Is it normal to be sore after sex?

I love sex, but I can’t have it as often as I would like. My boyfriend always makes sure to do lots of foreplay, and I always orgasm, and the sex feels fantastic, but I always feel super sore afterwards. Because of this I can only have sex once or twice every few days. My boyfriend wants to have sex multiple times a day. Some days I try to keep up with him, but it’s hard. We’ll have fantastic sex in the morning, but then I kind of just have to grin and bare it if we do it again in the afternoon.
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  • To start with, sex shouldn’t hurt, and if it does, a good tip is to say “stop”, no matter what! The aftermath of sex also shouldn’t hurt – whether it’s two minutes, two hours or two days later.

    Even very vigorous intercourse where there’s lots of friction should not actually hurt. It can happen if there’s not enough natural (or artificial) lubrication or if there’s some muscle tension in the vagina. Both of these can be signs of not being fully aroused (turned on) beforehand or during sex, or being a bit anxious about having sex.

    The cause of your pain also depends on where it is – is it at the opening of the vagina, or other parts of the vulva? Is it related to peeing, and is it always in the same place?

    You deserve to be enjoying a happy and healthy sex life, and not feeling embarrassed about one of the most natural experiences in the world – even if it’s not always going right. It’s important you do get personal advice, since this could be something that needs treatment. It would be good to have a doctor or sexual health clinic check up, and this can all be done completely confidentially.

    I hope I answered your question. Any queries? Please feel free to ask.

    • The pain is just like in my vagina. I’m not sure how else to describe it. It’s just like it gets really tense and it can take a long time to relax again. I don’t get it though. He and I are super comfortable with one another. I want to have sex with him. He always does lots of foreplay to get me aroused. But after having sex it just tenses up and I can’t have sex comfortably again until it like relaxes again.

    • *"I’m not sure how else to describe it."* No worries. I will try to explain in best possible manner from every aspect. It might be because your partner is seriously well-endowed and have a big penis. Does his tool hit your cervix (located deep inside your vagina)? Taking a warm bath or heating pad might help you out before having sex to relax your muscles. If your vulva (or the opening to your vagina) really hurts or is swollen after sex. It's probably might be due to any past rough sex. You can try putting an ice cube or two in a thick washcloth or in a plastic bag and resting that on the outside of your underwear for 10 to 15 minutes. Don't put the ice inside your vagina—that will only irritate it more. I hope Pink Anonymous you are not facing itching, burning, or abnormal discharge. Do you both use latex condoms? It might be too personal question but it's to help you out and understand your issue in better manner.

    • No weird burning, itching, or discharge. We don’t use condoms. Latex condoms cause me to have a bad reaction, and so I got on the pill and stopped using them. Both my partner and I have been tested for stds and stuff. What is considered a big penis? Like what size?

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  • Just explain to him that you cannot keep up with him and you are sore. A good guy will understand. If he's horny when you are not ready, tell him it's okay with you if he masturbates or you can always give him pleasure in other ways such as a handjob or orally.

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  • Go to the doctor, and how can you be enjoying it if you are sore afterwards? Go see a doctor and be honest with your doctor about how sex is for you. No matter how big a man's penis is, your vagina doesn't burn or feel sore after sex unless there is an infection, friction due to dryness of chafing.

    • The sex is great. It doesn’t burn or anything like that. And he always spends lots of time on foreplay so I can get aroused and sometimes we use lube. I don’t have any weird smells or discharge down there. I’ve been tested for stds, but the doctors told me I was fine. I plan to go to the doctors soon, because I’ve been reading up on endometriosis, and I actually have a lot of the symptoms. I read that pain during and/or after sex is one of the symptoms of endometriosis. I just wasn’t sure if this was normal, or if it was another sign I might have endometriosis.

    • Go see a doctor because that is not normal, it is normal to be able to have sex everyday. When I used to feel pain and soreness, there was an infection yeast which is common and causes swelling. A big penis or small vagina also doesn't cause that problem, I still think you're lying that you enjoy the sex, the only way to fix the problem is to be honest with yourself. Sex became great when I learned my body and stopped feeling pain and discomfort.

  • He needs to understand that it is hurting you. If he wants to stay with you, he needs to compromise. right? Have you gone to a dr about why it is hurting? what kind of pain is it? If it hurts awful, don't do it. sex is suppose to be fun, not this.

    • sometimes, I may need a muscle relaxer before sex. That always helped.

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  • Foreplay is a good thing. Extra lube could help. It is also OK to tell him you need some recovery time. Mix it up, give him oral/blowjob.

  • Yes man she must have had a long session and/or a short rough one and/or you know

  • For gals, it can be common.

  • Sounds like vaginal bruising to me. You should go see your doctor about it.

  • Check with your doc is the best thing to do atm. Meanwhile you can try using lubes and check if that feels better. Also, try different positions.

  • Try KY that should help

  • If you did it right, yes! Lol just kidding, the truth is that if you do
    it rough and for an extended period you’ll be sore. Also if he’s big or too big for you it’s more likely that you’ll be sore.

  • Maybe his dick is big or his fuck session lust long

  • yes.
    most girl feel sore after sex.

  • If you're talking about sore like the body then it could be the position your having sex in. If you stay in the same position for an extended period of time you'll be sore later.

    If you're talking about your pussy being sore could be that he's being to rough.

  • yes, from my time in prison i can tell you that is normal

  • I’m with u, I love sex & I can go every day, even twice a day but my girl is happy with once or twice a week. And there are times she’s sore if we have sex more than once a week.