How much protection to prevent pregnancy?

[Anonymous]

Hello guys,

I am in a long term relationship and we have not had sex yet because I am a virgin and I was not ready (also, there are men out there willing to wait as long as it takes, theyre not gone yet!)

However, we are thinking about it, and I am doing some research for the safety and protection.

My periods are hella irregular, 3 months ago I even skipped a month, so having sex with irregular periods while I suffer from anxiety would make me and my boyfriend go insane. Therefore, i need some help based on your own experiences and what has worked best for you (or what has not, if you’re comfortable talking about it of course).

I was thinking condoms + birthcontrol (taken regularly) + the pull out method, to insure 100% protection from unwanted pregnancy and any sexually transmitted diseases (my boyfriend was not a saint before he met me, he has said that he has never had any symptoms, but we know better than to trust men on this).

Also worth to mention, is that, all of my relatives are super fertile and get pregnant easily, so i might or might not have the same fertility as them.

Why I am making a big deal out of this is because where I live, abortion on any circumstance (even abnormal fetus) is completely illegal. I am only 20, just graduated university, have a good job and a good future ahead, i dont want to risk it.

Even though, this depends on different individuals and their preferences, i would love to have some advice so i can be prepared and protected.

Thank you a lot if you respond to this and for taking your time reading all that.

[virgin20]

I'm notnsire whether pulling out is completely necessary.
The pill has a really high efficiency rate and it will also help with your periods. Different ones do different things but they are 99.9%.
Condoms are also 99.9% effective. They do stop most if not all sperm going into you.
If all fails you can take the morning after pill which has the highest efficiency rate since it basically takes away the area for any fertiliser egg to house in.

[Asker]

Thank you very much, this was really helpful

[virgin20]

Happy to be! My mate and his girl (she's on the pill) he just goes raw and has done for almost a year with no pregnancy. You can also track your periods just see when each month and find a pattern. Sperm can live up to 3 days in the body. Pill + condom is the safest way but the condom isn't always necessary if you want to do it naturally further down the line!

[Asker]

Yup my friends also, but different bodies different reactions, I have a good family history on fertility, so thats what im most terrified of. I track my periods for 5 years now and unfortunately im unable to find a pattern, its frustrating. I thought that with age they will regulate themselves, but unfortunately no regulation yet :( and the only thing that calms me down is knowing that im a virgin, so when I will not be anymore I don’t know how to handle the paranoia

[virgin20]

Yeah that's a fair point. I'm a virgin myself like. Well the pill, there is different types and they might regulate your periods as well. They also effect the synthesis of the egg by reducing your hormones required to make it, so that's it's main function. If you have any concerns let me know either here or pm and I'll try help you out!

[Asker]

Once again thank you, the help is much appreciated:)

[virgin20]

More than welcome, good luck and have fun!

[MikeTheBartender]

99.99 percent effective is good odds for a one night stand. Over the course of your life you'll have enough sex that those aren't good odds. I'd stick w the original plan of multiple forms of birth control.

[virgin20]

In practice it's what we recommend, 2 forms but 1 form, 99.99% of the time is effective. The pill is the most popular choice and most effective. And there's always the morning after pill

[MikeTheBartender]

before I got my vasectomy my rule was always two forms of birth control, that means the guy has a condom and the girl is on birth control or whatever they were a few times where I rested and I made it out okay, but most of my friends didn't. You are on the right track I think with having your plan you won't be a single mom.

[Asker]

Thank you very much :)

[laceyylove23]

condom's are effective, or you could use the pill. either works, which ever one u prefer!

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[laceyylove23]

its okay

[Zannika02]

Pill, condoms should suffice. But pulling out w 2 others is pretty air tight.

[Asker]

Gotcha. Thank you for your opinion

[bowenw]

The only foolproof method is to not have intercourse and pleasure each other in other ways such as oral or anal. Having said that, your plan for combining condoms + birth control + pulling out should be 100% effective. Even if he doesn't pull out in time you should still be safe with condoms and birth control.

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[Twalli]

I got a vascetomy, but that's because I never want to father children

[Asker]

Can vascetomy be reversed?

[Twalli]

Depends on when you do it. 3-4 years is reasonably successful. At 5 years it drops below 50% (I think down to 40%), after 20 it's at 20%. That is likliehood of getting a woman pregnant.1-2 years, 90% after reversal, 3-4 years, 80% after reversal. Obviously the reversal has to be successful in the first place.