Why are some people so worried about men being rapists?

[Lynx122]

Rape is the easiest thing to scare people with and politicize it. It's just like when everybody was worried about someone putting something in their drink. The actual cases were almost non existent but everybody was talking about it. Now nobody even remembers it so it's probably not a big issue. Feminists have run out of ammunition and rape is the one thing they can still shout about where people are the most likely to listen. But even that's dying down because there's only so many times you can say rape culture before people tune out.

Honestly the thing that I'm worried about is hidden cameras. It's a thing that's very common in Korea which is otherwise a very safe country but they have an epidemic of hidden cameras. Cameras are so small nowadays and can even stream what they film. They can be hidden in nearly every object or in the wall. If this catches on in the west which I hope it won't we'll constantly have to be paranoid. Well women more than guys but I still don't hope it happens. It's unsettling to me.

[loveslongnails]

Let's look at some numbers.
* There are approximately 125 million males between the ages of 10 and 69 in the USA.
Let's call that our pool of possible rapists. There are another 35 million males outside of that range.
* If your 700k number is correct, that means 1 in every 179 males will commit a rape in the USA.
* The majority of rapes are committed by someone known to the victim
* Of college women reporting rapes, 80-90% knew the assailant, and over half of those rapes took place on dates.

So you can make what you like out of those numbers. Strictly speaking, if you aren't a college girl who's dating, and you don't know at least 179 guys, odds are you won't get raped.

[mistixs]

I don't think most men are rapists. I think that most men would rather beat up a rapist than commit rape themselves.

However, I was taught to be wary of strangers because if we don't know a person then we can't tell if they're good or bad. And I know for a fact that 99% of men are much stronger than me, which adds to the caution.

[Ozanne]

I think people shouldn't be less cautious with that information. It's always best to be safe out there. With that said, people should just ease up on the men. There's a big difference between being raped and just getting asked out while you're on the bus. Some women take things to the extreme, and it's not doing anyone any favours.

[MrOracle]

That's still 700,000 too many rapes per year.

The problem is, like lots of other systemic crime, there's a sizable part of the country that would, instead of punishing those offenders, would prefer to sweep it under the rug and ignore it, especially when it occurs on the wrong side of a political dividing line: gender, race, sexual orientation, political party, wealth, etc. And this allows many of those offenders to continue to offend, again and again.

Yes, there are situations where the line is pretty blurry, but there are also lots of situations where a crime has clearly been committed and those crimes aren't prosecuted. That should not happen.

[Anonymous]

To all those saying the 700K number is not accurate because a lot of rapes are not reported or prosecuted, the same is true of false rape accusations. The statistic we usually see is that something like 3%- 7% of rape accusations are false. But that is based on the accusations that are proven to be false, and VERY few false accusations are ever proven to be false for two reasons...

1) A large percentage of rape cases are dropped and never prosecuted due to lack of evidence. Feminist groups claim that is evidence that a lot of rapists get off the hook, but the reality is that in many, perhaps most of those cases there was a lack of evidence because there was no rape in the first place.

2) It is very difficult to actually prove an accusation is false because it's hard to prove a negative. Law enforcement knows that so they rarely devote the time and resources to proving an accusation is false even though is seems likely that is the case. So the 3% - 7% figure is only a tiny fraction of the actual number of false accusations.

In the end the number of unreported rapes is offset by the number of false rape accusations, which is much higher than most people realize.

[Inquisitive3]

I don't think it's good to worry about anything but it is good to be be cautious.

A quick search showed this:

"Surveys and rape statistics by gender have found that 1 in 6 American women, and 1 in 33 American men has experienced an attempted/completed rape as a child or adult."

https://legaljobsite.net/sexual-assault-statistics/

If true, 1 in 6 is a high chance of it happening to you.

[Citizenkirk]

I don't know, I find it hard to find a time to worry about that because of the constant paranoia induced by the excessive female rapist population out there, so who's going to guarantee the safety of my innocent, cute behind, with all these ravenous females around having their minds stuck in the gutter all the time, with those dirty lewd men giving those dirty girls ideas, with that scandalously inappropriate Thunder Down Under exhibitionist shows, encouraging girls like that, undressing me with her eyes all the time. I feel visually violated and unsafe! Whatever is a boy to do?

