Was I wrong for telling this woman how I feel?

[Anonymous]

I told this woman how I felt about her. I told her that I thought she was sexy and that I wanted her. And this is what her girlfriend replied with. She’s the one talking in the gray. And I’m the one talking in the green.

[Anonymous]

I guess it's okay to be honest with your feelings and get them off your chest but the woman's reaction is also understandable and healthy. You did mention you said you wanted her girlfriend and that would alarm any sane and inlove partner. Guy/girl if you tell my boyfriend that, I'd react the same way too and be protective. Just put yourself in her shoes and leave it at that. Don't bother them anymore especially since you have told them how you feel or felt already. If you continue to do so then that would just be wrong since they are in a relationship.

[Asker]

Why would it alarm you if you’re in love? If the relationship is solid then there shouldn’t be any reason to be alarmed. Just because someone is in a relationship that doesn’t mean that other people aren’t going to want them. Leave them alone? As I mentioned I haven’t talked to her in almost a decade. She had me blocked for nine years and she recently unblocked me. I haven’t been talking to her. Also why didn’t she tell me this herself? Instead of having her girlfriend do it?

[haflelife]

wow that is a lot of women... if she already has a girlfriend why would you tell her you wanted her? you want a threesome or something? or did you expect for her girlfriend to be happy about it?

[Asker]

What’s a lot of women? I didn’t know she had a girlfriend. And just because she has a girlfriend that means she can’t be wanted by other women? I have been holding my feelings for a long time. I couldn’t take it anymore I had to say something.

[haflelife]

nothing, just never seen a love triangle amongst women, if you didn't know then you didn't do it on purpose, of course she can be wanted by other woman (send me pics of the fight), i understand, you weren't wrong for telling then, one less weight off your shoulders, but is it over now or are you really going to fight? lol

[Asker]

Why do you think we are going to fight? Nobody said anything about a fight.

[haflelife]

lmao, well her girlfriend clearly knows who you are, and if you keep insisting on it she won't like it, i thought everybody liked girls fighting... Either way, not much you can do about it, unless your crush leaves her girlfriend for you, which i find unlikely

[Asker]

Yeah, she knows that she and I knew each other from awhile ago. So what? That doesn’t mean we are going to fight. I’m not going to send her anymore flirty or sexy messages. Who says she’s going to leave her? People don’t always stay together forever.

[haflelife]

yeah, you're a woman after all so there is always the usual solution for most problems, waiting I wish you well, if there won't be any fighting i'm outta here

[Asker]

It’s weird that she says I put her in a situation. That doesn’t make sense.

[I-have-a-biscuit]

Everyone is so respectable here. I think it went in the best possible way, realistically speaking.

[Asker]

Yeah, but why didn’t she tell me this herself? That’s what I don’t understand.

[I-have-a-biscuit]

Dunno, it is what it is

[Asker]

Just because someone is in a relationship doesn’t mean other people aren’t going to want them.

[Bad_Man55]

Nothing wrong with being honest and getting things off your chest