Is it bad that I get turned on just from wrestling with a woman?

blondfrog Master

in my ji-jitsu class there is a few ladies there that join our guy class. This one woman I grappled with when I was grappling with her I got turned on. I had to quickly submit her cause had it went on longer I would have to have rolled with her longer. Increasing my chances of getting a boner. She had a big donga donga too.

You did the right thing to submit her quickly so you don't get a boner and embarrass yourself in class

Vote A

Well then don't wrestle with her next time stupid.

Vote B

If you were a real man you would have not resisted your boner and show it to the whole class so everyone can avoid you you pervert.

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someginger Yoda
+1 y
Yeah i had a similar worry during a BJJ class once, just the thought of, oh what if i get a boner. That thought quickly left after she nearly got me in a rear naked.

Tbh not sure what to do about it, try not to think of sexy things or ask on the BJJ sub reddit
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- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Their bodies are so nice and soft though. She was a bigger girl too but so much weaker than me. She had such nice soft features too. Seriously she had those big black yoga pants and big nice ass. It was hard too.
- someginger
  +1 y
  Yeah dude i would say just try and get those thoughts out of your head and try to separate sexual feelings from training. Or just don't roll with women, since getting a boner is kind of hard to hide in many positions in bjj
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Yeah I won't roll with them anymore. I only did because she asked me to. There is this other woman too in class and she is also really really hot.
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- someginger
  +1 y
  Lol tbh i would be worried about dating girls from BJJ, bc if your having sex they might but you in a kimura for a laugh
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Lol I was thinking about letting her put me in a triangle choke but knew that would have def given me a boner lol. I mean I wouldn't turn the idea down although I do think dating a co-worker is almost always a bad idea.

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Sevenpointfive Master
+1 y
i would've pressed it hard into her so she would submit and fuck you in front of the class
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- blondfrog
  +1 y
  I didn't get a boner but almost did lol.
- Sevenpointfive
  +1 y
  that happened to me almost in a yoga class. i think the girl got upset that i suppressed my boner
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  That's tragic. If only they let you wrestle in Yoga class.
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- Sevenpointfive
  +1 y
  we did a pose that required to people and my dick was pressed up against her vagina and ass. i actually felt like i sexually assaulted her in a way
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Wow so now do you go to Yoga every day?
- Sevenpointfive
  +1 y
  it was in college so no it was only a class, but i recommend it to any guy. great place to meet girls

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summiter Master
+1 y
You are a normal guy.
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GoodGuyBreakingBad Master
+1 y
No, it's not bad you get turned on by wrestling with women.
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havingfun101 Explorer
+1 y
Goddamn beta males. They're just women. smh.
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- someginger
  +1 y
  Eh dude it's not about if there women its about not getting hard and making a women uncomfortable when she's trying to learn a martial art. by the way the only people who call other men betas are betas
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  'I can control my dick, my brain, my emotions or how I make women feel... but you're a beta male!" -- U
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  *can't
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- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Using that logic there are women who get turned on by that sort of thing too. Plus call me whatever you want.
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  Yes, and it's a choice unless they being forced into it, physically. You're weak because your mind is weak.
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Well then show me your ways and take me under your wing lol.
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  I already did.
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  So how do I become more mentally strong like you?
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  Jesus fKing christ, realizing that she wasn't putting out on a subconscious level requires more metacognition than your entire bloodline is capable of, let alone one iteration. You're a low testosterone beta and that's all you ever will be.
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  If I was beta then why would I train in martial arts? That doesn't sound very beta to me. Also since when were you Greek?
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  What do you mean putting out? We were wrestling each other I never once asked her out on a date lol.
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  "Alphas take martial arts, bro" "no one mentioned it, but how are you Greek, huh?"
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Can you even read what I typed lol?
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  "Lol, relational aggression, lol!" "It's not like I'd ask her out before humping her leg; I'm not a courageous or self controlled person, lol"
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Yeah I had to mention that to you cause clearly you didn't read what I typed originally. I mentioned that in the description and its in the question. Seems like you are not admitting defeat to an argument not cause you are stupid per say but because you didn't care to read. You were so blinded by rage that you missed the whole question and just read what you wanted to see.
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  You seem really affixed on this whole alpha and beta thing lol.
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  It's useful for describing matarchial males via juxtaposition; next you'll probably say: what's a matarchial male, a fixation?
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Yep your right I've never heard of those words lol. Seriously though its like c'mon man you didn't read half of what I typed and it shows. If your gonna argue about something at least to read the whole passage. You even said "how are you Greek" first of all that's not what I said at all. I asked you are you Greek sarcastically.
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  I didn't say you haven't head the, I'm implying that you are jumping to conclusions. I can read, dummy. I know, I was hyperbolically paraphrasing to illustrate your abject ridiculousness. Sarcasm is for girls.
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  I doubt that. You got caught for not reading what I said in the beginning. What you most likely did is just answer my question off the live feed and missed the whole description. Had you actually read what I originally said in my question there is no way you would have answered the way you would with your first reply. Unless you are a borderline idiot.
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  Me: valid observation of a lack of self control. U: whoa, whoa, whoa, you're not reading what I write, brooooo! Yeah, yeah, you're caught now, lol!
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  I mean I even quoted the parts where you didn't listen in the replies cause I know for a fact you stopped reading. All I can say is you must be a massive narcissist to heave been acting all tough and even sharing that stupid boring story of you being ganged and beating up those guys. That one guy made some comment about being able to beat you up and you got up and you got all defensive about how tough you are lol. All of a sudden you are somehow tougher than me just because you said so lol. Plus the way you are acting I am surprised you are 33.
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  @blondfrog You're are simple that you can't fathom that I read your little three sentence post and commented, so you come up with convoluted reasons to invalidate simple matters. Like when you said this: "What do you mean putting out? We were wrestling each other I never once asked her out on a *date* lol." ... In response to this, totally misunderstanding the statements made: "Jesus fKing christ, realizing that she *wasn't* putting out on a subconscious level requires more metacognition than your entire bloodline is capable of, let alone one iteration. You're a low testosterone beta and that's all you ever will be." ... I didn't mention asking her out at that point, but that would've been a much more masculine thing to do.
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  I never once once expected her to put out. Jesus you are fucking dumb dude. You clearly don't understand anything about martial arts. I didn't' want to ask her out. Just cause you find someone attractive doesn't mean you want to be in a relationship with them. That's also what happens when you exercise your libido increases. Your statement you just rebought up again that you weren't' following the context of the subject and just wanted to scream the words beta like a whore lol.
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  @blondfrog See? Your accusations of a lack of comprehension are psychological projection. I said "realizing that she wasn't putting out in a subconscious level" implying that you weren't expecting anything consciously or reading the situation at all. 🤣
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Quit fucking replying to me. You wouldn't constantly argue with me and be getting the last word if you thought you won.
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  Hahahaha!
SuccessfulHornDog Master
+1 y

