Why are women far more judgmental when it gets to looks?

[JessieBellll]

[RandomLoser]

From my experience the divide is racial not gender. Both white males and females tend to be the most judgmental about looks even to the point of openly insulting you in your face.
In contrast both black men and black women tend to be quite cool in general. Non-white hispanics are also somewhat pleasant.

Segue: This is probably why whites invite so many non-white immigrants into their countries. White people just can't stand each other and they want someone else around. In fact there's a new trend where white women chemically castrate their sons to turn them into girls cause white women are so disgusted by the look of male sex organs they'll do anything to cut them off including the sex organs of their own sons.

[Novacane]

Women tend to be more discreet in everything and are very detailed. Guys can be simple as long as someone is pretty they would label them as pretty. But ask a girl if they think someone is cute they start calculating many things they would consider before calling someone cute.

[Ozanne]

I can't ignore the fact that *most* men prefer women who aren't overweight. Does this count? Because if so, a lot of men and boys can be harshly judgmental about women's bodies, which is part of the package as far as looks go.

So when you have one side judgmental about one way or looking, and the other side judgmental about another way of looking - both men and women can be just as bad. Luckily there are good people out there who don't allow these things to rule their love life, but I have met both men and women who are fiercely single because they refuse to settle for anything less than drop dead gorgeous - which is a bit weird when they themselves are often not.

[mistixs]

That's false.
If it was true, then why are gay/bi men and straight/bi women much more likely to suffer from eating disorders and body image problems than straight men and lesbians? It's because they're trying to attract men, and men care more about physical appearance than women do.
As an example I have a gay friend with an eating disorder who said he probably wouldn't have an eating disorder if he was straight because women are more open to different body types than men are.

[RandomLoser]

They have eating disorders due to mental illnesses not due to who isn't attracted to them.

[mistixs]

@RandomLoser It is true that eating disorders are mental illnesses, but you realize that external factors contribute to mental illness, right? Like depression is a mental illness too, but it usually doesn't just come out of nowhere.
If pressure to appease the gender of interest has nothing to do with it, why are gay men more likely to have body image issues, while gay women are less likely to have body image issues? Sounds like a pretty strange coincidence to me. www.impactprogram.org/.../

[mistixs]

Note: I'm not saying the only reason people get body image issues is that they want to attract men, just that being judged by men is a contributing factor to the reason body image issues are more common among gay/bi men and bi/straight women than straight men and lesbians.

[RandomLoser]

And external factors might just be they get bullied in general. Or they're simply more sensitive and have thin skin. Straight/bi women don't care about being sexually attractive to men. In fact it's the opposite. They don't want to be sexually objectified by men. The male gaze and the male lust disgusts them, it's not something they seem it's something they want to avoid.

[RandomLoser]

*seek

[mistixs]

@RandomLoser there's a difference between being sexually attractive and sexually objectified. You think lesbians are bullied less than straight women?

[RandomLoser]

Sexually objectified and sexually attractive are the exact same thing. It's when the guy gets thoughts about having sex with you. Lesbians don't get bullied less they just might have thicker skin. I read that lesbians have male brains and gays have female brains.

[mistixs]

@RandomLoser oh okay so you're a troll. Got it.

[RandomLoser]

What's the difference between being sexually attractive and being sexually objectified?

[Screenwriter]

Are they? Men are supposed to be more visually oriented, so this goes against common knowledge and surveys concerning men and women and sexuality.

[DrunkAss]

Why are ravenous people less judgmental than food critiques, isn't it?

[DrunkAss]

In my experience, if you ask a girl why she doesn't like another's looks, she has a detailed explanation. I might not agree with it (usually I don't), but it seems more nuanced than the hubba-bubba stuff I usually get from guys who are straight.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Maybe because women are more moved by beauty then men are. Women also see more color than guys. Also maybe because women are so emotional

[TonyV]

I really dont know. I think its them growing up on that side of the dating double standard. So many options for them that they get super picky.

I don't know I feel pretty open to most looks but it seems most women hold out for the guys that are over 6 foot🤷‍♂️

[normalice]

They are told from a very young age that looks are basically going to be their bread and butter forever. Naturally, they would want to believe themselves above average in that game and judging other women harshly allows such belief.

[wittymilf]

I’m not 🤷‍♀️

[The_Inquisitor]

they are more focused on appearance than guys are by nature

[slatyb]

I think it's about equal. It mostly depends on the relative numbers of men and women. In places where there is a shortage of eligible women, the women can be more demanding, and vice versa.

[ManOnFire]

Because they are actually more focused on appearance than men.

[Don-__-Don]

I'm going to take a shot in the dark on this one.


Because women have always been cultured to have their looks to be a high priority in life.

Make up can be considered a by product of this.

For this reason woman just care more about appearance, since they care all the time.

Thus, are more judgmental when it comes to appearance.

[Avicenna]

I think it's because women have been socialized by other women to get the best deal they can in a guy. This extends to them being judgmental of other women's looks as well.

[Dargil]

Yes, of each other.
If men had their way, women would not bother with all the makeup and elaborate hairdo's. Ditto elaborate clothes and breast implants. This is women competing with women.

[mistixs]

Tell that to all the women who get pressured by their boyfriends to get breast augmentations.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

This is something I often wondered but I have always managed to find girls online to talk with who never seem to judge me thou I do have low self-esteem issues

[mich15smith]

i don't think they are? I don't know and there isn't that good a way to determine whether or not they are

[JKingOff]

No idea.

[Ianto]

It is evolutionary. Women select good looking partners because good looking offspring have a better chance of reproducing. Men are more opportunistic, taking any chance to reproduce they encounter.

[n12345678910]

Internalized oppression. Women are the most targeted when it comes to looks, due to societal oppressions and institutional oppressions. For example, the media mostly portrays women as objects and overly sexualized, extremely filtered, etc. And then there are many barriers in the workforce, police agencies, and education fields because of the way a woman looks. So since these ideals and barriers are forced on everyone including women, men participate but women often participate even more because of their own internalized oppression. Like if a woman always struggles with her body issues for all these reasons and tries really hard to look "normal" or "beautiful" then she'll be jealous, hurt, or annoyed that another woman doesn't have to do this (even if she does) and will be judgmental towards her.

[Tiffanyloves2swallow]

We can be picky with everything some are like that and some aren't we are not all the same

[NickCharm]

Because women are more judgmental on everything-they are FAR the more judgmental of the genders! ("I'm perfectly satisfied and would not change a thing!" said No woman EVER for long!) They are as harsh on each other as they are on men-harsher even!

[Gedaria]

Possibly of themselves. I know I am..