How do you trust your boyfriend to pull out during sex? Guys do you know yourself if are able to pull out in time?

[poneglyphs]

Just curious. How do you both get that trust within eachother?

[Italianchic]

That’s what my boyfriend and I use, along with me tracking my cycles and abstaining certain days. It’s been over two years and no accidents yet! But he also knows when he’s gonna cum and pulls out before and then I usually finish him. Or we’ll use a condom sometimes so he can finish in me. It’s not the safest but if you use your brain and do it correctly and along with other tracking it can be effective!

[poneglyphs]

hmm, so would you call it reliable if you do it correctly?

[Italianchic]

Yes and no. I also track when I ovulate and we either abstain or use a condom those days and are extra careful. But then days after I ovulate before my period we’re less careful bc there’s such a low risk. So I guess I’d say we use it, but also use natural birth control (tracking) on top of it

[poneglyphs]

So do you like the risk that cimes with pulling out? Of you guy play it that safe why aren't you on birth control pills?

[Italianchic]

I don't know why you’re obsessed with people liking “risk” but that has nothing to do with it. I’m not on birth control pills bc I don’t like putting artificial hormones in my body that can cause cancer and/or infertility down the road and come with a whole list of bad side effects. I’d rather us work together and pay attention to when my body literally tells me it’s fertile. If that means there’s a small risk then whatever. It’s been over 2yrs with no issue and honestly if I did get pregnant it wouldn’t be ideal but we’re gonna be married someday anyway so we’d make it work

[poneglyphs]

oh, okay, so, that's why you don't take birth control pills, interesting

[Italianchic]

Yeah. A lot of people take them bc they are easier. But they commonly cause weight gain and depression and can even decrease sex drive. They’re also artificial hormones that have been linked to cancer, especially breast cancer, and can cause fertility problems when you do want kids. Then the options such as IUDs or implants are also hormonal and can move from where they should be and cause severe injury. And even the non hormonal iud’s can still puncture your uterus. To me that’s a bigger risk than naturally tracking and pulling out. Granted it’s harder for some women but I have a very regular cycle and can literally feel when I ovulate. I also use test stripes to tell me exactly when I’m ovulating and are fertile. It’s more work, but works for us and is safer. When we’re married we’ll probably just rely on that and not pull out bc if we did get pregnant accidentally then it’d be fine bc we want a couple kids and once we have 2-3 he’ll probably get a vasectomy

[poneglyphs]

oh, well I didn't know that at all and that is some useful information

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I use the pullout method. We’ve just been together long enough that I know he’s gonna pull out every time. He’s proven that I can trust him in other ways, so I know I can trust him with this... and before anyone lectures me on the wisdom of using this method, yes we know risks and accept them.

[poneglyphs]

So, how did you guys develop that trust within each other?

[JuliaStyles]

You can trust anyone as much as you want but the pullout, even if timed right, can still result in pregnancy if there is any semen in the precum. Accepting the risks? Does that mean if you get pregnant you would have the baby or have an abortion?

[poneglyphs]

@JuliaStyles honestly I don't think they care but just love the risk that goes with it.

[JuliaStyles]

I guess that includes sex in public because of the thrill of the possibility of being caught.

[poneglyphs]

@JuliaStyles yeah I guess so, hey if she gets pregnant that's their fault

[Opinion Owner]

@JuliaStyles... and yet people still feel the need to lecture and prove their own superiority. The risks I choose to take are my business and my business alone. Keep your nose where it belongs.

[JuliaStyles]

When you put something on a public forum and ask opinions you have to take the good with the bad and those that don't agree with you. If this is something that you don't like then don't ask for opinions and just put yours down and disable replies. Simple enough, right?

[Opinion Owner]

Take your superior attitude somewhere else bitch.

[JuliaStyles]

Oh wah wah

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you’ve got some more 8th grade health lessons you can dole out to try to make yourself look smart? Go away little girl.

[McMillanD]

I know because I know he doesn't want kids (at least right now). The pull-out method is obviously not reliable in preventing that but It lessens the chance slightly.
It's not really about trust for me, it's more about knowing the other person and where they are at mentally, and I know he would rather not risk it.

[poneglyphs]

oh, okay, well that makes sense.

[RemoErdosain]

I think I'd be able to pull out, but I haven't tried it, nor will I. That's not a good method, and it has made lots of women pregnant

[JuliaStyles]

Not a good practice as some guys can't get out in time. Also there can be semen in the precum so even if he does get out in time there can still be a pregnancy.

[Twalli]

I think you mean sperm, as I produce sdnen but without sperm.