A girl once called me a sexy piece of shit and then used judo to subdue me and sit on my face. We now call that our first date
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- havingfun101
  +1 y
  Again, goddamn beta males, smh.
- SuccessfulHornDog
  +1 y
  @havingfun101 Don't make me beat your bald ass cracker
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  Hahahaha! Get mad, fatty!
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- SuccessfulHornDog
  +1 y
  @havingfun101 ok Saddlebags
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  I'm shredded, ya wimpy simp.
- SuccessfulHornDog
  +1 y
  @havingfun101 lol, I'm not shredded. I am just a strong beast. Looking cut doesn't win fights mr metro
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  Look, fatty, I've been jumped by armed and unarmed men over a dozen times just as an adult and I always win. Your face sitting comment alluded to your inner beta male simpering personality.
- SuccessfulHornDog
  +1 y
  @havingfun101 I would happily fight you and sit on your face to prove that you will serve your master, me
- havingfun101
  +1 y
  When the beta tries inviting you into his homoerotic fantasies?
- SuccessfulHornDog
  +1 y
  @havingfun101 36 hours? It took you 36 hours to come back with that? What were you doing during that time, other than jerking off to the idea?
Anonymous
+1 y
Many men get turned in by this.
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Anonymous
+1 y
In all honesty I arrive half an hour earlier and purge such thoughts so I don't embarrass myself. If you have questions let me know.
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- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Do jack off before I go?
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  Sure but distract yourself by focusing on something specific.
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  I mean they have a bathroom I could just fap there right? It was kind of hart to cause she was wearing sexy clothing.
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- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  How enthusiastic are you about Jiu Jitsu?
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Yes I am. I just find it hard to do it with women.
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  Do you ever become hyper focused on anything like video games where you let your instincts guide you?
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  Wow its like you know me I am a huge video game nerd. I am a weird hybrid of nerd/jock I guess you could say in the sense that I exercise.
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  There's a state of mind that very few people are unable to achieve. If you can learn to turn off your thoughts and focus on the task at hand without getting distracted you can easily be more capable of controlling yourself.
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  I'll keep that in mind, thanks.
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  A simple way to obtain this is before going to bed focus on a single item in your room just stare at it don't think about anything just look at it. And most importantly breath if you control your breath you can control your heart rate and I think you know where this is going lol
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  So next time I roll with her just think of those things? It's kind of hart do with such a contact sport.
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  No the goal is to not think at all boners are heavily induced through neural networks but if you stop the neural networks from working you stop the boners. Also breathing, if you can control it effectively you control your blood flow. Both are necessary for controlling yourself down there.
- blondfrog
  +1 y
  I'll try that but she is really hot lol.