Is it weird we haven’t said I love you yet?

We’ve been in a relationship for 11 months so almost a year. I did say I love you in text like 7 months ago (I’m a pussy haha) and he wasn’t there yet. So now I kind of want one of us to say it in person cause I feel like the longer the relationship goes on the weirder it will get without us saying it. But it’s giving me serious anxiety saying it again. Mainly in case i get rejected again and I will be mortified haha. What to do?
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  • Start talking to him about how your family handled that with a child and it ended up being something that's awkward for you. Then tell him that you want to practice saying it to get over the awkwardness, then just say it.

    Then, a few days later, you say "I'm not practicing this time," and then you say it again.

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  • I suggest asking him if he sees the relationship growing. If he says he's happy with the way things are and doesn't want to change anything, you may have to come right out and ask him if he loves you. If he can't say it, it's likely time for him to find a new girlfriend so you can move on with your life.

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  • Oh, personally I think it is weird. I wouldn’t be able to stay that long without it being said

    • Hmm why do you think it’s weird? I sometimes do too

    • Because when I’m with someone I’d have to be passionate about them, and I wouldn’t be able to hold it in that long otherwise I’d think something is wrong

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  • My friend had this problem, the guy kept putting off dating labels like saying i love you, calling each other babe etc but still had sex with her, bascially try to see if this is an actual relationship and that you're benefiting from it, because there are 1 of 2 things 1 he's just using you as a physcial thing or 2 he's just not ready to say it or can't due to emotional reasons, it's a difficult situation which needs to be analysed, just make sure that it's good for you

    • It’s definitely a relationship. He chased me and couldn’t wait to ask me to be his girlfriend and has always said he is serious about me. I’ve met all his family and friends.

    • That's great, then it just that he doesn't feel ready it might be because of a personal reason like he's been hurt before type thing best to give him time and as you said he's serious about you so he will say it

    • But it’s been almost a year, i feel like that is quite long. And it’s our anniversary soon so do I let the day pass without either of us saying it? I don’t know i thought most guys say it after a few months

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  • That's a tough one, if he hasn't said it yet though don't force it because it will push him further away. Just say it again and hope for the best

    • What if he’s still not at that point? I think I would die inside that’s why I’ve been waiting for him this time haha

    • Well if he's not there yet... Lol your going to just have to accept it 😂 Don't want to be a Debbie downer but he could just be dating you temporarily. Maybe that's why he doesn't feel comfortable saying something he doesn't mean. With time though the love can really grow, it happens

    • Would guys date someone temporarily for a year? I mean he chased me and couldn’t wait to ask me to be his girlfriend. I’ve met family and friends.

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  • Ok when it comes to that, it has to be a mutual feeling from both of you or it doesn't mean shit and you shouldn't use those words until your absolutely sure that this is the person you want to be with emotionally, sexually, physically and in love or just dont say it, rejection is super hard if the other person doesn't say it back.

  • If you are, then say it. You can't control his thoughts or actions

  • He hasn’t said it in 7 months? Yeah, it’s weird.

  • It's not werid , it's common now a days