What would make a teenager guy interested in being in a relationship with me?

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I’m 21 years old and I have two kids. I am single but not looking for guys way too young for me or even one year younger. This guy who lives in the same building keeps flirting all the time and he try to get my attention with anything! Even getting close to my twin! I honestly thought about going to his home and speak with his mom about it and how much it started to get uncomfortable for me. Then again I don’t want to case him any trouble so I started ignoring him.

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EricNeal90
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2 mo

I'm honestly not sure if this has been said yet even tho it probably has. My guess would be just from seeing your pictures alone that you are extremely beautiful and have obviously caught this kids attention. Teenage boys are driven a lot by looks and he is obviously very attracted to yours. Without knowing any other facts like for instance he could struggle with self esteem issues and maybe you are the pretty girl who was also nice to him when other girls his age haven't been you know? That being said, he has obviously crossed a line or boundary that is leaving you feeling uncomfortable. If you haven't already I would suggest not going straight to his mom but try talking to him and asking him why he is so into you. Maybe you can suggest he find someone closer to his age... Shoot, maybe even try giving him a harsh reality check and ask him if he's really ready to step up and help raise 2 kids and being the man and father figure in two children's lives. (Followed by all kinds of details as to what his life would look like and paint a picture that neither you nor him would come first in life because the kids always come first) No teenage boy is at all ready to even begin to process any of that lol but yeah, try talking to him first and also letting him know how he is making you uncomfortable and feel and explaining why it is that isn't alright. Best of luck to you tho, and Happy Thanksgiving to you and to your kids as well

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- Sakura-san
  
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  This is very helpful. Thank you so much and happy Thanksgiving to you
Anonymous

2 mo

How old is he exactly? I'm not sure if going to his mom would do any good (how many teenagers care or listen to their parents?)? Have you told him directly that you are absolutely not interested? I hope so before simply ignoring him (I ask because a lot of women don't do this, or will "hint" thinking that's enough for him to get the message, it's probably not). You can be direct but still friendly. But yes if you've done that, then ignore and avoid him as best you can. It will pass before long probably.

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- Sakura-san
  
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  I didn't talk to him because any person will sense if you are interested or not! Right?
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Not necessarily. Think of any guy you've been interested in, have you sometimes seen what you've wanted to see, not what was actually there? We all have. When you like someone, sometimes you'll convince yourself otherwise, or at least doubt what you might be hearing/seeing. And, we guys are direct, so that's what we respond to. If he thinks there is any hope at all, and he will because you haven't directly said you're not interested, he'll stay around and maybe keep trying. I would say something like this or similar, "I think that you might be interested in me and I'm flattered, but I want you to know that I'm not interested." - if he continues after that, restate that you are not interested, but be a little more firm with your tone and say "you are starting to make me uncomfortable, please stop". This should get the message across. In the extreme case in still continues, then threaten police action and/or going to him mom (depending on his age). But yeah, you need to be direct.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Also in regards to "sensing", even if you are just polite and talk to him (like you would with anyone else), he will see hope in that. As you might right if reversed. Like I say, when you like someone, you'll sometimes see what you want to see, and not what's actually there. And you might think, ok, well I've been ignoring him now, so that should do it right? All it does is create doubt. It doesn't tell him "I'm not interested, leave me alone"
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- Sakura-san
  
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  You are 100% right. I will take an action against it

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Emii_69 | 109 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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2 mo

I giggled when I read this because in my country, young boys are always chasing after women much older than 21. Are you sure he is interested in a relationship? Sounds like he is just lusting after you. You are very pretty...

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- Sakura-san
  
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  I like to say relationship because I don’t want to think about Inapprepaite things and there will not be anything from whatever in his mind. Thanks for the compliment
ThatQuietLass | 183 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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You should talk to his mum. It's inappropriate.

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Wedimir | 69 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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2 mo

Pimply youths think that they are the kings of sex. They harass adult women who are old enough to be their... grandmothers. There are many reasons for this - from promiscuity and weak will, to the lack of education on the part of a man in a single-parent family. A young man likes a Mature woman, she is experienced, she increases his self-esteem, and so on. but why should a woman need it? Yes, there are some ladies over 40 who hunt boys with a good boner. but you. you have to turn this kid down and do everything you can to get him off your back

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Ripper_E | 4.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

2 mo

He finds you attractive and you aren't that old. He probably doesn't want a real relationship with you though because that would require accepting your kids into the picture which he likely is not ready for. I understand not wanting a younger guy on the account that he likely will not be ready to handle your baggage. Even when they try to convince themselves they can handle it they can. But if it's just you not wanting someone even one year younger, that makes no sense, no matter how you slice it. I mean you are 21 so too young is literally a child but yea. If it's a teenager, below 18, I wouldn't be interested in that either were I in your situation. Unless someone rare comes along.

