Im a girl dating a girl but I’m attracted to guys. what do I do?

[Anonymous]

My best friend and I fell in love with each other and have been secretly dating for three years now (we’re both girls and have never dated the same gender before) i was never attracted to girls before her. I was bicurious but never actually attracted to any girl. I genuinely fell in love with her which made me very attracted to her but now i feel like im in a dilemma because as much as i love her and am attached to her I’m attracted to men and it lowkey bothers me that I’ll never be able to be with a man because I’m in a serious relationship with a woman. I have to act like im not interested in any guy too because we’re not public we’re a secret no one knows about our relationship so everyone thinks I’ve just been single for this long which is also a downside to this relationship. She’s recently been complaining about our sex life she thinks im not attracted to her because I don’t initiate as much anymore or turn down sex but the truth is i just overthink it I don’t get too turned on from the female body compared to the male body. In the beginning i did because it was new and exciting but now i just feel like im going back to my old real ways and my genuine attraction was always towards men but i can't tell her this it’ll just ruin things and I don’t wanna lose her i really love her and i know how much she loves me. She even says she’d die or kill herself if she ever loses me so it worries me to hurt her. I even started incorporating sex toys like dildos to our sex life which made it better but i wish i can just stop being attracted to men and overthinking because its getting in the way of my relationship. Any advice?

[Kaneki05]

1st If she's saying she will hurt herself if you leave her that's emotional abuse.
2nd if you cannot be honest about your feelings to someone you love what's the point?
3rd if she loves you, she will listen to your feelings and try to understand.

[Asker]

We’re extremely honest with each other which is why this is so hard for me i made it clear though i told her im mostly straight im not attracted to girls and that she’s the only girl I’ve ever been attracted to and she sees how i get very attracted to male celebrities and she gets very insecure about it. Even when i suggested sex toys she was skeptical at first because thought it resembled a dick and was worried I’d like it more but i talked her into it.

[Bagggy]

Well you know what you gotta do. It sure might be hard. But that's what's gotta happen eventually. Just don't dump her and ask her to move on. Share your genuine feelings, let her know you're still available to her. Even though she wouldn't want to talk to you anytime soon, it definitely makes them feel better while recovering.
The more longer you stay in a relationship you don't want to, the more agony there's going to be

[mich15smith]

talk to your partner and either break up or deal with it.

[Twalli]

If she's bi or bicurious also she might be okay with adding a guy to your relationship.

[bklynbadboy1]

The problem is your not lesbian your bi now that you've been without the D so long you crave it the best thing you can do it tell her the truth its gonna be a hard conversation to have but it has to be done. Cause if you don't talk to her your going to cheat

[REDHOTLINE]

I think you are besesual and you should br in threesome relationship. Find a man accept her and she accept him and threesome relation

[tallcuck]

Threesomes or cuckolding. Don't force yourself to be lesbian. That is a dead end street for life. Stay bi and have options if you can't be straight...

[Anonymous]

Suppose you and your girlfriend break up and you start dating a guy and having sex. Will you then miss all the things that two girls do together sexually?

[Asker]

Yes. Which is also frustrating me. I’d first of all probably feel like shit and miss her a lot since she’s extremely loyal and in love with me and always there honestly dont think id ever find someone like her who would love me and care for me the way she does. And yes part of me is worried that maybe im just bored because in the beginning i was very into it since it was new and exciting and now i feel like being with a guy is whats new and exciting (even tho I’ve been attracted to them) but at the same time i still like being with her and would probably miss being sexual with her. I feel like i always want what i can't have but at the same time i always want her because i love her but at the same time i want a guy because I’m more physically and mentally attracted to them but feel guilty for feeling that way because im dating a girl. I know im all over the place i need help lol

[Opinion Owner]

What you are saying, essentially, is that you feel you can't be happy being monogamous with either gender. Would she give you "a pass" to try having sex with a guy? Would she be interested in a threesome with a guy?

[Asker]

Definitely not. And I wouldn’t either it would feel wrong despite me being more open minded than her. She’s extremely territorial she even hates it when i post anything “too attractive ” for people to see on social media. She’s even more insecure because the relationship is a secret so people just think im single and there’s nothing she can do about it. The thing is i feel like i can't even trust my own emotions. My feelings never last sometimes i feel like this and then other times i feel like im exactly where i belong with her and couldn’t be happier. Just me typing this makes me feel like shit because i usually keep these feelings to myself because saying them out loud would make them real and typing them to strangers on the internet is making it more real which is just making me feel horrible because if she ever found out she’d be heartbroken. I think im just a very confused person who wants too many different things at once but at the same time doesn't want anything. I don't know whats wrong with me.

[Opinion Owner]

I have no idea how you make yourself stop being attracted to either girls or guys and I don't envy the position you are in. I was married to a girl who was bisexual and she cheated on me with another woman. We divorced soon afterwards and I would never again even date a bisexual woman because I would never again want to take that chance. One thing I do know is that, ultimately, you must confront your feelings. Perhaps therapy or counselling is something you need to consider.