[WhiteSteve]

*700k REPORTED rapes. I figure the goal should be, let’s say, ZERO rapes. So I don’t know, I’m not a woman, I don’t really live under the threat of rape, but I’d say it’s fair to say that conservative estimate of 700k is enough to keep your head on a swivel. I mean, most people don’t get robbed or have their home invaded in their lifetimes either, but people sure seem to be worried about having guns to protect themselves in that highly unlikely event. I’d say it’s enough of an issue where women should be aware of the potential. Some may certainly let the fear overtake them and go overboard with it, and I’d like to see them less worried, but I could never say “don’t worry at all, no chance that it could happen to you.”

[TruthBringer]

We live in a time where it's not only easy to accuse someone of something and people don't question it, but everything is also being taken tot he extremes. I've met a female GAG user who claims that a guy who stares at a woman from afar, despite not being contact is sexual harassment. Even if the girl is showing off her cleavage and body. She got her ass handed to her by another female.

And what a "coincidence", she is one of those modern feminists. You can thank modern modern feminism, the MeToo and cancelculture for this. Men are being portrayed like savage horny men who can't control their impulses. Yet the majority of men CAN control themselves.

Oh and let's be realistic here. No woman is going to accuse a man for rape when he just talks to her if she finds him attractive. It's usually the unattractive men who are facing accusations like "rape" or get called a "creep".

[Alpha09]

Wether that 700k is correct or not that's just the ones that are reported. Nobody except crazy people are out here saying "all men are rapists" however you would be a cool to walk around and act like being raped isn't a possibility. Personally I have witnessed as well as been the receiver of entitled and possessive behavior from men who where complete strangers. And when I didn't want thier attention or told them not to touch me they got angry and gropey. That behavior can get rapey in some situations. Not everyone has those stories but a lot of us do, and unfortunately some people have been assaulted as a result. A lot of the people who have been raped probably never thought it would be them, but when you're laying in a dark basement or miserable with your clothes ripped off of you in place after being brutalized by one or more offenders it's very real. That's why some of us are worried and/or cautious, and you would be wise to do the same. Male or female.

[Jacobthedude]

Well its kinda a valid fear. It may at times be overfocus on. Like u shouldn't live in fear but u should also be careful u know and not put urself in bad situations with men u don't know and trust. Cause even though it doesn't happen a lot unfortunately it does happen and it can happen to anyone. I think of it like this. People have a fear of sharks. Sharks are real and dangerous but in reality more people die by falling coco nuts every year so the level of fear is irrational not the fear itself. So I won't stop swimming in the ocean but im not going swimming with a open cut either

[Don-__-Don]

You know how the minority of bad people in a particular group can ruin the reputation for the entire group.

A few bad men and it'll have certain people thinking all men are just rapists. A flawed, generalized way of thinking.

Although in some cases, understandable.

Although in this particular case, I don't know.

[Melvinb6521]

Rape is a serious crime. It’s one of the few that can compete with murder. It has many deep effects that create long lasting conditions.


I am concerned with it because I want to protect my loved ones from it. But with so many faceless criminals, it’s hard. I can tell someone to stay away from men with guns or knives. They may be murderers. But how do you identify a rapist before it’s too late?


A lot of people downplay the seriousness and the amount of this, until it hits home with someone else you know or love. Some people don’t even know all cases that could be considered rape. And there needs to be more education on it.

[Snakeyes7]

I think you are getting that number from the b
Bureau of Justice statistics for 2018 (734,630 to be exact but this also includes sexual assualts that are not rape). https://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/cv19.pdf

You make that sound like a low number but even that was abnormally high compared to the other years in the late 2010s. The next highest was the year after and that dropped to 459,310. The lowest on this document referenced in this comment is 2016 which was only 298,410.

Keep in mind that the BJS's definition of rape includes male victims and includes threats of rape so those numbers seem to be inflated especially if we are talking about female victims.

https://www.bjs.gov/index.cfm?ty=tp&tid=317

[Maraneva]

700K is still a pretty big number. Thing is though, bad reputation is like a drop of poison mixed in a bucket of water. Doesn't matter that there is a lot more water. One drop is all it takes to ruin everything. For example, all the men of the world except one man can be saints and if that man does something wrong, the world will suspect them all of being bad. It's just human psychology 🤷

[Arivor]

I am going to take you literally on what you have asked (since you have called me out on this before): "Why do some men still worry and consider men as rapists?" That is a very interesting question and pertinent primarily for men who are in prison along with those convicted of rape. The underlying theme here is that once convicted a rapist is sent to prison to become a "professor" at the most inclusive university in the world. Teaching others that rape is a valid way to show domination and control on those beneath you. Having rather shorter prison times these newly created monster are released to practice what they have learned. The Worst outcome for them is to sent back to become the newest professor to teach these newbies how it's done. That's what makes me worried...

