Married but in love with someone else?

[Anonymous]

I have issues in my marriage. I feel like we are just roommates with no affection or sexual chemistry. Sex feels like a chore. I tried telling my husband and even asked for counseling several times but he refused. Not only that but I just never received the emotional closure from him and he says he just doesn’t know how to express it. Anyway I started getting close to my coworker a few months ago because I was going through a rough time in my life. First I started having feelings for him and eventually the feelings got so strong that it got physical. I told my husband our marriage isn’t working anymore and I wanted to open our relationship but he told me he doesn’t want that. Anyway I broke things off with my lover and Last night I had sex with my husband because after I told him I don’t want to be in the marriage anymore and he told me I needed to try so I thought I needed to have sex with him but I feel disgusting. I feel like I cheated on my lover and don’t want to have sex with my husband ever again. I told him I want a divorce but he keeps guilting me into staying and tells me to give him more time to get comfortable with the idea of a divorce. I just can’t do it anymore what should I do?

[summiter]

If he will not get counseling and you still feel strongly that there is no emotion or sexual chemistry then perhaps a divorce is the best option. Do not let him know about the sex with a co-worker it will complicate things during the divorce.

[Asker]

Thanks for actually giving advice instead of bashing me about my life choices...

[Rippersavage]

The answer is simple, just get a divorce. U say he's guilting u into staying but the fact of the matter is u are responsible for ur own actions, if u want to leave then leave. U probably should have gotten the divorce before u got "physical" with another man

[ThatQuietLass]

Wow.
Stop being cheating trash.
You deserve to feel happy in a relationship, but being that cheap of a whore isn't the way to go around it.

[Asker]

Finding comfort in someone else’s arm when my husband would yell at me and make me feel like piece of shit everyday is being a cheap whore? I was scared of walking away. I hope you don’t end up in my position then you’ll get that not everything is black and white.

[ThatQuietLass]

😂🥱 really is. You're just ashamed to admit you acted like trash.

[Asker]

Awww seems like you’re so insecure and messed up in the head you go around calling people names and bashing them to feel good about yourself. No one asked for your opinion about me with your ugly ass

[ThatQuietLass]

You literally asked for opinions by posting. 😂😂😂 I didn't have to go anon to admit being a cheater. 🤷 😂😂 And you've never even seen my ass to comment on it.

[Neko911]

Don't make excuses for cheating. You choose to develop feelings and cheat. Leave if you're unhappy

[AustinMan]

It sounds to me like you're gonna have to take charge and drag him to a couple's therapist. It sounds to me like he's blocked emotionally and some therapy can go a long way toward opening things up.

[Asker]

I don’t want to anymore. I don’t love him anymore

[AustinMan]

For your consideration: it may be a lot less effort and have a greater chance of success to invest in this relationship than to start and confirm a new one.

[Zannika02]

Why wait go file for divorce...

[TheFlak38]

the same story every fuckin time. Don't get married, guys. It never ends well for the man.

[Asker]

That’s true because men like you emotionally abuse women until they go against their morals

[ThatQuietLass]

If she cheats, she never had morals.

[TheFlak38]

oh please cry me a river you dirty slut. you live in a time in which men have never been more lonely and desperate for female validation. Women today have their thousands of options and get marriage proposals at the drop of a hat. The only reason sluts like you get married is because of your alpha fucks beta bucks strategy. You want the good cock but you also want the dumb lonely man to pay for your bills and shopping habits. Women always want to have things both ways. Then you present yourself as the victim because that brings to a position of power. Fuck off.

[ThatQuietLass]

While I agree with your pinning of her character, try not to assume all of us are like that.

[Rippersavage]

"That’s true because men like you emotionally abuse women until they go against their morals" Holy shit, now that has to be the most pathetic way of justifying ur cheating I've ever seen

[Anonymous]

Is this what leads women to file 80% of divorces?