Does he have deep feelings for me or does he love me?

Question

I have a relationship with one of my ex’s for almost 2 years now. He calls it friends with benefits and I call it being his side chick. He was my first love my first everything so that means I gave him my virginity 12 years back. He is in a relationship and so am I. We both have kids with our current partner one being the reason why we can’t be together. He actually got her pregnant 2 months after seeing me. In the beginning of our relationship we both agreed if one catches feelings we would end it. I admitted to having feelings for him and that I loved him 6 months into our sexual relationship. He said he cared about me a lot and liked me for me but he wasn’t in love with me but wanted to continue to see me. We went from using condoms in the beginning. I’m on birth control and have been the whole time. We stopped using condoms and started the pull out method and we did that for awhile but in the last month, he asked me if he could cum inside me and I said yes. My opinion I feel like he does love me. It’s been almost 2 years having sex with him now and I feel like your not going to start cumming into a woman if you don’t have some kind of emotional connection to her. Am I right or am I wrong? Does he love me and is to scared to say it?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You said you have a 2-year sexual relationship with your first love & sexual partner. And you feel like him wanting to cum in you after all this time means he has some kind of emotional connection with you and that he might be in love with you... well...

I DON’T think he has deep feelings for you or loves you.

Even though he said he cared for you, he said he wasn’t in love with you; and all guys prefer to finish inside so him wanting to do that doesn’t necessarily mean anything special.

What’s most likely going on is that because you said you loved him, he is exploiting an opportunity to do what is most pleasing to him.

I recommend you end things with him like you guys both agreed in the beginning of your relationship, “if one catches feelings.”

Avicenna · Accepted Answer

No, he doesn’t. He is just having his cake and eating it too.

Iron_Man · Answer

Time will tell

Hmmmbetternothere · Answer

You are dead wrong ! Men don't care as long as we cums. We not as in touch with those feelings as you are. You been put on the sex with benefits ferris wheel. Now you get pregnant again, what if? Your overthinking this one. Sorry.