My boyfriend goes down on me before he f***s me but he never does it for long enough for me to c*me?

[Anonymous]

So I end up never actually getting my orgasm OR I have to do it myself while he is f***ing me, which is so unfulfilling and frankly, I may as well just masturbate on my own. 🤔

I’ve asked him to do it for a little longer but he said, just touch yourself when I’m inside you and then we’ll both come together.

is this normal? Do women mostly have to give themselves their own orgasm in sex? I suppose men technically give themselves their own orgasm too so maybe it’s fair I don't know.

oh and it usually takes around 10 minutes for me to actually c*me, so is that too long and that’s why he won’t do it?

Thanks

[Anonymous]

He is talking nonsense. I have PE and managed to make girls come. Im really intimate, love to know what my partner likes, its never about myself, i focus on doing good oral (been told) and back to penetration. When im about to cum i go back to oral, keep reapeating it a couple of times (not quickly). Lots of kisses, nothing like a robot but way more like love. I have been told they liked it afterward two times already diff people.

What he told you about touching youself during penetration is BS. It never crosses my mind such things, everything needs to be as natural as possible, if you were supposed to touch youself during penetration
to cum then you would have already done it yourself like the way you want (who doesn't anyway?). Sex is clearly not just penetration. Seriously talk to your partner about this and demand him performance with love. It needs to be his objective to satisfy you and your objective to meet his needs, after cumming or not, it doesn't matter. I love satisfying who im with, its a challenging game and i love challenges. there's no excuses for him, so im giving you an example (me) as a heads up.

[bowenw]

A guy that's into you should be willing to do whatever you ask that gives you pleasure and vice versa. Ten minutes is not a lot to ask. Is there a possibility he is in an uncomfortable position while he's eating you? If you're on your back on a bed with his head between your legs, I find that can be hard on the neck and to breathe. He may enjoy it more in a different position such as from behind with you in a doggy style position. My favorite position is her on her back at the edge of a bed or table so I can get my legs underneath and eat and breathe comfortably for as long is required. Also, if you are not shaved, try shaving or trimming to make it more exciting. Some flavored lube such as Pussy Licker may entice him stay longer. You could also offer him a special reward, for example telling him you'll blow him and swallow if he can make you cum by eating you. If you want to cum quicker, suggest he eat you while also using a vibrator on you.

[Anonymous]

I'm really sarcastic, so I'd probably tell him I want an open relationship just so I can find a guy who likes to eat pussy.

Face it, he's a dud. Most guys love to do it and do it until the job is done.

[minuteman12]

This is something I can get behind.

[Opinion Owner]

@minuteman12 Which part do you agree with?

[minuteman12]

Pretty much all of it. I believe a girl deserves a guy who’d eat her out like there is no tomorrow.

[james_d0007]

Yup i agree with her totally!

[Opinion Owner]

@minuteman12 The worst part of it, is that she's even told him and he still can't connect the dots. He obviously just doesn't care. This is why I shake my head at all the people who think it's a great idea to wait to have sex until you're married. If he doesn't like doing it, that's fine. He should be with a woman that doesn't like it. They'd be perfect together. I talked to a lady online who was married to a guy for 25 years. (they waited until marriage to have sex) He thought oral sex was a sin. Any position other that missionary was a sin to him. He even thought sex too often was a sin. She stayed with that dud for 25 years. She begged him to let her suck his cock, but he wouldn't allow it. Now they're divorced and she's a super slut. She's just trying to make up for all of those years that were stolen from her.

[minuteman12]

Wow. That’s quite a story. I imagine she’s out sucking every dick she could find. Yes, I agree with you. Sex is a huge part of our liver and I really wouldn’t to gamble with it. By the way what sort of a guy denies a blowjob? That amazes me.

[james_d0007]

Thats sad, but a happy ending at least for her

[Opinion Owner]

@minuteman12 Life is crazy. Somewhere on her same block there's probably a husband begging for a blowjob and can't get one. Then at her house, she's begging to give one, and he won't let her. Oh yes, she's out sucking and fucking like crazy.

[Opinion Owner]

@james_d0007 It did, but a lot of years went down the drain.

[minuteman12]

Sure seems like an interesting woman to have a chat with.

[Opinion Owner]

@minuteman12 Her IQ was measured at the genius level. She used to text me while out on a "date" I was laughing my ass off. This are some examples of the texts I received while she was out with this one guy for the first time. They were both at his house and sitting on the couch: *What the fuck is wrong with this guy *He just wants to watch a stupid fucking movie *will this movie ever end? *Is he going to fuck me or not? *I'm about ready to just leave.