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Tonytoutouni123 | 60 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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2 mo

Before you go to his mum you should first tell him personally (friendly but clear) that you are not interested in him and that you don’t want him to flirt with you anymore in the future. If he won’t stop you should either tell him that you will go to his mom if he won’t stop or skip that part and go directly to his mum.

I am not sure if he really wants a relationship with you. According to your profile pic you are very good looking. Chances are, he just wants to... you.
But only he knows.. Maybe he really is interested in you and would like to get to know you. My brother was with a 21 year old girl in a relationship for more than a year when he was 16 years old.

Anyway, since you are sure that he is to young, you should tell him that you are not at all interested (before you go to his mom)

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Avicenna | 5.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Master

2 mo

It's possible that all he really wants is attention or at most sex. I would never have wanted a girlfriend with kids when I was a teenager.

Make clear to him what your boundaries are (in this case, being friendly with each other and only seeing each other in public).

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  How would I look with a 17!! It would be awkward and I don’t want him to get attached
- Avicenna
  
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  Well, I had a 21 year old girlfriend when I was 18, but she didn't have kids. People might assume he's a relative.
  
  But you're right not to want him to get attached. How about suggesting he talk to other girls?
bowenw | 2.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Yoda

2 mo

He's obviously into you. Four years difference in age is a lot at your age, but in a few years it won't be a problem. If you're not into him try to remain friendly without leading him on. Do the same if you're into him, but hold off taking it to the next level for a few years to be sure the relationship is built on friendship and not just a physical attraction.

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Arivor | 240 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

2 mo

Well, he probably is just a horny teen who is fixated on you and often has sexual fantasies about you and just wants to turn that fantasy into reality. Ignoring him is the best thing to do, and he will soon find someone else to fantasize over. (hopefully)

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Nik1hil | 4.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Master

2 mo

Age is just a number..
Maturity comes from responsibility and experience, he maybe a teenager but he could be mature..
Give him a chance and see how he goes..
If he is only in for sex than you can close him down for good..

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  It is so inappropriate to date a 17 years old and awkward!
- Nik1hil
  
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  If you do not want to give him a chance, It is up to you. Relationships are all about placing efforts. you should overlook the age factor If he is willing to place efforts. Because by the time you will get into a relationship with him he will be 18+..
gandolph3
Yoda

2 mo

hi lovely, happy Thanksgiving. a few reasons this teen is interested, 1. you are very attractive, 2. most teen guys are attracted to the older woman, 3. apologies for being crude, but in teen reasoning you have kids therefore you putout, you have no man around you must be horny. i remember several of our group discussing this when i was a teen. he may be a very nice young man, he just thinks like a horny teen. i hope you and your cutie pies have a good and safe holiday. take care

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  That’s very lovely of you! Thank you so much and happy Thanksgiving to you as well :)
DavidFox | 1.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Yoda

2 mo

You and ‘the girl next door’. He is full of hormones and finds you sexually attractive. Because you are so close to him living wise you are like forbidden fruit. So he’s pursuing you hard, best to ignore his advances.

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  And if he didn’t stop. Should I go for it and tell his mom?
- DavidFox
  
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  If it gets inappropriate first give him a stern warning that his behavior is unacceptable and if it continues you may have a talk with his mom. Most teenagers will be scared off at that point.
- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  Okay that sounds like a good plan
Derekk | 272 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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2 mo

Are you sure it's a relationship he wants? lol
At his age I did similar stuff with limited success. I did get a woman when I was 14 though. It was just a one night stand.

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  I am assuming that he wants a relationship but I will never discuss anything like that with him
- Derekk
  
  2 mo
  It's good that you won't entertain anything like a relationship. I didn't want that when I was younger either. I used to be attracted to older gals because I thought they'd be down for sex in a way that girls my age just weren't. I was right.
Paolaa988 | 359 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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1 mo

Id be flattered but that's just me girl lol maybe cause i like younger guys but I know younger guys isn't everyone's cup of tea. He probably finds you attractive and is into older girls but if he keeps it up just say im sorry i am not interested.

