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Sex on the first date: Yes/No?

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  • Morally and liberally, the answer SHOULD be yes. But this isn't a moral and liberal world so NO. Female sexuality is still very unknown to most men. So because they can't understand it, they live by these rules created by social standards, implemented deep into their brains. Men care about sex A LOT. They put much value on it, more then women. This is how men think:

    THE COMMITMENT-PHOBIC ONES - They are usually seen as immature, bad boys, fun, fuckable. Can be very charming. They are afraid of any kind of commitment and therefore they only pursue sex. Sex with variety of women is their priority. These types of men would do ANYTHING to get it as soon and as easier as possible. They will sometimes lie and string you along, or some will be honest but still try persistently to get it as charmingly as possible. It doesn't matter if you have sex on a 1st or 50th date, they don't care. Their only mission is to get it, and the only thing they will feel is happy and grateful they got it easy. On the other hand, they might seem kind of disappointed if you reject their sexual advances. They still have others (who are not as easy) on the list they need to pursue to get it from them too though. But if some girls are too hard to win, they simply give up. And onto the next one, or back to you for the lack of options. So it doesn't matter when you have sex, it will never lead to a relationship. The key is to UNMASK THEM. Withholding sex won't unmask them. Or change them. It will only prolong the inevitable. But there are ways to spot them that have nothing to do with sex. You can unmask them before sex, or sometimes even better after. The truth comes forth sooner or later, it's up to you to decide whether you can keep your emotions aside after sex or not. If not, if you are doing it because you are in love and hope it will lead somewhere, then better don't do it. Just because you are amazing, hot and had a mind-blowing sex with a guy doesn't mean it will suddenly fix his phobia of commitment. But if yes, if you are doing it because you are horny and you don't expect anything out of it just a simple pleasure, then go ahead and do it. In a way, it's a good way to test him.
    Pros: you get to have sex and if he disappears after at least you don't have to waste time on him anymore because you unmasked him.
    Cons: catching feelings and having to deal with that shit.

    • THE SERIOUS ONES - From my experience, these guys usually won't try to sweettalk into sex. They take you out on a nice date not really thinking about sex because they assume that you are serious too and you're not thinking about sex either. For them, seriousness kind of equals sex drive. Because they also don't understand female sexuality, they automatically assume that you are not attracted to them or that you are frigid, and that it takes a lot more then sweet-talk, correct moves and their vibe to arouse you. Or that you are withholding it because of standards, and they are fine with it. Dates with them are usually like a job interview, there's not much flirting. Even if it happens a moment that could lead to sex, rejecting it is what they expected so no disappointment there. However, if a girl is more on a "perverted" side and initiates it herself or lets it happen early on (first or second date), they end up being SURPRISED. Which leads me to two types of serious men:

    • 1. Negatively surprised ones: because of social stigma and lack of knowledge in female sexuality, their value of you goes from "girlfriend material" to "slut". Their first thought is that you are not what they were hoping for. That you are just another slut hungry for dick and that you probably did that with every man you went out with. And that if you are so easily aroused without him putting any effort or moves on you, you will cheat on them in the future. These men connect female sexuality to emotions and things he does to win her over. Women who make them work for it are high value women in their eyes. Pussy is a prize for them. So when you "revel" you're sexual desires early on, they will either do you and be done with you or reject you and never call you again. And there's no turning back once they think of you as a low quality woman. Pros: if you are more of a traditional type of woman who's sex drive is not that high, then this type of man would be a perfect boyfriend/husband. Cons: Well if you're not, withholding sex and hiding your true sexual nature just to get him to not think of you as a slut can be very exhausting. It's also morally not correct to manipulate like that. And denying strong chemistry can feel depressing.

    • 2. Positively surprised ones: title says it all. To them, your early sexual advances are just a big plus. They will feel extremely lucky and relieved that you find them sexually attractive and that they can scratch that fear from their list of insecurities. They will GLADLY have sex on the first date and will think of you as a woman who is freely in touch with her sexuality and is not afraid to act on it. They will want to get to know you better and see if your personality is also a fit. And if yes, they will want to keep you. Cons: because you don't know them very well, they might turn out to be a commitment-phobes or serious ones with negative reactions. It is a risk basically. Another con is that they might become super clingy or full of themselves, and therefore forget about all other qualities they need to show to actually want a relationship with them. Some think that because you had sex they got you completely and they don't have to pursue you any longer. That's why it's important to still keep standards high and show them that sex doesn't change anything for you. No privileges of any kinds of benefits until he proves himself serious and it's official. Pros: You get to be your authentic self without playing any games or living by the social rules. You get your sexual needs fulfilled and you just might also get a partner for life. <3

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  • HELL NO!!! First dates are super awkward usually and then your gonna jump in bed with the person you've only been on one date with.

    I wish people would start taking sex a little more seriously these days. a lot of it has to do with your personal safety. Yes sex shouldn't have to be serious as long as your a responsible adult, use protection and are in a safe environment with someone you've known long enough to trust and know you are safe with.

    This is why so many young people end up with STDs or dead worse case these days. They do random hook ups with someone they've just spoke to on a app for 20 minutes and then jump in bed with them like i don't even think uber eats deliver that quickly yet people in my generation think its safe to have sex after knowing someone for that amount of time. Who knows if that person is a rapist, killer or has a STI.