[JuliaStyles]

@Twalli So you had a vasectomy?

[Twalli]

Yes, best decision I made sexually

[CurlyGirl42]

Pull out is not a safe enough option for me to go for, so he would only get to fuck me without a condom if I am safe in other ways, in that case he can cum inside of me if he wants.

[poneglyphs]

Cool, I was just thinking about how some girls rely on that as birth control and it really doesn't work.

[Classyb]

Safe sometimes is the best option during all that raging sexual tension waiting to be released. Once it’s released it will be even more of a successful release when there’s a condom on.

[Zannika02]

Not a reliable method, hence why I take care of the bc. But that's just one side... if I'm not w them in a relationship than still a condom.

[iseekpinetrees]

Well you said it as is. Trust. You should trust the other person your dating in this case the girl should trust her boyfriend. And every guy can tell when they're about to cum its a matter of being responsible and not giving into that selfish "I wanna cum in her so bad!" Feeling.

Now strangers you can't always trust them lol.

[poneglyphs]

Can guys really know when they wanna cum? I thought that most of them just ejaculate early?

[iseekpinetrees]

No rarely guys cum early

[poneglyphs]

Oh, really so do only virgins cum early then?

[iseekpinetrees]

Not everyone who's losing their virginity does that. Its rare guys cum early or too fast

[poneglyphs]

For real I thought this was a common problem most guys have faced?

[iseekpinetrees]

Guys having sex for the first time they may or may not cum fast. Depends on the person.

[poneglyphs]

Oh really that's interesting, so how would I know if I will cum early or not?

[summiter]

It takes a lot of control and as you may know the pull out method does not work. Precum has some sperm in it. Just use a condom every time it is way easier and safer.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I pull out pretty good.

[TonyV]

Oh I dont trust myself to do the pull out right when I finally get to have sex, I'm definitely using a condom.

I wouldn't trust her to get off either, she may he feeling so good she wants to keep going.

[CapnHawk]

If you have half a brain, you don't have any trust with the pull-out method. Use birth control.

[wittymilf]

Time and understanding.

[poneglyphs]

oh, okay I know that pulling out is not reliable at all but I was just wondering how they trust each other so much?

[wittymilf]

Been using the pull out method for the past 10 years... it’s been pretty reliable but that’s because we trust each other completely... that being said there’s been a couple of drunk nights recently where I’ve had to ask him the next day and he’s been just a little shady on his answers 🤔

[wittymilf]

I’d like to add... I got pregnant on the pill and while using condoms 🤷‍♀️. I’ve found pull out method to actually be the safest but that’s only due to the trust

[cjgsu]

That doesn't work.🤦🏾‍♀️

If he wanna put it in me, he better put it in a condom first... period

[Avicenna]

It’s dumb to do that. Take it from someone whos gotten a few women pregnant.

[poneglyphs]

gotcha chief I was just curious that's all

[Gwenhwyfar]

Very hard for the guy to pull out in time even if he tries. I never rely on that as a bc method anymore.

[SarahP080102]

Love the Anymore at the end

[Gwenhwyfar]

@SarahP080102 yeah...

[poneglyphs]

Yeah, you're right but some girls and guys like to play risky games and love the idea of pulling out. D:

[SarahP080102]

Learn your lesson the hard way?

[poneglyphs]

@SarahP080102 in a way she did but that's for someother time.

[Drumlin2001]

Used the pull out method, i know when i'm close. Saves using condoms or unexpected pregnancies

[JosyJosy]

I wouldn't trust myself, I have this habit of wrapping myself around

[cth96190]

Pulling out does not work.
Say that to yourself a few thousand times, then look up the medical literature on the subject.
In the pre-ejaculatory drool, which every man has during sex, one will find sperm cell carried there from the prostate.
Also, it will be only a matter of time until an orgasm/ejaculation comes on so quickly that the man will nut inside the woman before he can pull out.

[Jacobthedude]

Honestly yes I can pull out just fine but that's not the issue. Semen can actually leak out before orgasim and ull never know. Please use a condom.

[Twalli]

I don't pull out because I can't get a girl pregnant and most STDs do not require ejaculation to be transferred

[poneglyphs]

true that I know you got a vasectomy I'm not sure if I want one but then again I do.

[Twalli]

Do you ever want to father children. If you never want to under any circumstances m, get one.

[poneglyphs]

hmm maybe you're right, I just don't want kids because I know that this world is crap and dying.

[Twalli]

If you are sure no girl could change you mind, then get one.

[poneglyphs]

hmm maybe I will make a question about this soon?

[Nazgol]

He's good at knowing when to pull out and it always worked