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On average, how soon after you start dating do you wait before having sex?

On average, how soon after you start dating do you wait before having sex?
I'm NOT asking whether you answer this question according to a formula or a rule. I'm simply asking - on average - how often do you date someone before you are comfortable moving on to physical intimacy. When I ask about having sex, I am not limiting the question to intercourse. Hand jobs, oral sex, whatever it is that makes each other get aroused to the point of orgasm. . . how long before that happens?
First date. Why wait?
Vote A
Second date. Just want to make sure all those feelings on the first date weren't a fluke.
Vote B
Third date. Haven't you heard of the three date rule?
Vote C
One to two months. Why should something that important be rushed?
Vote D
Three to four months. I don't want my "body count" to be too high.
Vote E
More than four months but I'm not waiting for marriage.
Vote F
I'm waiting for marriage.
Vote G
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  • One to two months

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  • When I was single I avoided dates like the plague, when I went on a date it was because I wanted to see if the guy was a good fuck 😂
    For me I had a pretty good idea if things clicked between us hanging out. If I was going to invest into any time I was going to go make sure the sex was good first. I love sex and I’m not going to waste time getting to know a guy only to find out he sucks in bed fuck that. I know so many friend who are married most say their husbands suck in bed literally. They was so invested then sealed the deal that’s stupid sex is a major part. I think they wasted their time and their husbands time sex should be the one of the top connections you make before committing to marriage. Most of my friends have cheated and know their husbands cheating. While I may had picked mine in a way people might think I’m a slut. Most people are married and being sluts because they didn’t get shit right!!!

  • For me I guess it depends on the person and how slow or fast that level of comfort builds or that level of sexual attraction builds... And it also depends on the other person and when they're ready to take it to that level as well... I will say the times I/we waited longer are the ones that lasted

    • @brainsbeforebeauty Seems that with some years, comes some wisdom, and understanding. I NEVER rush in, anymore. I just meet, connect, and then love, when I know there is a feeling, a connection! Sometimes, in a day, or two, she contacts me, and I know she is interested!! Love that!! Love assertive women, and respect them!! So we have a lunch date, or something 'casual' and meet, so she is free to leave, at any time! Those ALWAYS work out the best!! I NEVER want her to feel pressured, or like she can't just walk away! Then a few more, and more, as we get to know each other. With all of those dates, NONE, have ever left, or walked away! For me, it is always about her feeling safe, and comfortable! I walk her to her car, on those dates, and make sure she gets in, and drives away. I can't imagine how some women might feel, meeting some guy, now!! With so many stories in the news, and online TROLLS? There are still some good guys, out there, and on here!

    • @JackSmy 👍👍🙂

  • I’d be down to do handjobs/fingered first month honestly. Oral sex would be sometime 3 months +. Sex would be sometime 6 months +. Phone sex could be first week, who knows. I dont get physically sexually with many. Out of the two i had sex with, one was 6 months in and the other was a year/half before we had sex. For oral, that happened like 9 months in with the one i did that with. For masturbation, that was like 3 months in with one ex but almost a year later with the rest who were just friends turned crushes yet not boyfriends

    • (faints)🤯

    • @Guardian45 lol what

    • (gulp) I'm dying. 🥵

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  • At least 15 to 20 minutes

    • Obviously, I missed that option in the poll choices!

    • It would take you longer than that to get your clothes off.

    • Odd.

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  • I am waiting for marriage for that is what marriage is for and that is the way God wants it too ! thanks

  • After the initial 2-4 dates (hugs, hand holding).. it gets more serious...6-8 dates... physically closer... sex after that...
    upto 2 months minimum.. if we see each other once a week/2 times a week.
    that would mean, the level of trust, closeness, connection is there.

    • (faints)🤯

  • If we have had several dates, I think she knows I like her, but I am not the kind to pressure her into anything.
    I usually say something about how I feel, and that I am comfortable, waiting, until she feels comfortable, with me.
    I really like focusing on getting to know WHO she is, and WHAT she likes, just going places, and doing things!
    I just leave it be, and when she is ready, when we are at the level, and she loves, and trusts, it just happens.
    No timeline, no expectations!!
    Any time, together, is GOOD time, and at some point she likes kissing, and hand-holding, and I don't like OVERT, OBVIOUS Public Displays of Affection, but when she takes my hand, and pulls me into a secluded place, just to kiss? WOW!!
    Don't RUSH into sex!! Enjoy all the 'Foreplay' along the way!!

  • My answer isn't up there, but I went with the three date rule because I figure I can spread out the dates lol.

    Honestly, to me it depends on how good the connection is. If I think he really likes me than yea, but I need to be convinced first.

    • See, that's the shit that's annoying to me. When girls drag their feet and delay on going out just because they're expecting to have sex. It's ridiculous.

    • @Jamie05rhs I said that my answer wasn't up there lol! You don't get it man. For me personally, I can't have sex with someone I don't trust. If that bothers you then don't effing go out with someone like me. I think you are a bit of a cry baby. There are so many girls out there with open legs.

    • Whoah, whoah. Lol. I think we're misunderstanding each other. I don't want sex!! And I'm sorry I misread your answer. You are right; I should have paid better attention.

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  • 3 date rule I will not lay my penis in the foundations of her women hood until we get to know each other better

  • I'm of the opinion that one should take your time and enjoy things at their pace. But to answer your question I would say sex before finishing the third drink on the first date is too soon. Unless you are having doubles. Or any drink over 32 oz in size. Then you are Ok to doink after the finishing the first one.

  • Well, these days a few dates. In my 20s, it was faster.

    • Ha😂

  • 3-4 months but that’s more so I can do quality control, so to speak.

  • "More than four months but I'm not waiting for marriage."

    I want long term relationships based on love and trust. I'm tired of being used.

  • I always have sex on the first date why wait for the next one cuz you never know there might not be a next one

    • So you have sex with every guy you date?

    • Is that even considered dating at that point? From a technical standpoint that's moreso like hook up culture with extra steps.

  • Using my average I end up with around 10 weeks

    One was before the relationship and the other was 5 months

  • When, or if, it happens it happens.
    There is no imposed timetable.

    • I'm NOT asking whether you answer this question according to a formula or a rule. I'm simply asking - on average - how often do you date someone before you are comfortable moving on to physical intimacy.

    • Weeks to months

  • friends, engaged, marriage, sex, kids.

  • It varies. Most times not until we are in a exclusive relationship & I feel comfortable.

  • I’m waiting until the wedding night.

  • It depends on the girl. If we get along and there’s chemistry. Why wait? If I really like her and there is the possibility of a long term relationship. There is no time frame. Whenever it happens.

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