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How do I tell my boyfriend that I want to swallow his cum and that I would like him to be more dominate?

I love to suck my boyfriend off but im extremely submissive so I always wait for him to tell me what to do. Well he rarely tells me what to do (I guess he’s scared I won’t want to do it) but I really want him to be more assertive and dominating in the bedroom. I also have noticed when he does ask me to suck him he always gets me to edge him and then fucks me until he cums but I really want to swallow it but I’m to afraid to tell him. Any advice on how to get him to be more dominant
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You'll never have a satisfactory relationship if you can't be honest about what you want. You could ask him "Why don't you just come in my mouth?" and say "I would be love it if you would just do what you want to me. I would love for you to (things you want him to do)"

    If he reacts by shaming you for having those thoughts then he's not the man for you. There are plenty of guys who would love to have a sexually submissive partner.

    It's possible he can't climax while he passively receives oral from you. If you really want him to come in your mouth, practice suppressing your gag reflex so you take all of him, then let him fuck your mouth.

    • No he’s made me stop before so he could finish in a rag

    • That's really weird. What does he say about this? It's not much of a relationship if you can't talk openly about sex.

    • I haven’t really talked to him about it. I honestly just hoped that the further into this we got the more willing he’d be do it without e asking

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  • Good news for you. Most men would love to be told what you wanna say to him.


    If you’re shy to say it, show it. Actions speak louder than words.


    When you giving him some head (I’m proud of you by the way 😉) and he tries to stop you to switch positions, just don’t stop.


    When you wanna be ravaged, lay down on the bed naked and tell him “I’m yours (maybe add “daddy” or “baby” if you want), have your way with me” and look him dead in the eyes and don’t break eye contact.


    He gonna fill you up then. 😂😂 let me know if he doesn’t 😉

    • I’d love to call him daddy because it’s a huge kink for me but I don’t want him to be weirded out by it

    • Haha well you’ll never know till you try. In the mean time, feel free to reach out to me if I can be of assistance 😉

    • I’ll follow you because I have some questions lol if you want to dm me

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  • Most guys are into being told what u want... guessing can be fun but being told ur wants... goes straight for the win! If I want to open up that discussion I say babe, are u curious about something to try in bed? U can say urs like I want to taste ur cum or swallow u or anyway u want to put it... say I want u to be a bit more assertive w what u want too.

    • I agree 100% , he's yours if you try these: babe i want your sperm in my belly or a classic real experience, next time if he's going somewhere on his own (social event, work trip) before he leaves tell him he's going no where with those balls full of cum!!! i want you to unload every last drop of cum in my mouth first... worked for me ;-)

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  • What if you found out he wasn't in to all that? You would probably dump the poor guy, so sad... Anyway, if you're really into that... all you can do is talk to him and tell him directly what your needs and desires are. However, he would already be doing everything you want if that was what he was into and comfortable with. The only sure thing I can say about this... is he will look, think or treat you the same way ever again. Be careful what you wish for, you may get more than you ever thought possible.

  • Communication is the most important part of the relationship. Tell him you want him to cum in your mouth, tell him you want it bad from him. It's a tease to him.
    As for the dominance, some guys are into it some aren't. Tell him you want him to be more aggressive/dominant and Say what you want from him.
    He won't just spontaneously do it without you asking for it

  • Well, maybe you should have an evening where you both have a glass of wine or some beverage, and have a talk. You will need to step out of your submissive role for a bit and let him know what you want, and talk about it.
    Communication is one of the best things you can do in any relationship. So start now and you will have an amazing relationship with your man.
    Good Luck.

  • Unfortunately, some guys just can't.
    A real man would not need to be told

    • I hope that’s not true. I think he’s just still in the phase of trying to figure out what I want without pushing me to far

    • Could be. But he should recognize what you need

    • How long have you been together with him?

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  • Tell him you'd really like to please him by swallowing but want to take it slow so you're both comfortable with it. If you find it awkward to talk about, try watching some porn together that you know includes cum swallowing. After he sees a few loads swallowed by the girls on screen, ask him if it would be okay with him if you did that. If he wants you to do it, get him talking while you're blowing him. Tell him to tell you what he wants you to do, and keep him talking and telling you what to do. For example does he want you to suck harder or jerk him faster. Ask him if he wants you to swallow quickly as he ejaculates or if he wants you to show him his load on your tongue before you swallow it. After you swallow it, tell him how much you love his cum, thank him for it, and that you can't wait for him to tell you what to do next time.

  • Tell here what you want to do but use submissive words.
    "Can i please drink your cum daddy?"
    Get on ur knees and say "I'm really thirsty for ur juice"

    Or next time he edges and fucks u to cum, you pout afterwards and say something like "I'm a little sad. You always tease me. You let me boil your soup, but when I get ready to drink your soup, you pull out of my mouth. Can't you let me drink your soup sometimes?"

    (A girl said this once to me on the phone. Regretfuly I never got a chance afterwards to hook up with her for another round. Life happens)

  • sit down and have a real talk with him. research the fetishes you both are you into and compare what you both are willing to do. if he is into doing that, set up a contract.

  • Talk to him..

  • Tell. gim. what you like. He doesn't have the ability to read your mind.

  • Tell him to lay on his back, blindfold him and go to it.

  • open his zip, take his load and use your tongue.
    I am sure he can't control.

  • Tell him you want to be his cum slave and your throat is his to deposit his seed. Beg him to feed you. That should embolden him to treat you like his whore.

  • this question turns me on, while i know i'm capable of being dominant in the bedroom, sexually, i'm unfortuneately not that way in relationships or dating. W

  • Be open and frank.

  • Its on you to let him know-show him this post

  • If I had a girlfriend who said that she wants me to ejaculate in her mouth so she can experience swallowing it, I think I'd get hard right then and there... LOL

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