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What do you think about polyamory?

What do you think about polyamory?
Is it natural? or is it more natural to be monogamous?
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  • More 'natural'... a tricky turn of phrase.

    'Nature's paradigm IS "whatever perpetuates the species AT THAT MOMENT" ... usually espousing a 'shotgun' approach... by 'default', motivating human primates to engage in opportune copulation, favoring 'quantity' over 'quality' of pairings and expecting circumstantial lethal environmental risks to 'sort out the DUMB ones'.

    Each copulation ejaculates potentially THOUSANDS of Spermatozoa but ONLY ONE usually fertilizes an Ovum (egg). 'Blind' genetic 'overkill'.

    By self-interest and intergenerational observation experience, promotion of ONE'S OWN heritage DNA, led to a continuing ongoing 'paired' contribution (family) to the well-being of One's offspring and unambiguous assignation of inheritance (wealth). BUT... the fewer acknowledge heirs, the greater resources to be divided over fewer mouths!

    Generally, only the strong and/or cunning survive to reproductive age, which anecdotally has been as young as age 5! (Lina Medina was born on September 27th, 1933 in Ticrapo, Peru)

    A pragmatic controlled scientific study of over 800 randomized volunteer males, using a device measuring involuntary male penile tumescent arousal found upward of 88% of males DO innately and intuitively respond to even pre-teen female erotic images, regardless of those male's vehement overt denials. "... Who's yah Daddy?"

    Gary Puckett's pop ballad "Young Girl, get outa mah Mind" and a generation later Sting's "Don't Stand So Close To Me"

    While Polymoury (more than one female partner) and Polyandry (more than one male intimate companion) are 'of the moment'... anecdotal evidence shown 'birth control 'apathy' and 'hit & run' Playahs results in copious FEMALE single parent households. "But Baby, ... I can'tz FEEL yah when I wearz a condom!"

    Neuro-psychologists have proven, Nature's insidious evolution suppresses and 'dumbs down' the human brain's ability to value the 'long term consequences' of convenient copulation when besotted by high arousal stimuli. Dopamine, Serotonin and Oxytocin course through the psyche; and they ARE 'addictive'.

    • We all know how addictive substances are. Dopamine, Oxytocin and Serotonin are extremely addictive also. We all want that first high again.

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  • Their is no such thing. Polyamory is what its called when your to weak to have a real relationship. Love and relationships require sacrifice (like everything else in life you have to work to earn it whether that is relationships, money, or a better world it all requires work), polyamory is an attempt to circumvent that work. They don't want to make sacrifice, they don't want to communicate with their partners, they don't want to have to give up anything so they claim to be polyamorus in order to get the best of both worlds. This is also why these relationships tend to not last, because their is nothing binding the person to each other (investment bias, the more we invest in something the more we see value in it, with polyamory we don't invest in each person as much and thus see the relationships as less valuable and when things go wrong instead of addressing the problem they can go to the other person to get what they want thus degrading the relationship with the other person faster).

    Sex is for pair bonding based upon studies done, it creates a sense of intimacy and connectedness with that person, the more you spread that out the less connected to any one person you become (which has been shown to be the case with the many different studies for promiscuity and casual sex (those who partake in it more are far more likely to cheat, divorce, be unhappy in long term relationships, more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression, be disatisfied with sex etc. etc. Their is no reason to presume that this doesn't also apply to open relationships and "polyamory" as its effectively the same thing.).

    We are not built for it no matter how much we may want to be (no different then junk food, we may want to believe that we can eat what ever we want without consequences but that is far from the truth and ignoring reality will only make you unhealthy in the long run).

    • @hellionthesagereborn I agree with you, but I just really needed to respectfully comment on the "your" and "you're" thing. And "their" and "there." You often make good points, but the grammatical mistakes kill me, man!

    • @MCheetah Grammer has never been my strong suit (strange considering how much reading I do, I should be good at it). However I will give you the same response I give every one else for it, if piss poor spelling and grammer was good enough for Hemingway, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Jane Austen, Shakespear, and agatha Christie, its good enough for me. Who am I to argue with the most famous writers in history (all notorious for being poor spellers and terrible with grammer).

    • @MCheetah To be fair Shakespear was writting before proper spelling ever existed (since that wouldn't come about until the printing press became widespread (also fun fact, how words are spelled is exactly how they use to be pronounced historically speaking)), but he did make up words all the time so I included him as well.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Both monogamy and polyamory are natural. Both are moral if both people in the relationship consent to the boundaries of the relationship. Both are based heavily on culture and genetics. People have lived happily with either system for thousands of years, but most people gravitate towards multiple mates in a lifetime meaning we are not a truly monogamous species. Both are excellent survival tactics, which is why both have survived in our species. Personally, I'm all for having multiple male mates who only produce children with me. More resources to go around, and natural birth control since one woman can only have so many children. In the end, the children will be much wealthier than with any other system. And, yes, you can have an extremely deep and intimate relationship with more than one person at a time just like you can deeply love more than one relative or child at a time. Love is only limited by the individual's abilities.

    So, people should do whatever floats their boat as long as they are not lying, cheating, oppressing, enslaving each other. Just love each other and make each other happy! Be yourself and find whoever lives to the same beat.

  • polyamory is a beautiful thing when it works. usually about 3-4 people, all loving and supporting each other. it is not the traditional route by any means. in these types of relationships communication is KEY. for a polygamy relationship to work out all of the partners can NOT get jealous, possessive, or closed off, all partners should be seen as EQUALS to themselves and to each other. you are sharing your life with multiple people and need to be able to communicate any doubts, fears, and any other emotion properly. its very hard to find partners that meet these requirements. it is looked down upon, but as long as no one is getting hurt it is perfectly acceptable!

