Do You Think Parents Should Buy Their Teen Children Vibrators? Did Your Parent Buy You One?

[bannacookies]

My friend (who is 19) bought herself one recently. Her mother found it and threw it away.
My friend said, "I can't blame her. If I was a mom I'd throw my child's vibrator away, too."
So, it got me thinking what others think about stuff like that.

[Ozanne]

This is horrible. The thought of my mom or dad buying me something for my sexual pleasure is just weird. It's none of their business out of everyone in the world how I feel pleasure.

I also don't think friends, extended family, or co-workers should buy them for anyone else - although I know that some people buy them either as a joke for bachelorette parties, or even close friends who think it would be okay. For me, it's not. A vibrator is for me, and for me to decide and shop for. Imagine some friend buying one and it's based on what *they* think is good, yet its functions are something I might not like.

Vibrators are personal, private devices, or used for couples as toys to enhance whatever they're doing. Therefore, in my opinion, the only people who should be buying them are the people who will be touching my genitals for pleasure. So that's me, and my partner. And that's IF I even want one.

[Ozanne]

Thank you for MHO :)

[bannacookies]

You're welcome.

[mistixs]

That would be super weird for a parent to buy their child a vibrator.
However, if they find out their child has one, I don't think they should throw it out. Just leave it be & pretend you never saw it. Any harmless activity that a teenager does in her own time is her own business. It's not like she's risking STDs or pregnancy, like she would be if she was having sex.

[TadCurious]

Cookie I wanted to think about this question a bit before answering. In my opinion I don't think parents need to be buying vibrators or other sex toys for their teenage kids. But here's the thing, I think teens are smart enough to get these things for themselves if they have a little money from work or an allowance. And I also think that if a parent were to find their kid's vibrator somewhere in their room they shouldn't make a big deal out of it and just ignore it. It's healthy for teens to masturbate and it's not going to hurt anyone if they use a toy to do that.

[humanearth]

Yeah, I am a dad. Thats something way to personal. Even if they ask. That way too far off the weird chart even for me

[AliceTheNguyener]

Nooooo LOLL what even is this question? 😂 Its super creepy and weird for parents to do that.

[testersite00]

that's a little too personal for parents to get involved, i don't think it should be thrown away, but def not gifted.

[OlderAndWiser]

When your daughter gets horny, would you rather have her diddling herself in her bedroom at home or out at a party taking some sleazeball into a strange bedroom?

[Novacane]

It's already tough to even have the sex conversations with them like them buying you vibrators/toys would be too weird. I understand why parents don't allow it, like think about it nobody wants their kids to start having sexual activities especially at a young age, so it's understandable why they react the way they do. For them, they still see you as their little baby and they want to protect that image of you.

[SomeBlondeChick]

That's just far too weird for a parent to buy their teenager a vibrator. Really it's none of their business but if they disagree with it like your friend's mother that's up to them. You're living in their house after all. Don't like it, move out.

[mistixs]

Even if someone is living in your house, that doesn't give you the right to throw out something they purchased with their own money (unless it is illegal, which this isn't). I generally agree that if you're living under someone else's roof then you should follow their rules, but even if someone is living in your house, it is very controlling to tell someone they shouldn't masturbate with a sex toy. It's like telling your adult child they're not allowed to wipe themselves in a certain way. These are personal and private things that a person shouldn't get involved with. Yeah yeah, sure. She can just move out. Whatever. That doesn't change the fact that what her mom did was wrong, and that's the topic under discussion.

[1stranger]

Her mother did wrong.
The last one is interesting, I've never seen it before.

[Barbaric]

No. People need to stop being so weird.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

That's a disgusting thought/idea.

[spartan55]

If anything, your friend should be pissed because those things aren't cheap.

[missy52]

They are. Tbh, you can get one for 15 bucks

[spartan55]

Yeah, but will it last more than three rounds?

[missy52]

Yes... Have you ever used a vibrator before?

[spartan55]

Of course, I was married ten years. Want to keep arguing?

[missy52]

I'm not arguing.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

No way. Sex should be private, and it should have a certain gravity to it which I think can get lost when parents are handing colorful sex toys to teens who already are as bad at remembering the condoms as they are good at thinking they know everything

[Astarlessnightsky]

If you want one buy it yourself

[Jjpayne]

It depends on their ethics. I think parents comfortable about masterbation could encourage it while others parents against it would not even want their adult girl playing with one as you mentioned. It depends on the parents. I think for me.. I would have to see when I got to that point... I've never masterbated myself but I'd adjust depending on conversations I'd have with my kids

[Agape93]

Chose A

[lanadelrey25]

Voted A, it's better so maybe they won't try fucking around and doing it in an unsafe way with real people.

[taeh_ie2]

I don’t think parents should go buy them for their kids, I think It would be better for them to discover those things themselves.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think parents should leave their child alone , if they want buy sex toys that should be their option, for a Mother to throw away her vibrator is crazy, shows you the Mother has no life my Mother never bought any of us sex toys but I believe nowadays parents need to either have a sex talk or buy sex toys for their child I think my Mother should have had sex talks with me and my sister, no we had to find out on our own

[Drumlin2001]

She wasn't a child. 19 is an adult. The mother should apologise and replace it.
Realistically, adolescents will have urges. Is it best to buy them a toy or let them roam the streets hooking up with randoms at house parties. I may be wary at 13. But by 15/16 if they wanted one i would probabpy get them one.

[Love2look]

I won’t make both sides happy on this but I was an only child and sex was never discussed. I was introduced to sex in many other ways and I kind of feel like I wish my mom , who’s awesome and loving and always beautiful would’ve given me pleasure by being naked together so I wouldn’t have gone completely fucking batshit with my sexuality.

[JakeS00]

If she got one I would just explain it to her in further detail it’s okay to use it, but it’s something you do and use this in private. If she was 19 it wouldn’t be a problem, because she can make those decisions as she’s independent.

[JakeS00]

But I wouldn’t want to question it, unless she came to me. Because being open is the best.

[Sophia001]

If I need a toy I can buy it