Would you date a 25 years old female virgin?

Question

Thats my case. I never had sex because the thought of pain was scaring me so much. I go to psychotherapy for it.
Otherwise I am a „normal” young adult. I get asked out pretty often, guys like me, call me hot/beautiful, I am friendly, I volunteer, I have a stable job. So nothing wrong with me except my idea that sex is something scary and painful.
So, guys would you date a girl like me?
Did you date in the past?
Girls, have you ever been in my situation?

I have to say this: I do intend to have sex with a future partner. So, I dont plan waiting till marriage or something. I am just very scared of physical pain or rejection.

Like:

Yes, I wanna date you, have sex with you. But I have to tell you I never had sex before.
And... he dumps me for being a weirdo.

Can you consider a 25 years old hot/sexy even is she is a virgin?

integrale77 · Accepted Answer

First of all I would not be put off by dating a 25 year old virgin.

Your not unusual in your situation of some sort of fear about something related to sex.
I had a conversation with a woman who couldn't orgasm because she was afraid of loosing control because of the orgasm but because she had never experience an orgasm to know she would loose control.

First of all have you based your fear of pain during sex on anything?
In a situation there is a fear of something happening there is just as much chance of nothing happening.
Also most women who have experienced pain during sex have been down to it being there first time or a medical problem in either case its something short lived or treatable.

My advice to avoid what your afraid of is to learn how your body reacts so when you do have sex you can enjoy it. This means masturbation which will let you learn what feels good or not and how it feels. Starting with fingers graduating to toys so you can understand what penetration feels like.
Oh and use lube you can never have too much but you can always end up with too little.

Also remember everyone is different and has there own opinions use any of my suggestions as you want.

Don-__-Don · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I'm pretty sure I would be able to work it out if I were to date another virgin.

It's painful "when I took my exes virginity I could tell" but we got through it together and after that night she got used to having sex with me.

Based on my experience with her you're going to feel some type of discomfort the first few times (you're defiently going to feel sore afterwards, especially the first time) , but I would think it's nothing you couldn't handle. It's all natural after all. Based on my ex it's the first time that hurts like a bitch (of course). She said it felt like someone was using scissors down there if I remember correctly, just riping her apart (I think she was exaggerating she says that part tbh).
That day was like about two years ago, so I can't exactly remember all she said.

I could tell more but I don't want to get all tmi.

I didn't mind that she was a virgin at all, because I loved her and all that. I remember her telling me how safe she felt with me in that moment.

Find the right guy and everything will go smoothly.

But yeah, hope that helps.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

im almost 21 and im a virgin for the same reason (among others). except I haven't been completely open about it with anyone. it had been starting to worry me but I have forgotten about it lately. I can see the years pass by and I'd still feel the same.

im with someone now and he's been amazing. he doesn't pressure me into doing anything im not ready for. we enjoy spending time together. so yes, I'd say there are still men who think that sex isn't everything. thats the kind of man you deserve, so dont ever settle for anything less, though you probably already know that ;).

Dinklex3 · Accepted Answer

My best friend is 28 beautiful and still a virgin. Hasn't scared any guys off she's just focused on herself. I lost mine in my early mid twenties and although he was shocked, it was fine lol.

MrOracle · Answer

As long as she isn't ruling out sex with me, I wouldn't care. I might be concerned that she has some abuse in her past that would cause her to have issues with sex, but that doesn't sound like it's the case here.

AustinMan · Answer

Yes, if she's amenable to working up to sex and not dragging her feet about it.

Psychoanalytical · Answer

Many young people your age never had sex by choice because they prefer to keep it as a sacred bond after marriage.

It is not "weird" to be a virgin, don't let society control your self-esteem or dictate how you "should be" please. I never had sex and I don't care what society or people think of this.

MCheetah · Answer

Guys don't think like this. These all sound like things women would do to men. So yes, most men, like 95%+, would be fine dating you assuming you were compatible with them.

Hangry22 · Answer

I will be in that situation in about 6 years

Cataphract · Answer

What's this "even though"? Girl let's get one thing straight: while that may be kinda strange these days, it's not a turn off for any sane man. In fact it's a bonus. But you have to be extra careful also, because there are bad guys who target women like that specifically and only for that reason.

Soporific-san · Answer

Its not about the experience, its about how we connect together not in the sheets. If we can vibe well, imagine the sex. Meaningless sex is not the same compared with someone you love.

Jays39663 · Answer

I'd definitely date you. It's fun teaching sex.

AndyOh · Answer

Absolutely. And, being honest with me, I would make sure that it would be a night you would never forget in a good way.

tzdc21 · Answer

I'm gonna be honest. If a 25 year old hot woman were to tell me that she was a virgin, I would automatically call that a lie. Because that's so rare to find nowadays. But I would consider that to be very attractive BECAUSE she is a virgin, and you haven't slept around. You're the ideal safe bet a man would ideally want for a wife. Now if you're crazy or have some extremely dangerous habits or hobbies and that's the reason you're a virgin... that's another story lol.

SystemOfTheMachine · Answer

I would definitely date you. I'm a virgin too and I've always wanted to lose my virginity to a virgin, which is a somewhat hard thing to do. I'd be super excited if you explained your feelings to me, because we could connect on it.

goaded · Answer

Not any more, but I did date a 33 year old virgin, it was nice, but it didn't work out. Don't get too hung up on it (she got married a couple of years later).

Rexos · Answer

I'm a virgin at 26 (and a weirdo) so even if I cared too much, I have no right to judge based on that. But no, I would date you, if you have a personality I like of course.

MathTeacher · Answer

I greatly enjoy teaching sex. So I'd love to

magiusX26 · Answer

its possible. would still have to take time getting to know you 1st.

ramchandra9971 · Answer

Well if I can be your good friend It can be a yes... but not only for sexual pleasure... but for a mature buddy too

AmeerX · Answer

That's not bad at all

RingOfFire · Answer

I wouldn't have any problem at all with it. Important> Make sure you pick the right guy to be your first and he will make it beautiful instead of painful.

TheFlak38 · Answer

This is the type of woman who will have a seemingly endless list of demands until the guy gets such a big set of blue balls that he'll decide to move on even if she finally is ready to bang him. Her boobs are not worth the squeeze.