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What would make a teenager guy interested in being in a relationship with me?

I’m 21 years old and I have two kids. I am single but not looking for guys way too young for me or even one year younger. This guy who lives in the same building keeps flirting all the time and he try to get my attention with anything! Even getting close to my twin! I honestly thought about going to his home and speak with his mom about it and how much it started to get uncomfortable for me. Then again I don’t want to case him any trouble so I started ignoring him.
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  • I'm honestly not sure if this has been said yet even tho it probably has. My guess would be just from seeing your pictures alone that you are extremely beautiful and have obviously caught this kids attention. Teenage boys are driven a lot by looks and he is obviously very attracted to yours. Without knowing any other facts like for instance he could struggle with self esteem issues and maybe you are the pretty girl who was also nice to him when other girls his age haven't been you know? That being said, he has obviously crossed a line or boundary that is leaving you feeling uncomfortable. If you haven't already I would suggest not going straight to his mom but try talking to him and asking him why he is so into you. Maybe you can suggest he find someone closer to his age... Shoot, maybe even try giving him a harsh reality check and ask him if he's really ready to step up and help raise 2 kids and being the man and father figure in two children's lives. (Followed by all kinds of details as to what his life would look like and paint a picture that neither you nor him would come first in life because the kids always come first) No teenage boy is at all ready to even begin to process any of that lol but yeah, try talking to him first and also letting him know how he is making you uncomfortable and feel and explaining why it is that isn't alright. Best of luck to you tho, and Happy Thanksgiving to you and to your kids as well

    • This is very helpful. Thank you so much and happy Thanksgiving to you

  • How old is he exactly? I'm not sure if going to his mom would do any good (how many teenagers care or listen to their parents?)? Have you told him directly that you are absolutely not interested? I hope so before simply ignoring him (I ask because a lot of women don't do this, or will "hint" thinking that's enough for him to get the message, it's probably not). You can be direct but still friendly. But yes if you've done that, then ignore and avoid him as best you can. It will pass before long probably.

    • I didn't talk to him because any person will sense if you are interested or not! Right?

    • Not necessarily. Think of any guy you've been interested in, have you sometimes seen what you've wanted to see, not what was actually there? We all have. When you like someone, sometimes you'll convince yourself otherwise, or at least doubt what you might be hearing/seeing. And, we guys are direct, so that's what we respond to. If he thinks there is any hope at all, and he will because you haven't directly said you're not interested, he'll stay around and maybe keep trying. I would say something like this or similar, "I think that you might be interested in me and I'm flattered, but I want you to know that I'm not interested." - if he continues after that, restate that you are not interested, but be a little more firm with your tone and say "you are starting to make me uncomfortable, please stop". This should get the message across. In the extreme case in still continues, then threaten police action and/or going to him mom (depending on his age). But yeah, you need to be direct.

    • Also in regards to "sensing", even if you are just polite and talk to him (like you would with anyone else), he will see hope in that. As you might right if reversed. Like I say, when you like someone, you'll sometimes see what you want to see, and not what's actually there. And you might think, ok, well I've been ignoring him now, so that should do it right? All it does is create doubt. It doesn't tell him "I'm not interested, leave me alone"

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  • I giggled when I read this because in my country, young boys are always chasing after women much older than 21. Are you sure he is interested in a relationship? Sounds like he is just lusting after you. You are very pretty...

    • I like to say relationship because I don’t want to think about Inapprepaite things and there will not be anything from whatever in his mind. Thanks for the compliment

  • You should talk to his mum. It's inappropriate.

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  • Well, he probably is just a horny teen who is fixated on you and often has sexual fantasies about you and just wants to turn that fantasy into reality. Ignoring him is the best thing to do, and he will soon find someone else to fantasize over. (hopefully)

  • don't worry about it, its like my Gran said about wolf whistles, wait until they stop then worry some,
    I have been hit on by some young men its an ego boost

  • Are you sure it's a relationship he wants? lol
    At his age I did similar stuff with limited success. I did get a woman when I was 14 though. It was just a one night stand.

    • I am assuming that he wants a relationship but I will never discuss anything like that with him

    • It's good that you won't entertain anything like a relationship. I didn't want that when I was younger either. I used to be attracted to older gals because I thought they'd be down for sex in a way that girls my age just weren't. I was right.

  • Id be flattered but that's just me girl lol maybe cause i like younger guys but I know younger guys isn't everyone's cup of tea. He probably finds you attractive and is into older girls but if he keeps it up just say im sorry i am not interested.

