Why do men do this?

[Anonymous]

I am an insecure woman. I know this and am trying to work on it. My boyfriend was caught almost a year ago doing heroin and being over flirty with other women. I busted him having multiple online affairs
He swore it was stupid choices lead by drugs and lack of judgement. Swears he loves me more than anything and wants no one else
But now I am left with the feeling of distrust.
I looked on his Instagram page. (Prob shouldn't have) to see he has recently added like 200 women that I could NEVER look like or be.
Now I know porn is normal and I shouldn't read to much into it. I just wonder why men feel the need to have all these cheap nasty women around them? Does it make u feel special? Is this normal behaviour or should I worry he is up to no good? I feel I am not enough or good enough.

[Billie_]

when I spoke to my boyfriend about being uncomfortable with all the sexy models he followed, do you know what he did? he unfollowed them. I didn't even have to ask. he told me "I don't need to look at them when I've got you anyway, there's no point."

my previous boyfriend also did the same thing for me. there are plenty of good men out there who will respect that you are uncomfortable with them following these women and viewing their posts so often and will put you first.

he shouldn't have been flirting with other women anyway, drugs aren't an excuse. never have I ever gotten high and thought about cheating.

[Asker]

Have u done heroin? Been hooked? Lots of heroin users have told me the drug changes who u are. Makes u feel like you are godly and entitled. Bad judgement calls. He never followed through just acted like a fucked up pig... lol Which he admits and I'm trying to let go. I just asking if normal behaviour in some guys to add random women on social media because they are hot

[Anonymous]

That’s definitely not normal behaviour and no one deserves to be treated like that. It’s not that you’re not good enough so please don’t think that, he’s the one who’s not good enough for you and he doesn’t deserve you.

[Asker]

Thank you. Very sweet reassurance

[Twalli]

If you have no proof he is cheating he may not be cheating. We like hot girls even if we won't do anything with them we still like looking.

[Asker]

I don't believe he physically cheated no. But he gave me his password in a drugged state to try to convince me he was not doing anything. I dug deeper than he had hopped and found Many online affairs... camming and masturbating. It was not good. He has been clean since March and working hard... really trying. It's just I have damaged trust now and am surely just manifesting crap. I just want to know if it is normal for men to follow ransom women on Instagram because they think they are hot.. Or?

[Asker]

See the kicker is he grows legal marijuana and post pictures. Says he uses connections for advertising. Which would make sense... but.. its hard still fresh. It's not porn that bothers me it's reaching out sexually to other women I worry about now...

[Asker]

I have no new proof of online women since last year... just nervous

[Twalli]

I can't tell you if that is normal since I don't have Instagram and have never used it before. I can say that I used to find hot girls on Facebook who were either my friends or had low privacy and use their photos to masturbate to

[Asker]

Thank you.. that helps.

[Not_Average]

I would split. He sounds toxic.

[Gedaria]

It's one big those things , it's great to b with women and look at them on porn. You can fantasies about them , you never have a chance to meet in real life...

[AlexDeLarge]

Saying it was the drugs that made him do it is an excuse. Guys do that anyway without drugs. I'm sorry he's making you feel insecure and I hope he doesn't cheat on you

[PeterCharie1991]

Give him the benefit of the doubt , and as for instagram does he know this other women?

[Asker]

Some are from our home city yes. But most cheesy fake body women... but again it's not the porn aspect I worry about it's the sexual conversations I have seen him have (last year was last one) before that really make me worry.

[Asker]

But again he grows marijuana legally and he says he uses Instagram to get name out. I don like it because its young skanky women and I am nervous because of his last behaviour.

[PeterCharie1991]

I understand

[Anonymous]

Why do women always see a man do something and then ask why all men do it?

See how that works?

[Asker]

To compare... we like to see if it is just a make thing. Most women do similar things to... men and women are very different... small minded people take offence to wording. Ask before assuming I was being a cold hearted bitch... like most women... lol. Right? 😃

[Asker]

Male thing... sorry not make thing