[minuteman12]

Lol. Wow. I’d love to be her friend and get those texts. But then I might get too aroused and I’d do her myself. Bet she is even more fun in the bed.

[Opinion Owner]

Probably

[Legacy95]

I don't know about him but if he can't eat you for 10 minutes there's something wrong when I get down there between a girl's legs I'll stay there for at least 20 minutes up to an hour I just love eating pussy

[djmzes]

Simple

See, it is your boyfriend, you choose him. Speak to him and if he does not care to listen, then you decide. Do not expect him to change just because he want. Because it won't unless he want to do...
I am not going to tell you what to do because if you have a boyfriend it means That you should be mature to know it. And in case you do not know then you are playing with fire that will burn you.

[Red_Arrow]

There are guys like that that think 10 minutes is too long. Thankfully they are not too plentiful. Many of us love giving oral so much that 10 minutes is not enough! We love spending that time down there. We know that men can come too easily and then need time before going again. So I prefer giving her several before we start actually fucking, and then I try to include clitoral rubbing.
Your guy will not change for you, so you should change boyfriends instead of investing more time in that loser.

[iseekpinetrees]

Yea he might be too eager to have sex. 10 min is not long. 30 min is a long time. Atlleast your able to orgasm from sex/head. Just tell him no sex till he makes you orgasm.

[ohshee]

Wrap your legs around his neck and say I don't think so your not moving until your finished

[spartan55]

Wtf, this world is full of dudes who don't know how to please a woman. Or worse yet, are too selfish to care.

[slatyb]

Ten minutes isn’t a problem. He seems rather selfish if he won’t do this simple thing for you. Are you sure you want to stay in this relationship?

[Dargil]

That is a good reflection of your relationship being uneven. He will show that in other ways. 10 minutes is just about right.

[Scoliosis-Smith]

Next time you are giving him oral do it until he's close to the point of no return and tell him to do it himself. Seriously though, your boyfriend sucks if all he is after is his own pleasure.

[kmala]

The thing is you would hear to thousand views of strangers and may endup a beautiful lovely relation all i would say is switch to sex twice a week try sex toys on other days its a lot of things available in market , talk to him aswell that you want it more and if he disagree which he would or. wouldnot explain him with love that its a body need and you need it , you shouldnot breakup on sex explain talk to him.
Things would work , and with age libido goes down so ask him for threesome if he feels comforty then you both can add new things new partners , but getting frustrated and not working on it and thinking to breakup is not solution because someone else you would choose libido can go down its natural.
Talk to him get toys get into threesomes or foursomes but get blood test of everyone before doing anything.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Well he should try longer yeah

[CassieCape]

You should get someone else to go down on you if he doesn't want to. Lol.

[Wiredone]

When I go down on a woman I don't stop until she has an orgasm. I love the taste. I satisfy her needs before I let her satisfy mine.

[chHaynes]

If he's going down on you first yeah give him some tips or my case I would use my foot massager the vibration alone will be enough for you to cum a ton what's the special head that foot massagers provides she'll never say no ever all you'll hear is keep going

[Twalli]

Generally the goal of foreplay isn't to cum before having sex. Unlike girls, guys can't cum twice in a row. So if we want to cum during sex, we have to stop foreplay before we cum. As for you cumming, some girls need clitoral stimulation to cum. Others can by penetration. You sound like the former, which means you won't cum during sex unless you play with your clit. Some girls are like this. I would do it. He's not exactly trying to make you cum during foreplay, because his goal isn't for either of you to cum then.

[allaboutyou2]

I always make sure th he woman I am with has 3 or 4 orgasms before I even think about my pleasure. Very often she will come another time or two while I am inside her.

[OddBeMe]

Demand it. Chicks grab my hair and use my like a vibrator. Maybe he thinks you’re bored with it?

[andy530]

Sounds like a selfish lover to me

[AnthonyJ01]

I personally love and prefer to make a woman cum by mouth and tongue at least one time before penitration, sometimes more.

[Tjsmoove]

truth is on both sides of the sex coin your both responsible for your own orgasm but both sexes assist each other in havin orgasms so it wouldn't hurt your boyfriend to figure out every technique to help ya cum as well as more time on foreplay because for women foreplay is core play if ya know what i mean

[B2281]

That's a shame and rather selfish of him. If I had a girlfriend asking for more oral not only would I do it I would absolutely enjoy doing it for her.