Are you a slut if you have kids with 3 different men and you did not marry any of them?

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lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Who cares what the label is.

That person is really messed up and is now in one hell of a mess. They need serious therapy, their kids need therapy, and she's going to need help her entire life to deal with that.

I could care less about labels other than the fact, if she is asking this question, then she is sub consciously trying to achieve this world "slut", which is probably what she was traumatized and mis programmed to think she is.

It's Christmas. Find Jesus of Nazareth, the Christ and his message. Save your soul and get your life back. before it's too late.

That be my message to this girl.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This question makes me feel bad and embarrassed to even admit to people my mother did this exact thing. She is currently married however, but he's not any of my siblings father. Anyway, it doesn't matter because she turned her life around, started out as a teen mother and is now 50 years old, upper middle class woman, the breadwinner of the house, went to college while working and taking care of the 3 of us. My mother is an inspiration, everyone makes mistakes and bad choices in their lives, but not everyone turns it around in the end

Screenwriter · Answer

I wouldn't go name calling a person. Is a guy who has three children with 3 different women a slut if he married none of them? No, he's a guy who has to write out three different child support checks.
Some people are serial monogamists and think the next one is the one. When it doesn't work out, they move on. Perhaps having children is no big deal to them and they enjoy their kids. It doesn't matter if the relationship doesn't work out.

But I DO think this. This person, male or female, isn't thinking about how difficult this situation could be for the children. A revolving door with three sets of men, two of whom aren't related to the child in any way, coming and going.
How stable is this setup for any of these kids?
Some people think making babies is wonderful, but don't consider that babies grow up and have needs: like a stable relationship with a father.

Clearly someone who didn't marry any of the fathers of her children had a reason to NOT marry any of them. I'm guessing the reason was none of those men turned out to be a good parent as well as a good partner.

iCumLikeCrazy2 · Answer

NO!!! Not if you were in a relationship with them at the time!!!

YES!!! If You only had sex with them as a one night stand or a few times while not being in a relationship with them and decided to have the kids anyway!!!

AustinMan · Answer

No but it would make your judgement a little suspect based just on that.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Not necessarily, but definitely someone who has made bad choices in men. You don't do your due diligence then you may get screwed, and not sexually.

CindyRuns · Answer

Ummmm... yes !!!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Unless there are exceptional extenuating circumstances - like you were planning to marry the first father but he died, and then the same thing happened with the second father, etc. - yes, that is classic slut behavior.

1. Why did you have children when you weren't married? Don't you care whether your children have their father in the home with them?

2. Don't you know how to prevent pregnancy?

3. How many of your children have significant involvement with their father?

4. On Father's Day, your home is either the epitome of "mass confusion" or it is a meaningless holiday; either alternative is sad.

5. Your behavior was all about you and not about your children at all.

Classic slut behavior.

Tyrael · Answer

Nope, more than likely just irresponsible.

TheorionMage · Answer

Not 'slut' but a POOR judge of companion's 'character'... you believed the 'package' and NOT the quality and longevity of its contents~ "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me TWICE, shame on ME"

ThatQuietLass · Answer

Means you probably need to learn about condoms and birth control. But I wouldn't call you a slut, so long as you can afford the children you have.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

a girl who does this is either a - slut , whore or a prostitute - ! she needs Jesus just as much as any other sinner ! thanks

PhantomMk · Answer

No but there is some questions about their judgment that I would like to question.

iseekpinetrees · Answer

I kinda feel that way. But I do feel its more why are you having kids with people you're not marrying. It is looked down upon. Cause 2 kids okay it happens 3 its like come on didn't u learn to use condoms by now

summiter · Answer

I would wonder why she did not use condoms or stay on birth control!

Newhead · Answer

Maybe, unless you have very good reasons. Like I think a rich woman may want to have kids of many different nationality because she can and doesn't want a husband. They would have acted as sperm donors. I think when poor women do it we know it's not like she's just trying to have people to pass her wealth down to, she really was looking for atten-cion and was careless. We take her to Jerry and watch her run backstage frantically after she's tested half the planet and not find the daddies.

psychoticanimallover · Answer

Not sure marriage is in any way related to sluttiness. You could have had sex only 3 times in your life for all we know.

Alyssa11 · Answer

No...

wittymilf · Answer

You’re unfortunate and possibly a little reckless and not a fast learner... or you like kids but don’t want the baggage of baby daddies 😂😂

Bat-Perv · Answer

Kind of a redflag.

cjgsu · Answer

It means you had at least 3 sexual partners before marriage, and 3 sexual accidents.

That alone does not make you a slut. To me a Slut is a person who cheats on her man or sleeps with other women's men knowingly.

GingerGuy · Answer

Why does not getting married make you a "slut"? Of course not.

Are you a slut if you have kids with 3 different men and you did not marry any of them?

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