In terms of experience, are you more comfortable dating virgins or someones whos had several sex partners?

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Im not a virgin although i wish i was lol. Even though i was forced into some shit with my first ex at 15 and I willingly enjoyed sex with my other ex at 23, I’d still prefer to date a virgin. I get that people can be experienced but there's always more to learn... And well, I like to teach. With a virgin, i can teach the little I know but we can also learn together and build up an awesome sex life. I’d of course still date a nonvirgin, but not if they’ve had a lot of sexual partners in the past. That just makes me uncomfortable, but I’ll try to respect those of you who say numbers shouldn't matter. by the way, you can still become “experienced” even when fcking the same person all your life. Bt some feel you need to be with some of everybody in order to be considered experienced 
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Dongtai · Accepted Answer

I used to think it would be fun dating virgins and girls with little experience but after dating those types of girls I’ve learned that I prefer experienced women.

I’ve learned that if a girl is in her 20s and hasn’t had an average amount of sexual/romantic experiences then there’s probably something wrong with her. She may not be a sexual person or might have a lot of insecurities that prevent her from being sexually open. Basically there’s a personal reason “why” she hasn’t had a lot of sex.

My ex couldn’t look herself in the mirror and say “I love myself,” let alone be free and comfortable in bed. She had only one sexual experience before me and she was 20. But there were other issues too like her needing validation from her friends and having really low self esteem. She was very impressionable.

My other ex suffered from seasonal depression which I didn’t read as a red flag until later into the relationship. She admitted to dating a lot of weirdos on our first date and told me it was a relief I wasn’t weird. Another red flag I should have read. Then there was the three cats and smelly apartment. The only things I picked up on was out sexual incompatibility. The first sign was her being a bad kisser. But I liked her so much that I just taught her how to kiss then she was a pro. But then she didn’t like doing little things like holding hands, cuddling. I eventually broke it off because I need sex in a relationship and I don’t want it because I asked. I want it to be mutual. Anyway that’s when the crazy of her REALLY came out. She showed me a completely different side of her.

Anyway. Results may very. But in my experience minimal to no sexual/romantic experience is a red flag unless they’re religious or celibate. You have to look out for other things too though like low self esteem or bad personality traits. Not having sex isn’t bad by itself but when you add it with other factors it can be a telltale.

Sorry that was long. I sorta just vented 😂😂

TheUniqueOne96 · Accepted Answer

I'm a virgin and prefer to date other virgins.

There's nothing wrong with one having a lot of sexual partners in the past, but I'd rather a virgin, because I'm one myself and I don't think protection would be necessary, when it all goes down.

Experience is limited and I feel like you can always gain more, though an experienced partner will probably be more enjoyable for me, than someone who's not, but the idea of growing together sexually, as virgins can be great, especially if she's dominant sexually.

Ultimately, as long as I love a partner, I don't think that them not being a virgin, would be a deal breaker.

Alyssa11 · Accepted Answer

I'm a virgin and I don't really mind if my partner is or isn't, it's not something I think about too much when I'm deciding whether to date someone.

However, I probably would like to be with a non-virgin just because I feel like he could take the lead when we finally have sex. I feel like I won't know what I'm doing and I've heard that a woman's first time is always painful and difficult. So in that regard, I'd like someone to guide me along lol.

I wouldn't want somebody with too many previous partners though, because my ex was like that. And although he promised he'd be gentle with me and take his time until we had sex, he didn't wait for me and therefore I don't really trust anyone who's had a lot of sexual partners/a promiscuous past. Not to say they're bad people at alllll, but just the type of people I wouldn't date.

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

Girl this is rubbing salt on my wound... I am virgin so was my ex boyfriend until I recently found out he was unfaithful and lost his virginity. I can't accept it. I already had a hard time accepting the fact that he did other physical stuff before meeting me and now he did the final deed... I am devastated.

I haven't even kissed a man, I dress modestly, I am saving not just the physical but also the visual for the one and only man who I believe is worthy of it. I want the same from my man.

CurLyF · Answer

I'm not a virgin, honestly I'm attracted to experience, both life and sexual. I like my men to be a bit more in control and kind of teach me stuff in bed, so I don't think I've ever even dated a virgin. I'm not saying it would be a dealbreaker if I met a virgin who I liked and we hit it off for a serious relationship, although the older I get that posbility would be harder to find. I've never minded that my current partner slept around a lot in the past and I never ask about it, as long as everyone is *healthy*.

