Has sex ever hurt, and have you cried during sex?

[Anonymous]

This is mainly for the woman.. Sometimes when I am having intercourse it'll just feel like friction and for some reason the one night it just overwhelmed me, I started slightly hyperventilating, then I started quietly crying but I didn't want him to know because I wanted him to still feel and think he's doing great.

The thing was is that I was also really tired and not really in the mood. He didn't force or anything, he just dropped his tone and stopped being super cuddly.. So then I gave in and told him we could try..

Recently I have just not been very sexually interested, maybe porn has something to do with it. Maybe I should stay abstinent. It doesn't change my love for my boyfriend though. I just don't feel like I want to be very sexually active and I just don't know why it's not enjoyable everytime.

[iFarted]

Often times you should do whats right for you and if you weren't feeling up for sex at then you shouldn't have sex. If he was a good guy then he'd understand. It takes 2 to tango and if both aren't on the same step then it's not going to be a very good dance.

I have had sex that hurt. Yes, I'm a guy, sex did hurt and it didn't involve anything going into my bum.
My first time having sex with my ex in the shower resulted with my foreskin getting a tear. Water and a ladies natural lube does not mix well.. Water will just flush away a girls pussy juice/lube. We were showering together, we were touchy feely with each other, I got a hardon and she decided to grab it then stick it in her. There was an instant pain.. like when you get a paper cut and you wash your hands type of pain but on the dick and more painful. I flinched and she saw my facial expression then we both looked at my slightly bleeding dick... we didn't have sex for 3 weeks.

I've never cried, but my other ex cried when we had sex on mollies. She swore that she was just soo happy and it felt soo good. She later said she didn't even know why she was really crying, but couldn't stop. I don't know what that was about.

[Asker]

I have heard that some woman get so positivly overwhelmed with pleasure pleasure they get "crygasams" where it's nothing bad, just uncontrollable. I think after over a year of being with my man we'll probably have to try lubricant 😅 I did bring it up to him that I haven't had a strong sex drive lately and that I'd like to do more cuddling, watching tv, or playing games together. He seemed sort of bummed about me bringing it up, didn't make a deal about it though. I don't want him to feel like it's him. It isn't.

[iFarted]

Can't have the same routine for a year and expect it feel like you guys are having sex for the first few times. How your man is feeling happens to a lot of couples where they're already accustomed to doing the same thing so you wanting to try to spice it up for yourself is probably a burden. (I know it sounds bad, people are usually creatures of habit). Don't just let him do it if you're not enjoying it whatsoever. Imagine you doing that the rest of your life if you're with him.

[Asker]

Thanks. I won't let him take advantage of my soft spots for him. I need to do what's right for me.

[iFarted]

Yep yw, just be civil and reasonable with him.

[andy530]

Being mentally turned on is key to becoming physically turned on enough to have sex. It sounds like you weren’t physically or mentally turned on enough to be having sex that time.

[Sheyhoney]

I know what you mean, sex can be painful if you’re not properly lubricated. It could be that you are feeling that way due to stress or anxiety. Try doing things you love with your boyfriend and connect intimately with him without having sex. Once you start having that intimacy and relaxation, you will be able to tell when you’re ready to have sex again. Just talk to your partner about your drive and that you would like to just spend time with him doing fun things together or just cuddling and if he loves you he will be patient and understanding. Don’t push your body to do painful things, and if a lubrications problem continues, try talking to your doctor about it and see if any lubes could assist you as well. 💕

[Asker]

Thanks so much, I feel like everything you said is exactly what I needed to hear. You're awesome.

[Sheyhoney]

I’m glad it helped. Message me if you need any more help !

[Sakura-san]

I cried once when he came in me and i ended up with his kids. lol

[snowstormcroissant]

do what makes you feel comfortable, it hurt a little my first time, never cried

[bethgurl]

I cried when masturbating

[Anonymous]

Never cried during sex; but that is because I am still a virgin.