First time with my fiancee, what do I need to know?

[Anonymous]

My fiancee and I will be having sex for the first time soon. We are both virgins and have little sexual experience past making out and dry humping. With that I have a few questions
1. She's really nervous about this. How can I put her mind at ease
2. How can I make it hurt less for her?
3. What positions feel the best for both of us and are easy to learn in?
4. What things can I do that feel good for her?

[kkirk4442]

1. Be in a place where you will not be interrupted, and you feel secure and comfortable.
2. Give her time to relax, to get into the mood,
3. Give her plenty of foreplay, so she will be well lubricated and relaxed.
4. Have plenty of water soluble lubricant for her. You may need when playing with and preparing her vaginal area, and for when you are going to enter her.
5. Probably best to first plan on the missionary position, as it's easier to work with.
6. If you give her plenty of lubricant and enter her gently, it will hurt less
If you prepare her properly with foreplay, it will hurt less.
7. Each woman is different. Some are tighter than others. Some will not feel pain when being entered, even though they are virgins. Others will have significant pain. Gentleness and lubrication is important
8. You can prepare her ahead of time by being romantic, maybe taking her out to dinner. Not a real big dinner however, you don't want her stuffed and uncomfortable when she moves.
9. Foreplay includes lots of kissing, caressing, feeling her boobs, feeling her body in general, and gently massaging her clitoris. Ask her for direction if you are having difficulty finding it. The clitoris is what you massage and work with last, before entering
10 Remember that the largest sexual organ is her mind..
Others will have ideas that I have missed.

[Asker]

Thanks that was super helpful

[Hydrogen]

1. Get her mind off penetration, make out as usual or touch the ero zones (thighs/sides of the neck/legs/eventually nipples when she's horny). Try roleplay if she doesn't feel confident in her skin.

2. The more wet the better, or lube. But nature gave her arousal, use it.

3. Cowgirl, she has full control until she gets used to you. If she can lean in for the kiss, it's better for her.

4. Neck touching gently (sides) while kissing, passing over legs with fingers tips (do this so gently so that your finger tips "fly" over the skin, literally no pressure, just so she feels the presence of your hand, thighs teasing (touching with few fingers then rubbing later, eventually moving "further", I guess you understand. Don't force her taking off bra or panties, you can do much more over them than you think.

[Asker]

Thank you How can I get her really wet?

[Hydrogen]

Different for every girl, try neck kissing and touching her thighs if she's comfortable with if, when ready try rubbing her over panties until she's wet enough to slide them off

[Asker]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

You never get a second chance to make a first impression, so lick her good.

[Asker]

Ok I have no idea how to do that tho

[Hydrogen]

Eat more ice creams

[Opinion Owner]

A comedian once said that the best way to do it is to go down there and spell out the entire alphabet with your tongue. Then just ask her what her favorite letters were. 😋

[Hydrogen]

Step 1. Learn to play a guitar Step 2. Finger her Step 3. Try not to make her pass out now that you're good.

[Asker]

Haha ok thanks

[kkirk4442]

That's quite funny, but quite possibly effective.

[kkirk4442]

It's not rocket science. You can start by just having her spread her legs so you can get to her pussy, and when you locate her clit, lick it in different ways, different directions, different speeds, or whatever. Ask her for feedback, as "does that feel good",. "is that better", "do you want me to go lower/higher" "Does this hurt or make you uncomfortable." And don't forget to tell her how great she looks, and how nice her pussy is.

[Hmmmbetternothere]

I am out on this one, no virgins in my life. Missionary best, go gentle and slower for her not to hurt I have heard. Use lubrication to ease her.

[Asker]

Thank you