  • Pimply youths think that they are the kings of sex. They harass adult women who are old enough to be their... grandmothers. There are many reasons for this - from promiscuity and weak will, to the lack of education on the part of a man in a single-parent family. A young man likes a Mature woman, she is experienced, she increases his self-esteem, and so on. but why should a woman need it? Yes, there are some ladies over 40 who hunt boys with a good boner. but you. you have to turn this kid down and do everything you can to get him off your back

  • If I were a guy I would be checking you out also since I am not I am going to ask are you BI coz you are one sexy looking woman I would love to play with your body

  • Um your BEAUTIFUL your sexy and your eyes say u have a good heart I don't blame him

  • they all have this milf fantasy from porn

    • I hope my son doesn’t become like him when he grow up!

    • It may not necessarily originate from porn, I fantazised about my teachers from a very young age. Also, she's too young to be considered a milf for a teenager.

    • @Tstrbrainer she has 2 kids tho

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  • Teen guys are always horny. I'm sure he is jerking off frequently and may even be thinking of you. Be flattered but let him stick with jerking off or finding a girl his age. How old a teen is he?

  • Maybe he is too young to understand how difficult is to date a single mom. :)

  • I do think we are jumping to conclusions by assuming he wants to get with you

    • So? What do you think?

    • Could be anything from sleeping with you to having fun to wanting 1

  • It's possible that all he really wants is attention or at most sex. I would never have wanted a girlfriend with kids when I was a teenager.

    Make clear to him what your boundaries are (in this case, being friendly with each other and only seeing each other in public).

    • How would I look with a 17!! It would be awkward and I don’t want him to get attached

    • Well, I had a 21 year old girlfriend when I was 18, but she didn't have kids. People might assume he's a relative. But you're right not to want him to get attached. How about suggesting he talk to other girls?

  • The answer is right under your nose.

    • Keep ignoring him?

    • I mean your tits.

    • Dude, I almost died laughing

  • tell him you like pegging hell never hit on you again

  • You and ‘the girl next door’. He is full of hormones and finds you sexually attractive. Because you are so close to him living wise you are like forbidden fruit. So he’s pursuing you hard, best to ignore his advances.

    • And if he didn’t stop. Should I go for it and tell his mom?

    • If it gets inappropriate first give him a stern warning that his behavior is unacceptable and if it continues you may have a talk with his mom. Most teenagers will be scared off at that point.

    • Okay that sounds like a good plan

  • He's obviously into you. Four years difference in age is a lot at your age, but in a few years it won't be a problem. If you're not into him try to remain friendly without leading him on. Do the same if you're into him, but hold off taking it to the next level for a few years to be sure the relationship is built on friendship and not just a physical attraction.

  • He finds you attractive and you aren't that old. He probably doesn't want a real relationship with you though because that would require accepting your kids into the picture which he likely is not ready for. I understand not wanting a younger guy on the account that he likely will not be ready to handle your baggage. Even when they try to convince themselves they can handle it they can. But if it's just you not wanting someone even one year younger, that makes no sense, no matter how you slice it. I mean you are 21 so too young is literally a child but yea. If it's a teenager, below 18, I wouldn't be interested in that either were I in your situation. Unless someone rare comes along.

  • Before you go to his mum you should first tell him personally (friendly but clear) that you are not interested in him and that you don’t want him to flirt with you anymore in the future. If he won’t stop you should either tell him that you will go to his mom if he won’t stop or skip that part and go directly to his mum.

    I am not sure if he really wants a relationship with you. According to your profile pic you are very good looking. Chances are, he just wants to... you.
    But only he knows.. Maybe he really is interested in you and would like to get to know you. My brother was with a 21 year old girl in a relationship for more than a year when he was 16 years old.

    Anyway, since you are sure that he is to young, you should tell him that you are not at all interested (before you go to his mom)

  • Age is just a number..
    Maturity comes from responsibility and experience, he maybe a teenager but he could be mature..
    Give him a chance and see how he goes..
    If he is only in for sex than you can close him down for good..

    • It is so inappropriate to date a 17 years old and awkward!

    • If you do not want to give him a chance, It is up to you. Relationships are all about placing efforts. you should overlook the age factor If he is willing to place efforts. Because by the time you will get into a relationship with him he will be 18+..

  • does he know u got kids?

    • Yes and he even play with them sometimes

    • oh then you vibin

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