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Legacy95 | 357 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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1 mo

If I were a guy I would be checking you out also since I am not I am going to ask are you BI coz you are one sexy looking woman I would love to play with your body

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weysally | 642 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Explorer

2 mo

don't worry about it, its like my Gran said about wolf whistles, wait until they stop then worry some,
I have been hit on by some young men its an ego boost

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red_knight | 3.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Yoda

2 mo

he's trying his game, I told you you're kind, and beautiful, but sadly this guy is still a boy and doesn't know anything about responsibilities, just give him a warning in front of witnesses like his mum or your family.

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  Some teenagers are... I don’t even know where to start
boggboss | 5.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Master

2 mo

I do think we are jumping to conclusions by assuming he wants to get with you

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  So? What do you think?
- boggboss
  
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  Could be anything from sleeping with you to having fun to wanting 1
Wise4myage | 4.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

2 mo

You make him feel sexually aroused, but talk to him first before going to his mother. And don't sugar coat it either.

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  But I am not doing anything to make him feel that way!
- Wise4myage
  
  2 mo
  I believe you, but teenagers are always horny and he's likely developed a crush on you. I can see why too, you are very pretty. :)
- Wise4myage
  
  2 mo
  Plus, he probably see's you every day right? So that would have a lot to do with this.
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- Sakura-san
  
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  Thank you for the compliment :)
- Wise4myage
  
  2 mo
  You are very welcome. :)
bklynbadboy1 | 4.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

2 mo

Don't fall for it he's trying to fuck once he gets the kissy he'll change. Young guys want to have there fun there not looking for a ready made family especially not a 19 or 20 years old

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  What makes you think that I want to be with a guy that’s younger than me?
- bklynbadboy1
  
  2 mo
  Oh shit! I'm sorry I read that wrong please except my apology I'm driving well was driving in New York traffic when I read that coming over the 59th street bridge
- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  It’s okay but It made me wonder nothing more
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- bklynbadboy1
  
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  I'm so sorry I should've known better cause your a very intelligent young lady
- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  It’s okay no need to apologize
summiter | 9.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

2 mo

Teen guys are always horny. I'm sure he is jerking off frequently and may even be thinking of you. Be flattered but let him stick with jerking off or finding a girl his age. How old a teen is he?

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DiegoO | 3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

2 mo

Sex x 10.

Honestly, I think you should stick to dating single dad's. Us, singles guys, we don't see much future, dating a single mom. Worst, being a teen.

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- DiegoO
  
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  *And you are only 21, the difference is not much, but the life experience is remarkable.
TheAfrikan | 816 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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2 mo

Judt save hos time if you feel like there is no connection, then please Dave his time and yours by turning him down.

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  Is it better than telling his mom?
- TheAfrikan
  
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  Nope just confront him 1 on 1 that makes sense since it is him who advances at you not the mom.
  And once you meet him tell him that you are not interested in him.
Gentlemanlover100
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2 mo

Younger guy's are flirting because you being a mother plus attractive makes them think you're really experienced. Find a guy the same age or olderish that doesn't play childish games.

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israelisevil | 183 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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2 mo

tell him you like pegging hell never hit on you again

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Twenty2 | 755 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Yoda

1 mo

Simple, he doesn't want a relationship. He wants to fuck you.

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- Sakura-san
  
  1 mo
  He can dream about it or find girls his age to be in a relationship with
- Twenty2
  
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  Follow me.
RingOfFire | 174 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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2 mo

He's horny.

When I was a teenager I had flings with women in their 30s. Teenage boys are opportunists, they take whatever they can get.

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ohshee | 3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

2 mo

Um your BEAUTIFUL your sexy and your eyes say u have a good heart I don't blame him

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nudeNhorny | 10.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

2 mo

I don't blame him for being attracted to you, you are a one hot mom 😅

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  Thank you for the compliment. But do you think that he the right to do what he is doing?
- TheorionMage
  
  2 mo
  Males his age, play the law of averages... his ONLY 'resource' he has to offer is his lusty infatuation.
  That old adage about the guy who stood on the corner coming onto every hot woman he saw...
  9 times out of ten, he got slapped or at least turned down. But he LIVED for that one opportune tenth time when she rocked his world!
  
