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I can't get over my girlfriend now wife having a one night stand after we had started dating?

My girlfriend now wife we met in Nov 88 we saw each other for a few times then didn't see each other for 3 months. We never did anything physical when we got together in Feb we started dating steady but she still had a boyfriend. We never did do anything physical for a year, now I find out she had a one night stand on the new year eve after we met. I'm most upset because I had to wait so long and this wasn't her first one nighter I just can't get over it it hurts terrible
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  • Wow, sorry you feel so bad.
    A couple things here... you had started dating not long before, so you were steady but not really solid? So she gets hammered at a NYE party and let's her guard down. That's how I see it. And you had to wait... I don't think you have to wait now do you?
    My opinion is that you need to take a deep breath. Ask yourself if she is a good women. And, is she worth keeping? A good women is hard to find, for me anyway.
    If you answered Yes Yes, then do yourself a favor... see a good Psychologist. They are worth the time and money... I know.
    And talk to her. Women need things to think about.
    If you Love her and she Loves you...
    Good Luck.

    • Thanks... I think I hope things work out for you

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  • She had a boyfriend while you started dating her, so it was to be expected that she would cheat on you too. I wouldn't be surprised if there were many other one-night stands after that too. How did you find out about this? Did you just find out?

    • Yes I had all but confirmed it now I asked her then best friend that was with her that night

    • Yeah, a secret like that it's pretty bad, but well, she was keeping your relationship a secret at the beginning too, so she's always been like that. I don't think the fact that it happened 30 years ago is much of a relief. She's not the person you thought she was, and you were truly a fool for waiting for that one. I've been played too, though. This isn't the worst that can happen

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  • 1988? That was 32 years ago. She's been with you for over 30 years and you are worrying about something that happened 32 years ago? How does this affect you in any way? Specifically why does it bother you?

    • Because I had to wait and no one else did and I just found out for sure it happened. i know it seems petty that's why I'm asking I don't know why I'm so upset

    • Think about it. When you figure out what exactly is bothering you then you can do something about it. Did you imagine that she had never been with anyone before you?

  • Well, I can’t sympathize with you here since you started dating her when she was still in a relationship. That should have told you what you were getting. The only person here who has a right to be angry is the one who was her boyfriend at the time she had that one night stand, not you.

  • Technically speaking she cheated on her boyfriend not you

  • Yeah id never date a girl who did that. Go have your own one night stand. If girls aren't going to be faithful in their dealings with men i dont see why we have to bother being faithful to them.

  • Why would you worry about something from so long ago

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