    Its also why so many young people struggle to have healthy relationships. Because they jump right into sex and then realise later on in the relationship they actually have nothing in common and aren't right for each other but there already to deep into a relationship with that person because they jump into too fast with sex before getting to know them.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Yes, but only if that's what y'all both are feeling.

    I don't see the point of withholding sex on the first date.

    If it's because you're afraid of a guy leaving you because they're thinking that your easy then congratulations, you're only delaying the inevitable, he's gonna leave your ass anyways because he didn't love you to begin with.

    If a guy actually loves you then sex on the first date won't have any negative effects

  • If the chemistry is there, my not.

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  • Depends on wether you want a relationship or not. And depends on the cultural envoirement. I always grew up with very liberal ideals, but in my country things are different so in all honesty if you want to become your date's girlfriend, don't sleep with him until he actually asks you to be. Otherwhise most will look down on you and think less of you and blow you off after the sex, even if you weren't promiscous, you just were REALLY in love with him. Speaking from my own experience and friend's.

  • Nope. I don't sleep with strangers.

  • no!!!

    • Why?

    • Because I respect myself 🙄🙄🙄

  • you can't predict such things but if your heavily making out how far off would you be from giving him a blowjob? i've been in those situations and it's so easy to undo his pants and just suck his hard penis... it's so easy and so tempting... let's be honest.

  • it depends on the people amd how everything goes. if all is well and we both feel like it why not

  • No, I want to have sex with someone I really know, and really can be comfortable with, and plan on being more than just a date hook up... Most times sex happens on first date, it's usually that was the whole purpose of said date... I want someone that realized sometimes great sex is worth the wait

    • How can anyone truly get into sex on the first date unless the first day lasts a couple if days. Which isn't unheard of.

    • @Bang5luts right! Who wants quicky sex at the end of date where you don't even know each other well enough to know likes and dislikes 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • Exactly. Or who wants the grand title, "Two Pump Chump!" Lol

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  • With an exceptional person, it's ok.

  • Yes totally. No need to be ashamed about wanting to have sex!! I don’t think it makes much difference either way and I don’t see any reason to wait.

  • So far I haven't and wouldn't be able to. I haven't even kissed in a first date either.

    It might change, I don't know. But I'm more comfortable to know the person a bit more.

  • Depends. If you are just focusing on your lust you can simply do it the very first day.

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    • alright

    • Does penis size matter in a relationship

  • No not for me. If a guy is worth it he will respect you enough to wait until you are ready. I'm still very old school when it comes to things like this, sex isn't just sex to me > it's a meaningful connection and bond between two people and I feel like more and more people these days don't see it like this and Sex is just sex to them. I'm not judging anyone by any means, just giving my opinion.

    • @mishthefish i agree and wow your stunning!

    • @MarkyMark77 aw thank you 😂

    • @mishthefish thanks for accepting :)

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  • Are you just horny and want to get laid or are you looking for a LTR?

    • This question ain't about me, lol I was just curious.

    • Okay. The answer will depend on the motivation for the date. If you are just wanting to hookup, and you are physically attracted, most people will have sex on the first date. If you are looking for a LTR, most people will not have sex on the first date. And, of course, there are exceptions.

  • HAHA men said yes and women said no. I hope we all learned something if we weren’t expecting that outcome

  • No..

  • If things are connecting and you have plenty of condoms and both of you want some fun orgasms... go for it!

  • Na, I personally would not however it depends how well you know the person

  • I honestly would say it depends on the scenario and the chemistry that has transpired over the course of the date itself. This data will better help you decide whether having sex with your date is beneficial.

  • No. If you're expecting sex on the first date, you are really looking for a hookup.

  • Sex on the first date is an indication of a kindered spirit.

  • It will only stay at sex and nothing else. Probably a 1 time thing before moving on to higher quality women. And if I happen to have sex on the first date, forget about me eating your coochie. I'll also make sure to wear 2 layers of condoms while I'm at it. Don't want to risk getting shit.

    • A high quality woman dont date a guy who have sex on the first date like you. If you have sex on the first date, then you are no different the woman who sex with you on the first date. I can't stand fake hypocritical conservative traditional men like you. I have met guys like who think they whore around but their dream women have to ne innocent angels. Then people call ma an asshole for being asshole to such male cunts.

    • Sorry being harsh but you have to be high quality yourself before wanting such woman. Just eww.

    • @hi_it_is_me123 Oh look, I struck a nerve. A high quality man wouldn't have date on the sex date at all. Also, you still make the grave msitake of thinking men and women are the same when it comes to standards, you're absolutely delusional. A guy will have sex whenever he can while a woman has sex whenever she wants. I'm only going to invest in women who don't give themselves away easily. And you hate "fake" traditional men like myself? Sounds more like a you problem. Also, I've already explained to you that there are shades to conservatism and it isn't as black and white as you think. What defines a man to be high quality is no where near the same as what defines a woman as high quality. Men and women are not the same, sweetie. I don't lose value in the eyes of society through my body count. Women do. And if I do, it's nowhere near the same level as that of a woman. I'm currently with a traditional high quality girl (who doesn't sleep around on the first date). So your entire arguments are baseless 😂

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