[deadroses18]

First don’t put it as only men girls can rape to but that’s somthing a lot of women don’t like to admit. And it’s not that it’s really scary I mean yes fear of it happening but once it happens it’s more of felling gross and powerless that no matter how many times you said no or screamed for help they didn’t stop.

[Anpu23]

One of the key factors that contribute to this is a piece of propaganda that states "1 in 3 men if given a chance will rape" this is based on a very flawed study from the University of North Dakota and has been branded about by certain political and educational groups.

[DWornock]

That is 1 in 200 each year which might justify a belief that most men are potential rapists. Especially, if 700K women per year are abducted and forcibly overpowered and doesn't include the various type of acquaintance rapes such as 13 to 20-year-old boyfriends having sex with 14 to 17-year-old underage girlfriends or sex after a girl consumed too much alcohol.

If the various type of acquaintance rapes are included in the 700k per year, then movies and mainstream media is greatly the reason for the beliefs.

[Anonymous]

Look at the statistics. Like the percentage of rapists gender wise.
Or which gender statistically sexually harasses people more.

If you get 6 drinks and someone tells you that one is poisoned then you ain't touching any of them. Same goes here.

Being wary isn't something unusual.
Especially since it's so normalized to objectify women or just sexually harass any gender whenever. (Think cat calling, think media representation, think "boys will be boys, anything connected with misogyny, think slut shaming)

Honestly it's not hard to google these things. There's people who write whole essays about it. Just go on google dude.

Also to any one who doesn't agree w this: I don't have the time to argue w you so just skip it lmao

[jennifer_bloom]

1/4 North American woman are raped or sexually assaulted in their life time and when I say sexual assault I don’t mean rude comments and cat calling but threatening and dangerous behaviour that is often violent or humiliating and prolonged. My friend was gorgeous and she was sexually harassed a minimum of 4 times a week.

[Dweezil]

Those 700k rapes rapes each year include those which were committed by the same bastard reepeatedly.

A lot of people tend to associate each rape with a single individual rapist.

Also, there is a bullshit thought that there is a rape culture on college campuses. If that were true why would any parent send their daughter off to college?

[magiusX26]

thats one falsely made stigma we men face. these days most people view men as vile creatures looking to rape etc yet as you pointed out only a small handfull of men are actually doing these things. without doing the actual math, like maybe 3% of me are doing these types of awful and bad things yet most view us like 90% are commiting these things. (also slightly refferencing things like pedophilia and kidnapping).

[Guanfei]

Because of modern feminism, making it an inherent trait for men. We see that all the time, from the same women who cross the path of thousands of men, without anything happening. But they don't see those men. The vast majority who does nothing bad is invisible.

[xJeremyx]

you never know if the bloke you see in front is a rapist.

Same reason why i always make sure to keep my hands occupied and give people more than adequate space in public transport. So i won't end up being accused of touching someone inapproriately, because i can easily say with proof from bystanders that my hands were full with my own items.

Yes, people like these are rare but it doesn't mean they dont exist. Better safe than sorry.

There is no need to label "men" as rapists right off the bat, but we all just gotta be careful around strangers.

[Cherokeehp]

700,000 rapes is still a lot of rapes. I don’t think all men are rapists, but I prefer to stay alert in case I come into contact with one who is. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to protect yourself. There are thousands of encounters between humans and bears every year, but bear attacks are super rare. That doesn’t mean I’m going to go into the woods without being alert or taking precautions.

[jasco]

Cause of how the media and lot of women in general view us, of course we don't wanna come off as creepy or mean. But sometimes it happens, when that does happen and it turns out to be false it can mess up a lot of thing inside a guy head. Being falsely accuse sucks ass. So its not just being worried of being a rapist, its more of being worried we may have to go to court for what a lady may think as a attempted sexual assault

[Thatasianlove16]

well if someone has had a history they have all the right.

