Should I worry that my boyfriend at times masterbates when we live together?

[Anonymous]

We both work from home and we moved in together recently. I would say he does have a high sex drive. He probably needs to have sex everyday. I don’t think his attraction towards me went down. We still have sex few times a week. Our sex is amazing and we both agreed.

I first found out he masterbates because he left a bottle of lube in the bathroom. I did asked him, and he said he only does it when he noticed I am busy working. Also, how he tends to get horny late morning (in between work), and he does at times come to me during work for sex. I had never turned him down. But at times, he just masterbates without bothering me at all. I think he masterbates around once a week.

We had sex yesterday in the afternoon (during work). This morning, I found out he masterbated in the bathroom. I did tell him that I have a lot of work today, and so does he.

I think it is because it’s during work, and we both usually have a lot to do. He doesn't really want to bother me, and it also saves more time if he just masterbates.

Is this normal?

[thecuriousone2020]

These are some reasons why some people choose to masturbate even though they are in a relationship:

No anxiety when one masturbates (other than the risk of getting caught if that is an issue in the relationship). Often anxiety is a big part of what comes from partner sex: anxiety about how I smell, how my body will perform, will my body perform, does my partner like me, my body, how my body reacts etc. For many people, unfortunately, relationship sex is filled with so much anxiety that it is not enjoyable
A person is tired and masturbation doesn't require the same level of effort, both mentally and physically to perform
It is not painful. For both men and women, relationship sex can be physically painful and the inability to resolve the pain or effectively discuss it with their partner leads to the desiring relationship sex less or avoiding it
A person is bored
A person is bored with their relationship and wants to play out a fantasy in their head
A person is stressed
Because they like it
They don't have to worry about getting rejected by their partner
Their partner is sick, has their period or just doesn't want it when the partner does
They want to do it quick or don't have the time required for relationship sex
Their partner is traveling or away from their partner
It's convenient, like in the shower in the morning or evening
It is their best attempt to remain faithful to the marriage because they are really unhappy and don't have anyway to resolve marital conflict outside the bedroom
They do not desire the kind of sex they will have with their partner
It's fun
They want to indulge in a fantasy that they are: too afraid, embarrassed or fear rejection from their partner to share with them
They just want an orgasm and they know how best to get there in the fastest way possible
To learn more about their own body and what they like and how to reach orgasm

[AustinMan]

Don't worry.

Question: Would you happily have sex anytime he wants it as long as the work is getting done?

[Varanus]

Totally normal

[4eyes2mouths]

It's normal. Both my partner and I will masturbate ourselves if we think the other one is too busy for sex.

[Texasgal95]

No don’t worry sometimes they want to explore

[biggdaddyhawk1975]

I'm not gonna say if it's normal or not
It just is what it is. Try to ask if you can help him out with a little rub and tug. Or don't even ask catch him laying down walk in with his favorite lubes and suck and jerk him in to another universe