We all know how addictive substances are. Dopamine, Oxytocin and Serotonin are extremely addictive also. We all want that first high again.
@hellionthesagerebornI agree with you, but I just really needed to respectfully comment on the "your" and "you're" thing. And "their" and "there." You often make good points, but the grammatical mistakes kill me, man!
@MCheetah Grammer has never been my strong suit (strange considering how much reading I do, I should be good at it). However I will give you the same response I give every one else for it, if piss poor spelling and grammer was good enough for Hemingway, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Jane Austen, Shakespear, and agatha Christie, its good enough for me. Who am I to argue with the most famous writers in history (all notorious for being poor spellers and terrible with grammer).
@MCheetah To be fair Shakespear was writting before proper spelling ever existed (since that wouldn't come about until the printing press became widespread (also fun fact, how words are spelled is exactly how they use to be pronounced historically speaking)), but he did make up words all the time so I included him as well.
''out all of the partners can NOT get jealous'' never happens;''all partners should be seen as EQUALS to themselves and to each other'', tlc tried to promote a couple of one woman and 5 man, after the show ended, the woman got pregnant, and one of the husbands killed or raped ( dont remember which atrocity it was ) the newborn baby, bc everyone knew who real father was, and, surprise surprise, was from the man that the woman used to hang out the most
therefor, her favourite husband
@AFellowWeeb He didn't kill the baby, he did abuse the baby (physically not sexually) and he was her "primary" boyfriend, the first one who was clearly replaced and he was to weak willed to cut her off. Otherwise yeah, you are correct. Only people who have no experience with relationships really think its a good idea, what little data we have on the subject shows it ends poorly for everyone.
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Humans are not naturally monogamous, according to scientists. It is not an immature or millennial thing. Especially evolutionary biologists have written a lot books in this area. They say that monogamy is something which was created by the society.
Mammals and humans also don't naturally "ask for consent" or wipe their behinds, either. There's a lot of things we don't "naturally" do, but there's a reason society is the way it is, and we're not all still cavemen raping each other and killing rival males with rocks to the back of the head.
In nature, animals kill each other for survival. Is that the goal to which we should strive? Because it's "normal" according to some "scientist" (person with a degree as well as a political agenda?)Why is it that liberals/leftists like to say that humans should act like their primitive ancestors when the result would be immorality but they say that we should rise above all of that when they are encouraging us to be "better" people (by their leftist standards?)
@OlderAndWiser You do realize that humans are one of the few species who kill each other? Most animals don't kill their own species. Humans do. There is less violence now than before (medieval), but still high enough. www.nationalgeographic.com/.../
I was not referring to animals killing others of their own species but killing members of other species. I realize that was not clear in what I wrote.
What makes it worse is that it's SO sexist. Wouldn't be so bad if it was a two way street. What's good for the goose is good for the gander!
Those old religions were designed by men to preserve the patriarchy. They need to change or die out.
@wagsingle I partly agree with you. I'm a Christian myself and if I ever get married, I would be loyal to her to death. Not only I will be loyal physically but also mentally and in heart. She will be the one and the only. I would say my conversion to Christianity was a main reason I have this mentality now. Cheers.
Awesome! I will take a look :)
I wouldn't say that. As long as everyone involved is happy, then it as all good.
People aren't happy in polygamous relationships. It's a cesspit of jealousy, neglect and bitterness, we aren't meant for messing around with multiple people.
Thats the thing. Science says otherwise. Scientists say humans are not made for monogamy, and monogamy is created by the society. That polyamory is more natural.
To say that science says otherwise is misleading. Like in many subjects science doesn't have a uniform consensus on this matter. www.irishtimes.com/.../...-or-polygamous-1.3643373
And no, there are well documented flaws and cons with polygamy.
''As long as everyone involved is happy'' a man killed ''his'' child, bc it was the child of one of the other guys, i dont record if he actually killed or raped a newborn baby out of jelously, either way, no, the ones that are sharing, are never actually happy, unless they are all bi and fuck each other
''Male primates may have become monogamous to protect their offspring from being killed by rival males, a new study finds'' - google search ''why some animals are monogomous'', that apeared, didn't dove too much into it tho
and yes, some animals are actually monogamous
You mean pros and cons with polygamy? The pros and cons are well documented yes. Like you said there is a lot of works which doesn't support polygamy and a lot of work which does support it.
@AFellowWeeb Yes only 5 percent are monogamous among animals.
Yeah, and bc of one article u found, dismisses everything we know, yeah, its so natural, thats why when u get cheated on, u feel bad, hell, even cheaters feel bad when they get cheated on, why? bc we are rational animals, i know, we may not look like it, but we are. If it was THAT much natural, no one would feel betrayed neither experience trust issues, animals, do not experience this, they act as instinc, WE DON'T, this is why people feel bad when they get betrayed, or jealous, even people that partake in polygamous relationships, always feel jealous deep down. Cuckolding, for exemple, its degrading, if u are willing to humiliate the ones u love, what would u do to the ones u dont even like? we are monogamous for nature now, bc there is no need for polygamy, no animal in the animal kingdom needs humans to survive ( as food ) and we are over 7 billion around all world, we are the ones who put other animals into extinction, not them to us, so no, we are not polygamous anymore
I am so tired of this " you found just one article, science is complicated"-nonsense. You asked me for a source, I gave you one. Do you want me to give everything done In this field? People wanna believe in the science that benefits their believe system as it seems. If you don't believe that polygamy is natural. fine your opinion. Anyone is entitled to their opinion, freedom of speech. But to say that it is wrong for everyone, because you personally wouldn't be in a polyamorous relationship, is ridiculous and ignorant! Just because you are not gay og trans, doesn't mean there are no gay or trans in this world.
ho, so no arguments about what i said? guess i won, if your only argument is ''mind your own business'', yeah, doesn't count
@AFellowWeeb Won? Are you a child? I don't believe us humans are polyamorous either. You just writing an essay for no reason. I just don't believe that polyamorous is wrong like you do. As long as everyone involved is happy in that relationship, who are you to say that it is wrong? You don't get to decide how other people should live.
'' As long as everyone involved is happy in that relationship'' never happens
Psychology Today is just a liberal rag with an agenda.
I personally couldn't be in a polyamorous relationship. can't even do Casual Sex. But no judgement here. Whatever makes people happy.
No, more than two people involved in a relationship. Not cheating.
It’s not for me and I dont dothreesomes thats lesbianism is that what you’re into?
I wouldn't. I was just curious about polyamory, since scientists say that monogamy is not natural for us humans.
I’m glad you’re not. You’re a good girl come private message me
Smart move especially with too guys
I'm a Scorpio too and I 100% agree with you.
Scientists say otherwise.
No, that's what scientists said. They said the average human gets bored with their partner after 12 years
Sorry was about to write this for someone else. I agree with you.
Oh okay. NP :)
I don't know if it is natural. I wouldn't be in a polyamorous relationship. However, in science world it is well known that monogamy is not natural for humans. But I don't know if I agree with that statement.
I know some poly people, and what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Or one or both are bi, so the third person is loved by both of them.
@wagsingle I'm all for sexual freedom. As long as everyone consents.