topic maybe steer the conversation in another direction.

  • I blame “Akon and the lonely island”!!!

  • Okay boomer

    • Okay karen

    • Haha fair, but genuinely, I talk to my friends about who I sleep with, it just sparks conversation. Chances are it was just something that happened in their life and they wanted to share to get a conversation going... that or they want to brag about how hot the person they're getting with is

    • She is a boomer lmao

  • No idea its personal and gross. Why would i care if someones had sex its none interested to me at all. I'd assume they don't get it very often if they felt the need to tell others

  • Cause it’s fun.

  • Yes they're excited about it and want to share their accomplishment :P. Maybe they also think they can bond with you over it or something I don't know.

  • These people are insecure, and feel the need to brag in front of as many people as possible in order to gain their approval and admiration. It's about feelings of inadequacy, and you'll often observe similar behaviour from men who are really short (ex. they'll try to act "tough" with men who are much taller). They're just pathetic losers, don't worry about them.

  • I just had sex with my pillow. Later virgins 😎

    • Very epic gamer.

  • Because it's like any other fun thing you do and can't wait to brag about how much fun you had

    • Especially when woman my age are old as fuck I deserve a hot sexy 18 year old lol

  • Like they have something to prove :/

  • I agree with your way of thinking that some things are better left unsaid. If your friends give you details about who they are having sex with, including intimate details, they may be the type to gossip about you.

  • It’s an accomplishment if they’re hot. Everyone boasts about accomplishments every now and then.

  • Immaturity. Plain and simple.

    • Oh really, You do not know nothing! Woman my age turn into Karen and are boring. So I cheat and have sex with hot young sexy year olds on tender.

    • @Helloyouare92 Thanks for letting me know I know everything! That is the nicest thing I've heard in a long time.

    • Oh really u like young woman too?

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  • I don't think that's something I've ever done. Not from shyness but it never occurred to me to advertise that sort of thing. Perhaps it's because I started having sex fairly young and never had any need to brag about something I never viewed as a conquest but a mutually enjoyed bit of intimacy

  • Right? I was wondering that myself some time. But people probably don't care seeing how they're all over social media and post their lunch they had on instagram.

    I mean yeah, bedding women is not easy and can be viewed as success. But really, there is no need to announce that. It's a private matter. Normal rich folks don't go around and tell people "I am rich and I have tons of money" because that will just attract users, freeloaders, fake friends and gold diggers.

  • I still say it’s a status thing. Welcome to jr high.

  • they have nothing else to brag

  • Happy, proud..

  • Insecurity, no self-worth, nothing better to brag about, overall pathetic

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