Why is such importance put on sex?

[Anonymous]

I am not trying to generalize, but majority of men value women by how much sexual partners they had and how fast they give in. If a woman had many sexual partners and gives in fast, she is labeled as a slut and not a relationship material. And women do the same; if a man rushes sex he is seen as wanting only sex. Basically people with high libido who can separate emotions from sex are not taken serious. If a man approaches with sex invitation he is asshole-shamed, if a woman reciprocates she is slut-shamed. And because of this everyone has invented some "rules": women play hard to get and men lie to get it. Why can't we all just agree that sex is a physical satisfaction not only meant for reproduction? If we all had sex whenever we wanted with whomever we wanted without being judged, I think everyone would be honest and happier.
I am sick of having to hold back having sex just so a man wouldn't think I'm a slut and leave me. I have a very high sex drive and I can have it without emotions, expectations. I don't value a man by how fast we had sex. If there is chemistry on the first date, why the hell wouldn't we have sex and then continue getting to know each other? My personality, loyalty, honesty, integrity and values have absolutely nothing to do with my sex drive. Sex is no key to anyone's heart! No one guarantees that just because a man waited x amount of months to get it is loyal relationship material, and same goes for woman. And vice versa, just because someone gave in right away doesn't mean they are not relationship material!
I don't know, I just hate people who are so judgmental about sex when in fact sex has no value at all.
This ranting came out because I recently had sex with someone who said he was looking for serious (as me) and then he dumped me saying "You contradict yourself, you say you want serious but you jumped on me right away. I see what you're all about, just admit it".

[Givemore]

Men say slut with a smile, women say it with conviction. When I was a young lad I fucked all the girls I knew and everyone got passed around all the time and we still treated the girls like we would our sisters, and no one would call a girl slut to belittle her in front of others, because the boys knew we would loose her out of our pack. We might say it between our self's talking shit but we know one of us is on her ass tonight so it only pays to treat them like queens and they can suck dick, ride dick and still be respected. The progressive movement and the feminist movement have absolutely destroyed the woman's moral compass. The entire, don't touch me, don't look at me, ask permission, get consent, my safe space, masogany, shovenist, and the fucking shit just goes on and on till we have a huge wall built between your vagina and my penis. We real men are trying on our side to push that wall over while on your side, surprise fuckin surprise, its the man hating lesbians and the sjw sexless little boys holding that wall up. Its a bloody tragedy because I knew awesome girls that would just say, I like dick I'm going out to party and get laid, and absolutely know one gave a fuck we where just being our selfs. Then someone gave a fuck, the ones that couldn't get a shag in a brothel and the ones that had shaved heads and shit hanging out of there faces. Women that just wanted to be women, and dress sexy to go out suddenly this big bullshit push on an idea that women don't dress up for men they do it for them self and so men should not sexualize them.. what a fucking load of brainwashing utter shit!!!
Disclaimer: I have lesbian friends and this is not pointed at all lesbians, and not at all the little wet back boys that trash other people's property.
I have to wright that in or some dumb shit will have a microagresion and the world will end.
The thing is my few lesbian friends have seen this shit up close and watched it all unfold. Be you honey,! It's ok to be a women! It's ok to have get cock in you !!!
Real men understand and want it no other way. X

[PrudentGuy]

I think you raise many great points in your details.

And I can answer your question with one phrase: social stigma.

Ya, a long tradition mixed with religion and local customs made sex appeared "sinful" for thousands of years.

No wonder the short few decades of liberalisation has practically no effect on the way mankind expresses sex and sexuality at the social level.

Although it no longer hush hush, what you wrote stands true.

Perhaps we need another 50 years to "mature" socially. With the Internet and in sites like this one, we talk about sex openly and freely.

Perhaps after us, our kids at 18 will view sex as a natural part of life and do it... just like animals (see... we hate being like animals when comes to sex right... but we ok when we let our animals out when we indulge in musical performance or sports or debates).

Ya. You're right. And its all because of mankind's "senseless past" to believe in God and "chastity".

[EWillke]

If you find a person with the same views on the subject as you then there's no issue, right?

You do you. If you think your sex drive and ideas on an appropriate time for sex is right for you then your next step is to find the same in your partner. Might not be easy but they're out there.

[Berethor]

You clearly missing something here, it's not only about how fast a woman have sex, it's also about how many men had already fucked her, also men and women are different.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MyGirlIsNotASlut

[Berethor]

Men know that women who are easy are usually easy in general, and therefore can't be trusted.

[Texasgal95]

In the bedroom that’s fine I want to be a woman’s first sexual experience in many ways and hopefully her last

[Mariaangel]

Nice

[PinkGuy]

humans can't separate feelings from sex, when we have sex with someone, our bodies release a toxin ( forgot the name ) that make us more attracted to the individual we are having sex with, this is the reason divorce rates are all time high now, because promiscuity is all time high too.
''You can't miss something you never had'', is another reason, if you fucked around 7 different guys till you were 21 years old, for exemple, is bound to hapen that you came across a guy that fucked you better than the rest, and most often than not, is not your current boyfriend/husband, and this memories are what ruin a lot of relationships/marrieges, because everytime something goes bad with your current partner , wether in the bedroom or not, you will allways think ''i could do/be with better''.

[Angelike]

Great

[Anonymous]

I don't know. Maybe because people are sex driven and can't control their sexual urges.

[Anonymous]

Guys want it from their girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Romantic notions that are not realistic make most men compare all real women to the fantasy woman in our minds. The fantasy woman is a perfect 10 in looks and is a virgin that is not ackward at all and is completely smitten with only us. Try to compete with that.