Is my guy friend into me and wanting to turn our friendship in a relationship or does he just want a blowjob?
We met in high school and got to know each for five years. We were both in serious relationships but I've always been attracted to him. I moved away, came back, we ran into each other, exchanged numbers. I called needing help moving in, he helped! We get along great! Great conversation discussing everything from politics, family, past relationships, sexual history and sex. He told me he'd rather debate with me than anyone else.
He likes to give me shotguns when we smoke and always says I have soft lips!
He's laid down and said I could take advantage of him. I didn't do anything because he needs to make the first move. He's never said he likes me. He's asked me come to his house and watch a movie. I said I can do some laundry. I really wanted to go but was tired. I think he was offended. He does my laundry once or twice a month for me and drops it off.
Then he directly asks me if I want to give him a blowjob. My first thought is why wouldn't he ask me for sex? Is he not attracted to me? I asked him, "Have you ask a lot of girls for blowjobs in the past? He said "Yeah, I have, and I got a one!"
He's asked me to go out and one time I said yes. He had to run an errand and was come back to pick me up. I get a text asking if I still want to go out and if I want to give him a bj after? Feeling frisky, "Yes, and me first!" No response. Frustrated and feeling rejected, I asked, "How attracted are you to me? Do you use this line on a woman you want to date? Do you see how I can take this as you disrespecting me?"
A week passes before he calls & comes over. At this point, I don't think he's into me. There's a chance he is & doesn't want to go down on me. I'm not gonna give him a bj unless he's willing to give me an orgasm. When I asked why he's again asking for a bj, he said "Because I think you'd be good at it"
He tells me I'm beautiful/good looking/hot. There's a lot of eye contact. It's all a major build up and I'm about to pop. Does he just want a bj or is he into me?
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I continued to keep it just friends and then yesterday he called and said his ex, baby mamma, moved out and asked me over for dinner. He came clean and said the ex was still trying to make it work and using the daughter to keep him under her thumb. She fought a lot and yelled in front of the daughter and things didn't work out. I decided that I would end my 17 month abstinence and be with him since we're comfortable around each other with strong sexual chemistry. It was a long night.
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After we had sex and yes, it was my first and I'm sure only time where it started with me giving him oral. Then lots of sex. And the BIG surprise, he went down on me! It was the best I've ever had. He wanted cuddle after. Then he came back later, grabbed three loads of laundry and we agreed to meet up later that night. I talked to him five hours after the time we were supposed to meet. I was upset. He thought I didn't have any reason to be upset. Then wouldn't answer my calls.
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Turns out he was in a relationship with his baby mama. They never really broke up or at least not for any real amount of time. She did leave him/move out when he called and asked me over for dinner and we had sex, so he was single when we slept together. Found out yesterday she's pregnant with second child; a boy due in May. Baby's mama friend showed up at our mutual friend's house yesterday and told baby mama about me. She messaged me last night on FB messenger.
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