Am I a freak for being a virgin still?

I’m 29 and have not had sex and when I go to the doctor they act like I’m a freak at planned parenthood. I turn down the Pap smear. I have been in love but it didn’t work out and I can’t get myself to sleep with anyone else.
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  • There is nothing wrong with you being a virgin. Think of the absurdity. You would somehow be suddenly, miraculously "normal" if you just had a dick in you, just once, no matter how long ago. The people at the doctor's office aren't being very professional if they act like you are somehow different, just because you never had a dick in you once. But the issue is not that you haven't had sex, but that you are having some issue with forming relationships. You were in love once, and now can't get yourself to sleep with anyone else. Again, the problem is not that you can't sleep with them, but that you can't form the necessary bond, and can't manage to form the emotional attachment, including sexual attraction, necessary for it to work for you. It seems that what you need to do is try working with a therapist. No, you are not crazy, but you do need to have some guidance in how to get past your emotional block from the failed relationship. A good therapist can likely do wonders in this area, as long as your are willing to work with him/her. It will take some time and effort, but in the end will be well worth it. It will be worth it just to be free of the emotional block, even if it doesn't right away lead to sex.

    • I’m actually getting over the guy and I love someone new right now and he treats me much better

    • That's great. It's important, how a guy treats you.

Most Helpful Guy

  • I wouldn't say you're a freak for being a virgin you just haven't had any luck to run into guys like me if you be willing I could show you and go slow so you learn a little bit or if you want to learn to do a porn site I'll give you an idea but I recommend you in softcore porn

Most Helpful Girl

  • Thats really strange reaction, i never experienced this disrespect for your choices. I think you should look for another clinic.

    • Yes my mom said that and she called and cursed them out

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • You aren’t a freak. If it doesn’t bother you then don’t worry about it.

  • You're not a freak. Everyone walks their own path in life, if your path hasn't led you to sex that's ok

  • No but I'm a virgin still too and want to have sex.

  • you aren't a freak, nothing wrong with virginity

  • Lol. PP would naturally judge someone like you. You don't fit into THEIR "plan."

  • If you are, you're a wise one; welcome to the freak club!

  • No its fine your waiting for right time dont worry

  • My girlfriend was a virgin at 33. She just never felt enough of a connection before me.

  • Wow! Why do virgins act like its such a bad thing to be a vigin

    • Ikr?

    • @Jamie05rhs Its crazy how girls view things

    • Yeah

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  • That’s a personal choice. It’s your body, and you will know when the time is right.

  • Never refuse to have a pap smear. It may save your life.

    You will still be a virgin after the procedure.

  • Not a freak, and don't worry about the opinion of the plan parent hood people.

  • Don't be ridiculous im the same i fell in love with a girl but she moved away to the Philippines I can't stop loving her

  • It's a little unusual

  • You are over judging yourself, go easy

  • Omg you are perfect. Dont worry this is good good. just wait please like me

    • Lol thank you

    • No problem 😛

  • What's so odd about it? Being virgin is awesome , try to keep your virginity till last breath. BEST.

    • Lol thank you

  • A freak for what? It’s YOUR choice