Mandycandy42 · Answer

I want someone who has experience and the confidence in the experiences he's had. Of course wanting him to be being clean is a given. If he's had several sexual partner's I would know he has already learned how to best please women as many have different ways of what they enjoy in sex. Honestly do not feel like teaching someone as it is awkward to say the least and can ruin the moment especially if I'm very much aroused

Majesty101 · Answer

Hmm I don't know. I would prefer a virgin I guess. I don't really know how I feel about nonvirgins anymore lol, but I know that I detest the idea of my partner being inside of someone else at one point, that makes me uneasy.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Experience don't go by number of partners, but quantity of sex and quality of the person and how giving or selfish a lover he is..
So while would prefer experience, would not prefer someone that had too many partners, because that don't mean they're a good lover, just means they had lots of partners. (No thanks)
A-Someone that has 50 or more one night stands,
versus
B-someone that's spent years sexually satisfying one person
Well, I'm going for B all the way

Lliam · Answer

Virginity has no appeal for me. I want a woman who likes sex and is good at it. I don't care how many relationships she has been in, as long as she is into relationships and not hook ups. No girlfriend I was ever with was a virgin, but they were good girls.
I don't consider sex to be taboo or something that should be saved for marriage. Sex is part of life and should be enjoyed to the fullest.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I lost my virginity when Gerald Ford was the president, so it's ben a long time. Women do not lose their virginity in their 50's or 60's, so any potential partner for me has a sexual past. If I did meet a woman who was a virgin and who wanted to be my partner, I certainly would not reject her because of her inexperience. I would simply accept the role of teacher and hope that it would be a very pleasant assignment.

pajamasam · Answer

Being someone's first is special. But people with at least a little bit of experience have already found out what kinda things they like. So they are usually a little bit better in bed.

ohshee · Answer

Desii i just want a person that is happy in life thst loves sex as much as I do. Because that is a way I can show my love and the way I want to make her feel by making love ,, or even fucking if she's a virgin cool if she's not cool it doesn't matter , the only thing that matter is I can read in her eyes the way she wants to be pleased and I take her there and beyond every time we make love

integrale77 · Answer

I'm not a virgin but have never been with a virgin so can't say first hand but what the experience would be like.
I think I'd be comfortable dating a virgin and would be considerate towards them for there first experience and try to make it as enjoyable as possible!

CalmYourTits · Answer

I prefer a guy that has had sex a lot. I like a confident man.

TonyV · Answer

Well I'm a virgin and I can't really have a preference on dating virgin, few partner or many partners cause i haven't done it🤷‍♂️ How could I have a preference?

flamiE · Answer

I’m always confused when people assume someone is good in bed just cause they had a fair amount of sexual partners, the two are not always linked, you can have a high body count and suck. To me sex is about intimacy and how we click and if the energy is right and not him being experienced. He’d also save me the whole “my ex loved that” stuff and would rather learn how I work so I wouldn’t mind dating one.

MrsJaximus-Lion · Answer

when i was a virgin i wanted to be with someone to be like me and i found him and now soon 13 years together  to be equally sexually awkward hehehe

Jjpayne · Answer

I guess id like to have sex with a virgin like myself but it would be cute for a girl to show me how ☺️

Hans222 · Answer

I'm a virgin and I'll date anyone I feel a click with ❤. That answer was not in the poll haha...

The_Inquisitor · Answer

I don't want a slut for a partner but I don't want a virgin either, I just want someone who has a little experience in taking big dick and is comfortable with a big man with a big dick because I've learned a lot are scared of it.

JDavid25 · Answer

I'mma virgin and I just prefer some girl who is gon be my wife and love me.. That makes a whole bit of difference.. In the end it I could take either or really.. 😌..

DJB72 · Answer

I've not had many partners and I'd rather not deliberately pick someone who's had multiple partners themselves.

lanadelrey25 · Answer

I don't have a preference but someone who has had over like 4 or 5 partners is a turn off I guess.

Natehunter199 · Answer

Dosen't matter to me. Never dated a or been with a virgin.

In terms of experience, are you more comfortable dating virgins or someones whos had several sex partners?

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