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I am scared of dicks, what do I do?

So I have been seeing this guy for a while, he took my virginity a while ago and we have had sex a number of times since then, but I have only looked at his dick a couple times and only touched it once awkwardly. He has been really great at not making me feel bad about it, but I know that he does want me to be able to reciprocate the head. I don't know why but I am just intimidated by looking at it and touching it.
I want to be able to look at and touch his dick without feeling uncomfortable, but I'm nervous and don't know what to do. I know he has had several partners before so I don't want to mess up and do anything wrong.
Any advice on how to overcome this fear? Also any pointers on how to do things? Thanks in advance :)))
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  • To be honest, dicks ARE scary! I can totally understand why you feel this way. Giving head with that frar is like being afraid of height and climb up a mountain!
    You should first try to just touch it, play with it, not in a sexual way. And maybe just play with it when its soft. A hard dick is kind of agressive and screams for attention.
    But finally, its super fine to NOT give head. I know many girls who can't do that. And there are many men who can't go down on a woman. And he is going to survive it ;) getting head isn't thst important.

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  • Take it slow. Have you looked at dicks on porn sites? If so you may have seen ones that are above average in size.

    Just spend more time naked with him and slowly touch it on your terms. Build up to giving him a handjob... guys love it.
    How often are you having sex with him?

Most Helpful Girl

  • Dildo and practice it, especially those lifelike ones

    • yes practice makes a girl perfect ;)

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  • same here! its a struggle but you get used to it

  • Learn what he likes. Be gentle with it, use lube and spit on it. Make it wet. He’ll love that with your hands.
    Stroke it, and tease it. Touch it as hard as you would like to be touched.

  • Immersion therapy just get down there and face your fear I'm sure he won't mind helping you through this 😉

  • No idea, but maybe a sex therapist can help

  • Get over it.

  • What about it are you scared of? Size? Just the thought that you might not be the best he's had?
    Just start by forgetting about everything except you and him. Don't think about messing anything up or how many partners he's had. None of that matters. Just focus on getting over the hurdle of touching it first. Keep calm and let him guide you. The rest should come naturally from that.

  • My dear , do not fear the penis. It is your friend.

  • Become a lesbian.

  • Communicate with him about this. Honestly is important. It's easier for a person to understand and be supportive when they don't have to guess what is going on

  • I think you can be lesbian,
    If you think that it's getting you a lot of stress, then the relationship is not for you.
    Sex is not a joke,(at least not for me, can't say for other guys)
    Just get rid of him if it bothers you a lot.
    Focus on your career, then I think you would find someone.

    • lmao I'm definitely not a lesbian. Just intimidated by the idea of giving head lol. New things can be scary. I really like the guy and we have been together for a while now, so I'm not gonna break up with him solely because dicks make me nervous, I'll probably find myself in the same situation with the next guy, I need to normalize dicks. Thanks for the opinion tho

    • You just need a friend who can answer this

  • The best way to get over this fear is to dive in and start playing with his dick, even if its gradually.

  • Stay away from dicks

  • You should play doctor with him. My first girlfriend and did this after a few months just for fun. Learned a lot. Fucked after.

  • Ask him if you could look at it and touch it.

  • Start with pics of it tell him to send pics of his soft dick and try to see them when u get horny after while try hard dick’s pics

  • Have you googled how to give a blowjob

  • why are you scared

  • Just me personally I like it when a girl ta kik es hold of my cock and d oi re sent have to be told what yo do even if your in experienced what better way to learn than hands on

  • I would be more than happy to get it removed if my girl didn’t like it or was scared of it.

  • Why is it so? What's so scary about penis?

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