Which is better, to have sex with a friend of years or to have sex with a person you know but not so much?

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Is it more about respect to your friend of years not to have sex or is ti more about the physical and biological issue from the person wanting to get laid?

This is where I want to get at. For instance a man who has a very close female friend for more than 20 years but even as all guys flirt with women (it is on their nature anyway) he never disrespected his lady friend and only remained friends and never had sex with his friend.

Could that be because they know each other for so long that for the guy it could sound he is disrespecting taht very close friend by going over that friends respect and care, they had for so long but also the guy will feel uncomfortable having sex with his very dear close friend, cause they never treated each other as if they want to have sex to each other or it is better to have sex with a lady you do know a little but not so much like the other ones, but because you dont know that lady that much it is easier to have sex with a lady who you barely know so you see that friend you know a little more of a physical bait to you to get laid.

JPrez · Accepted Answer

It’s an interesting scenario you painted. I can tell you from experience I had a lady friend who was a coworker. I was 21 and she was 30. I was single and she was married. We were great friends and did all kinds of fun stuff together and I never thought about sex with her. Her husband was very nice to me. Then one day, she separates from him and wants a divorce. She calls me up and we go drinking and she tells me what happened and starts to hit on me. I was floored but flirted back and I lost my virginity to her. She was so sweet and understanding to me. It did change our relationship though and we drifted apart. I found out later she just wanted to have sex with different people. Not sure if this helps you with your situation but maybe so. 🤷‍♂️

PrudentGuy · Accepted Answer

At first i thought to answer "long term", but reading your details, it brought to mind my secondary school classmates (we found the entire class via social media).

With those girls, few of whom I had crushes during school days, somehow I lost all the sexual "mood" when we met recently.

Ya, familiarity may perhaps kill libido. I don't know, but happens to me.

But in general, i still think sex with a person I know is better. And I called that lovemaking.

ZackBan · Answer

I try to live a carefree life where I go after the things I want without overthinking the details and surround myself with like-minded people. So if me and friend just happened to be in the mood and looked at each other a certain way I would definitely have sex her and it wouldn't feel weird to me at all.
Keeping in mind that I tried the total stranger option a few times and it went great so I'm not against that either.

Kiss_Me · Answer

Friend... I'd be willing to bet they were attracted to you the whole time but didn't want to ruin the friendship by letting you know. You were already KIND OF in a relationship. It just took a while to start having sex.