  Every shot a male DOESN'T take... is a guaranteed fail and sometimes persistence 'wins' the day.
  
  The last thing you need is yet ANOTHER dependent 'child' ... wanna-be 'Gigolo' Lothario.
- nudeNhorny
  
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  No, I don't think he is right, but it's really very common, every guy feels attraction to woman older than him at some point in his life, especially in his teens, just ignore him maybe he would understand that you don't appreciate his interest in you.
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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  Okay i will see how it will go. Thank you
- nudeNhorny
  
  2 mo
  No problem, you're welcome, make sure that you can ask anything you want, I'd be happy to give some advice if I could.
Makeushiver | 1.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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Well you are very attractive so I can see why he would be interested. Are you>

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ashish804 | 709 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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2 mo

he would really get an experienced sexy beautiful girl

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AmeerX | 2.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Yoda

2 mo

I think you must be sweet to him. I think you should give a it a try

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Yellovv | 2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Explorer

2 mo

İf you are sexy and good looking that is the main reason I think.

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  He can get girls his age tho! i don’t get it
- Yellovv
  
  2 mo
  Yes, but what about bigger than your age?
jasco | 1.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Yoda

2 mo

Well maybe its because he likes your smile and he enjoys being around your kids I don't know but eh there's always a reason.

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- Daniela1982
  
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  Or he just wants to stick it to her and give her another kid?
- jasco
  
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  Maybe
Joe1956 | 758 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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2 mo

because he thinks he is a stud that you can't refuse... ignore his...

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Berethor | 9.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

2 mo

Maybe he is too young to understand how difficult is to date a single mom. :)

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morganlove | 254 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Xper 5

2 mo

You’re attractive, still young, and single. I would call it a case of young hormonal lust.

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Dman19 | 127 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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2 mo

Something about a mature woman is attractive. Im 19 and I've been attracted too mature women for a while. I married a 22 year old

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- Dman19
  
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  And your SUPER hot on top of that
rachel776 | 1.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Yoda

2 mo

they all have this milf fantasy from porn

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  I hope my son doesn’t become like him when he grow up!
- Tstrbrainer
  
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  It may not necessarily originate from porn, I fantazised about my teachers from a very young age.
  
  Also, she's too young to be considered a milf for a teenager.
- rachel776
  
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  @Tstrbrainer she has 2 kids tho
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- Tstrbrainer
  
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  Yeah, but for people like me, age also matters 😝
- rachel776
  
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  @Tstrbrainer well technicallly it's "moms i love to fuck" or some version of that, i know it's usually girls in their 30s but that's all i meant
- Tstrbrainer
  
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  Yeah, that's the meaning of the term
White_King2000
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The answer is right under your nose.

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  Keep ignoring him?
- White_King2000
  
  2 mo
  I mean your tits.
- MrBass
  
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  Dude, I almost died laughing
Yourman86
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2 mo

Lol I am sure he thinks your hot! Teenage boys horomones are nuts. Literally.

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chriscdi | 6.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Master

2 mo

does he know u got kids?

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  Yes and he even play with them sometimes
- chriscdi
  
  2 mo
  oh then you vibin
REDHOTLINE | 1.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Explorer

2 mo

Is he handsome or not?

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  He is a teenage guy!
- REDHOTLINE
  
  2 mo
  Its not matter. I asked you he is handsome or not.
- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  He’s average good looking. Why?
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- REDHOTLINE
  
  2 mo
  Ok understand you dont like him.
B2281
Yoda

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Ignoring him is the best idea for now.

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- Sakura-san
  
  2 mo
  And talking to his mom if he doesn’t stop?
- B2281
  
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  If it gets to that point don't be afraid to do so.
Twalli | 12.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

2 mo

You're 21, and therefore pretty young.

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Tstrbrainer | 2.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Yoda

1 mo

You look pretty , that's why

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pizzalovershouse | 3.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Guru

2 mo

Wants to be with a older girl to brag

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Dave31989
Yoda

2 mo

why are you entertaining one, is the question

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Tjsmoove | 141 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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1 mo

well ya are very attractive thats why

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disgustingweebtrash | 5.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
Master

2 mo

Pussy.

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SpaceGalaxy | 425 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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2 mo

Hormones.

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Anonymous

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He's horny.

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