How I can stop feeling this way?

[MarkJr]

Hi, I’m 23 and I’m still a virgin. I haven’t done it mostly cause I’ve been dealing with some stuff like mentally, and because I just wasn’t really worried about it. I thought It’d happen at some point so I didn’t really care. I could’ve lost it when I was like 16 but I definitely wasn’t ready then lol. Now I am and it’s not working out. I’ve almost had it happen a few times this year but it just kept falling through, very discouraging. And now I feel sorta weird and like not an adult cause I haven’t done it. Most of my friends have and I feel like that’s just something I can’t relate with them on. Like I understand pretty much everything about sex, I just haven’t done it. But yeah I just feel and guilty and ashamed for still being a virgin. How can I stop feeling this way?

[Inexpensivefurniture]

First, I want you to know that being a virgin in your 20s is very normal. Tons and tons of people don't have sex, date, or even have their first kiss in highschool.
Second, you should feel good about the fact that, even though you had the chance, you didn't have sex when you knew you weren't ready. Trying something like that too early can really mess you up later in life, so it's a very good thing you waited when you knew you weren't ready
And thirdly, having sex isn't going to change anything about you. And if you build it up in your mind as this great, be all to end all of adult experiences, you're gonna be disappointed. Sex is fun and it feels good and it's nice, but if you go at it like something to check off a list, it's not gonna be that good.
My advice, and I know this is easy to say and hard to do, it to try and relax. If sex is something you want, it will happen for you. But if you go out to meet people with only the intent of having sex, people will pick up on that and be put off. When you're talking to someone you're interested in, try not to let your mind linger on whether or not you two will have sex. Just pay attention to them and let things flow naturally. Eventually you'll feel that connection and things will progress from there

[MarkJr]

That’s really good advice. Thank you.

[MarkJr]

it's sorta frustrating that it already happened for some people but it hasn't happened for me. it's just- i don't understand why. not to sound like a brat, but it doesn't seem fair.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I know. But it will happen for you, don't worry

[MarkJr]

Ok, I mean, it just doesn't feel like it will.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

It never does. That's normal. It won't feel like it's actually going to happen until it's happening

[PrudentGuy]

One thing for sure, losing virginity is not the most important thing in life.

Next, age and losing virginity has almost no connection at all.

Finally, I know because I lose mine to a girl I know for about 1 year: sex with a girl uou at least have affection for is much better than to someone you don't know.

With the above, just be patient and don't rush to lose it.

But it does not mean you don't put in effort. No. Make it "career" to find a girl you like, then pair up and win her affection. After that suggest to her to help you lose your virginity.

If she is experienced, good.

If she's a virgin, research together and have a scheduled day to lose it to each other. Its very romantic and intimate this way.

[Dnice1]

Don't feel bad about being a virgin. People these days make too big of a deal about it. It's better to wait for the right person. It won't feel as good of you're doing it just to say you've done. Have patience and take the time to find the right person. In the end it'll be worth it 😊

[AshleyTaylorDanny]

Hun there are tons of girls out there that want to bump... go on Tinder, POF, and others and keep plugging away!!

[MarkJr]

thanks for the advice, I'm trying lol Things just keep falling through

[AshleyTaylorDanny]

Never give up

[heymynameisMatt]

You'll be on your way soon. But tbh with all the dating apps at your disposal you should have no problem finding a girlfriend Bro. And slamming her regularly.
Sex is something you're gonna have to get good at Buddy. Fact! 👌
, Matt

[Berethor]

Well you could always join a monastery, it's not too bad. :)

[Arichip]

Sounds like you are thinking about it too much. Just let it happen when you meet right person.

[Cellestial]

One must be proud of every choice they make in their life. Feeling bad and ashamed for not putting your dick in a girl's vagina doesn't sound like a smart idea to me lol at least at your age, you're just 23 years old.

[Anonymous]

It's not so natural.