    • Well said!

    • Same, opinion!!!

    • ''out all of the partners can NOT get jealous'' never happens; ''all partners should be seen as EQUALS to themselves and to each other'', tlc tried to promote a couple of one woman and 5 man, after the show ended, the woman got pregnant, and one of the husbands killed or raped ( dont remember which atrocity it was ) the newborn baby, bc everyone knew who real father was, and, surprise surprise, was from the man that the woman used to hang out the most

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  • Totally natural, given that polyamory given that all parties realize it is a bond all share and encourage for their partners. This includes having children as all in such relationships will share parental roles in some way or another

  • Nothing wrong with it if all are in agreement

  • Most of what I know came from books and particularly the Netflix show "You me her"...

    ... I think it's hard, but the show is fantastic. Very funny, not over the top dramatic, and delves into poliamory and trouples a lot.

    Just watch that and draw your own conclusions by talking to people in those situations in real life!

  • I just did a My Take about something similar. I live with my husband and our girlfriend

    • Awesome! I will take a look :)

  • God created man to be one man and one women, not multiples. When He directed Noah to put two of each animal on the ark, male and female He didn't say three of each. Poly is man's creation and it just takes threesomes to a higher level, which also was man's profaned idea of marriage between a man and a woman.

  • The fact that we are biologically inclined towards hating cheating, means that monogamy is how things are meant to be.

    I am originally from a Muslim country where a man is allowed to marry up to 4 wives. Even though it is approved by Islam, most Muslim women hate it and get bothered when their husbands marry again.

    So it has nothing to do with culture, it is biological.

    • What makes it worse is that it's SO sexist. Wouldn't be so bad if it was a two way street. What's good for the goose is good for the gander!

    • Those old religions were designed by men to preserve the patriarchy. They need to change or die out.

    • @wagsingle I partly agree with you. I'm a Christian myself and if I ever get married, I would be loyal to her to death. Not only I will be loyal physically but also mentally and in heart. She will be the one and the only. I would say my conversion to Christianity was a main reason I have this mentality now. Cheers.

  • we do this so I won't vote on it

  • I want to be THE most important person in my partner's life and I want her to be THE most important person in my life. Polyamory? I'll pass, thank you!

  • I think it's gross, disgusting, and for immature people. Whether that be the hedonistic Greeks thousands of years ago, or selfish narcissistic sh*tty modern-millennials too immature for an actual relationship, nowadays. (Also, most people in the world nowadays can barely handle one real relationship; what makes them think they can handle more than one ongoing "relationship" with another person.) I instantly lose respect for anyone immature and childish enough to pretend that they're in a "polyamorous relationship" because they're too lame to admit they can't handle being alone, but can't commit actual effort in being with one person, either.

    I'm not sure if monogamous is "natural," (whatever that even means or implies), but I know cucking is some very petty human bullsh*t, that's for sure.

    • Humans are not naturally monogamous, according to scientists. It is not an immature or millennial thing. Especially evolutionary biologists have written a lot books in this area. They say that monogamy is something which was created by the society.

    • Mammals and humans also don't naturally "ask for consent" or wipe their behinds, either. There's a lot of things we don't "naturally" do, but there's a reason society is the way it is, and we're not all still cavemen raping each other and killing rival males with rocks to the back of the head.

    • In nature, animals kill each other for survival. Is that the goal to which we should strive? Because it's "normal" according to some "scientist" (person with a degree as well as a political agenda?) Why is it that liberals/leftists like to say that humans should act like their primitive ancestors when the result would be immorality but they say that we should rise above all of that when they are encouraging us to be "better" people (by their leftist standards?)

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  • It's something I think could work for me but I don't think will work on most situations as most guys get jealous and aren't really very mature about this type of thing, they use it as an ego, macho aggressive dominant thing. Which is also incredibly fragile

  • Tried it once, it gives me the heeby Jeevies. Fine for some but not for me.

    I dont like the idea that I could potentially being ruining someone else's happiness and even if they say their fine, im suspicious they are lying.

    And on my side, im selfish, I dont want to share my love.

    It seems like a dreamlike fantasy, but its not, its a lot of second guessing "am I actually okay with this?" And "are they lying about being okay with this?"

  • I don't care, as I only want to be with one. When I am with her, she is my all, and everything, and I am totally focused on that love! What more do I need, than the wonderful woman I am with?

    • Beautiful.

  • I have no idea about whether or not it's "natural" -- but I could give a shit about it. If that's what people want to do, fuck it -- have at it.

  • I’ve thought about it, with two guys. But I also second guess it, what the outcome will be.

    • Smart move especially with too guys

  • Obviously traditionally we are supposed to love and be happy on a 1 2 1 relationship Polyamory Allows the bad. be in 1 person good in another and viceversa Neither is is a normal Both can fit different people It all depends on all the parties and what they are happy with x

  • Sounds good in theory, in practice is a mess.
    I've tried handling two women and they knew about each other, but it still ended in disaster.

  • I'm skeptical, but it's not really my deal so whatevs

  • For me, I prefer it to be with just me and one other person so mono but not the bad mono 😂😂😂😂😂

  • I would have my hands full with one person so it's not for me. I would rather try and understand that one person more and deepen my connection with them and try to learn from the experience. But I don't care what other people do whatever works for you, go for it.

  • I can't say if it's good for other people.
    All I can say is being a Scorpio I guess, I'm a greedy lover, I don't want to share, I'd feel a loss if intimacy and meaning in the relationship, but that's just me.

    • I'm a Scorpio too and I 100% agree with you.

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