[israelisevil]

People think you get raped by stranger or something in drink/laced drugs but you dont its by people you know so hard prosecute testify all that. 700k out 150 mil more one 1/30 men law dont do shit persecution and mob violence work better on rapists

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think this is quite high rates of rape but that could include rapes
that is not reported but in some way, the information is getting out there
so it's being tallied one way or another is the way I see it

[EyesOfGod]

Lol if you actually compared actual reputable soucrese you'd see the highest number of sexual assault in one year was 100,000 in 2017.

You probably just looked for the first highest number you could find.

[RandomLoser]

More importantly is that there are 10 million prostitutes in the US while there are 10000 rapists. So a woman is 999 times more likely to be a whore than a guy is to be a rapist.

[Anonymous]

Please stop this shit !!!
Daily some one or the other is asking!
It's annoying!!
Rape rapist have u gone crazy
What's so fascinating about it!
If u r so crazy go read and research about it , rather eating our brain

[OddBeMe]

Because the scary stat is only 10% of rapes are thought to be reported. Even less prosecuted.

[TonyV]

I don't know, I'm glad you dont rhink every one of us is a rapeist.

[Gedaria]

I was reading of a woman, who was wanting some sex. She walked round at night in clothes that showed a lot of flesh. Even in areas where prostitutes hang around.
Not one guy even gave me a look..

[Bee-Hatch]

There are "just" 700k rapes each year in the US. You think that's an insignificant amount?

[iseekpinetrees]

They might have been raped in the past. Or have been around people who have not treated them very well.

[SjE78]

could be some who worry have been the victim of rape before, and even though they know not all are like that, they cannot help being more worried and fearful of it happening again... even after building up trust with someone they know or even love...

[jshm2]

Simple, bucko. Statistically, there is a rape in the USA every 2 minutes. 80% of rapes are committed by men.

You do the math.

[Dargil]

Cultural propaganda. It not only creates fear but encourages misbehavior because others are doing it.

[YaBoiJacob]

Because in todays culture, with everything that men get fed on the internet about social standards, men have a lot to live up to. also, it's america, weird shit happens.

[Agape93]

Because it’s a valid concern hon, and statistically most rapists are never caught and most rapes are never reported. So that 700,000 a year could be in the millions.

[MecheD]

It’s the fear of not knowing that worries so many. If everyone told you who they were and were actually that it wouldn’t be a problem.

[Ellenaa]

Im not worried about them being rapists. But I am concerned when they are or just being sexual predators.

[Katsumoto]

There are some men who are really dangerous for women. They want to take their honor!

[cth96190]

Because Feminists work day and night to convince women that all men are rapists.
According to Feminist dogma, which began with Andrea Dworkin, all heterosexual sex is rape.

[triff]

That sounds so unfair We ar not all tarred to the same brush I would never lay a finger on any female ( unless asked ) I have to much respect

[BrianMarks]

Just because you choose to be a pedophile doesn’t normalize the behavior for other people. Your guilt is cured by continuing to abuse kids.

[Novacane]

Because rape is bad, and more men commit rape than women? Also, consider the number of cases that never get reported. and 700k is a really high number

[Anonymous]

...https://www.youtube.com/embed/jYFOYKYTLfM

[Sweetheart666]

I think it’s natural to fear being hurt in any way. Sex trafficking and men in general do not have your best interest in mind as a woman. Better safe than sorry. Just read what some of the creeps on gag say. That’s just online too.

[Wewladdy]

Over 70% of all rapes are committed by black "men," as well. To answer the question, double digit IQs.

[MountAverage]

Because sadly, in reality the number is MUCH higher.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Oh, only 700k? Well then that's clearly not a MAJOR FUCKING ISSUE then?
Come on

[AFellowWeeb]

And some women still say that they like it, and others throw false allegations bc they had regret the one night stand, ruining the guys life

[Michael10158]

Because people feminist make it seem like all men rape but men also prevent the most rapes

[Anonymous]

It’s worrisome thing that shouldn’t be taken lightly

[Anonymous]

Most men don't worry about this. Women worry because of all the constant publicity. I seriously doubt that there are 700,000 rapes in the US every year which is what you wrote.

[WesBrewer]

Because the media blows it up and feminists usually say all men are rapists.

[Anonymous]

because it’s scary and no one wants to go through it? Tf?

[I-have-a-biscuit]

That's what the media tries to spoonfeed you. Woman good man bad

[jimmy2]

Wow dont know must be that dad left the home and boys never letaned dad ways