Everyone thinks I'm gay?

[Anonymous]

Before you say something like "wow quirky you're not like other girls" Ima just say that a lot of girls are just like me, I'm not unique or anything, its just who I am thats it. I'm straight/a bit bicurious, I like boys. Girls are cool but I'm not attracted to them... or maybe a bit, but not nearly as much as I am to boys. But everyone says I am attracted to women only, because I don't wear makeup ever, I do parkour?, I do skateboarding, I don't do my hair up nicely (its either out or in a ponytail), I spend all day playing video games, I stay up to like 5 am a lot which I was told is a boy thing, but I only do it because I'm scared of going to bed when its night time, I have a habit of being like "one of the guys" pulling pranks and being immature, I have short nails, I don't like wearing skirts and dresses, and when mum asked me to wear makeup for this prom I was going too, I felt uncomfortable wearing too much. About the only feminine things I do is that I'm a sensitive little bitch and I like the colour pink, but other than that I'm too masculine... not the sporty kind more like the gamer kind?, I don't know. Again I have other woman friends like this but they are bi or lesbian. Should I just give up and start becoming attracted to women, because at this point people won't even say I'm bi, they just straight up assume I'm a lesbian and I'm not homophobic... I just don't get why I can't have my own personality and still be straight?

I have been in two relationships before and in both I'm still friends with them now but it was basically because I was too boyish and one of them said he was too feminine.. its complicated. Anyway, what do I do? I don't feel comfortable being feminine, its just not who I am... I don't want to change myself but I might have too.

[pajamasam]

People use labels because its easier to comprehend. They see a girl who does bou things and say "ah yes a lesbian" because its easy and our minds like it when everything is categorized. In reality its a little more complicated.

Maybe you like men and women romantically. There's no shame in that. Maybe you don't like makeup and girly clothes. There's no shame in that.
there's nothing wrong with your sense of style or personality. Don't feel like you have to change to keep others happy.

If you change who you are it should only be because you want it. Don't change because other people want it.

And when it comes to sex. As long as its consensual of legal age and no one gets hurt then have sex with whoever you want.

[Red_Arrow]

Sounds to me like you are what we have called a tomboy - a heterosexual female who is not into things a lot of other girls are, such as dresses, makeup, fancy hair. I have been friends with those types, and some are bi and some are completely straight. In other words, the same sexuality as the girly girls.
Some people just can’t accept that there are variations that do not make the person some one else.

[Zannika02]

U can be whatever feels right... dont let others make u feel pressured. We have societal norms and being feminine is how u r suppose to attract boys. I am tomboyish myself but maybe not as deeply as urself but has had no affect on me attracting guys. But yes all the things u listed would make others think ur gay but who fukin cares... let them think what they want and just be happy in being u... if that's to continue ur interest in guys/girls

[ushagomez]

Just carry on being you. There is no fun in pretending to be somebody you’re not. You’re a perfectly normal, natural girl define SpaceX is attractive like most of us do.

[iseekpinetrees]

Just be your tomboy self. But most guys want a girl somewhat feminine in some way. Even if its small. Do u at least wear girly clothes not from the men's section type. ?

[Andreapuss]

Or sleep with one of the guys and then everyone will know you're into guys too

[SystemOfTheMachine]

I love skater grrrls. Not enough of them now. You sound really cool. There are plenty of boys that will be intimidated or turned off by you not being feminine enough, but you will probably find other dudes that will like your style at some point. Other people should not be able to decide your sexuality though. That is your own choice, and what other people say to you should be null. You decide whether you want to date boys or girls.

[chriscdi]

people can assume what they want, you are what you are and thats that, yea some things are more common in the male community but it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you for liking it, we simply like what we do and thats it, no need to change anything about yourself for others because im sure you'll regret it, be yourself, who says you gotta live by these stereotypes? do you and dont give a fuck what people think

[Surely]

Just be yourself. You have a long time to find out who you want to be
Nothing wrong with your preferences. I personally like a woman in blue jeans and a flannel shirt and not more than a touch of makeup
Don't change for other people

[Maspolomas]

Sounds like your a tomboy so roll with it