TW: sexual assault, what’re your thoughts on this situation? (read details)?

[Anonymous]

So okay this didn’t happen to me, but for the purpose of the story and for better explanation let’s say it did.

I was talking to this dude and he seemed nice, but ended up assaulting me. Later I found out he had a history of doing this. This girl at school (who always bullied me and other girls) started talking to him - she didn’t know about his history - so like a decent human being I warned her because r*** is a serious thing and I didn’t want her to go through it regardless of what she did to me. She didn’t listen to me and called me a liar and an idiot. Eventually she also got sexually assaulted.

Is it wrong that I don’t feel bad since I warned her? What do you think about this situation?

[Tonytoutouni123]

Maybe she thought:
"This chick just wants to talk this guy down to me because I used to bully her and now she can't stand that he's interested in me."

Unless she has done extremely terrible bullying, she doesn't deserve to be raped. And I mean extrem bullying like torture or so.
she is definitely stupid and an asshole. I think you should have told this sexual harassment what exactly this guy has done to your parents or anyone else you are close with and if don’t have anyone and then decide to go to the police or not. If we are really talking about sexual harassment and not just for example catcalling then police.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

You warned her and she didn't listen. I think it's fine if your conscious is clear

[Anonymous]

Let me say this: sexual assault has no room for I told you so’s. The fact that you’re lacking empathy because she didn’t listen to you is unfortunate, and should actually do the opposite. Your blood should be boiling, you should be trying to rally together to get justice for yourselves. Hopefully that would come in the form of him being taken off the streets so that he can’t keep doing this to women. That’s where my focus would be, at least.

[Asker]

Yeah I agree with that, like I said it’s not my story. It’s my friend’s, I don't know it just didn’t sit right with me when she said that she got what she deserved. But she was my friend and it was her pain talking so I didn’t want to speak up about it. I hated the girl who didn’t listen to her, but I still have the empathy to feel upset that it happened to her as well.

[Opinion Owner]

I was only saying you since that was the tense you used lol. I understand your position, I wouldn’t want to add to my friends grief at all. But her thought process is wrong, and I’m sure a lot of these feelings are being mis-targeted. You should try explaining this to her, of course in a sensitive way. Why doesn’t she seek justice?

[DevikaButts95]

Your poll questions don't match the question you asked lol. She did not deserve to be assaulted, not believing your warning doesn't warrant that.
As for you feeling bad, I'd say really depend on how much you care for her in the first place I guess. I think I would, I don't view it as karma happening to someone, more as a bad event that was destined to happen and nothing I did could have prevented it. Does that make sense?

[rustymopp]

but it's also not your fault,
the only thing you could have done to stop it is report him to the police

[Anonymous]

I do have a question. I saw a lot of questions around this kind of topics, like men abusing women, men doing sexual assault, men doing rape, man being bad, ugly, evil, daemons, idiots, bad educated etc etc etc. Can I also see this kind of questions about women? I know you can arrange it. I do know on this site are a lot of payed guys and girls ready to intervene and sustain feminist propaganda and other things like that. Also it seems that is requested no one to be disappointed, no matter if is having a valid and value question or just an idiotic question. They immediately come and make comments on both ends. Can you please stop this machinery? I need to see the men and women opinions, not your site opinions. Anonymous girl, don't have you
any other question to ask about men but just this feminist stupid question that really offend all the men on the site? The women on this site never participate on polls , and when ask a question is about rape.

[Asker]

I don't know what you’re triggered for, I never said anything bad against men. You sound like you support sexual assault though since you’re so triggered for no particular reason. It just so happens it was a guy who did this this time, I’m not gonna lie and say it wasn’t just because you’re offended. How am I even a feminist? Just because I talk about issues like this? No I’m just a decent human being who doesn’t condone disgusting behaviour.