Is it a women's fault that her pussy gets dry during sex or masturbating?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

"Fault" implies that someone had a choice and made a bad one. That's usually not what's going on here.

There are different reasons your pussy isn't lubricating, and the causes vary.

- It could be that you are dehydrated. You need to be hydrated to produce lubrication, especially over time.
- Some medications inhibit lubrication, so if you're taking any meds, check their known side effects, and check with your doctor to see if there are alternatives. Sometimes you can switch meds, and sometimes the med you are on is your best option, and you have to live with the side effects (in this case, needing store-bought lube).
- Women going through menopause often have this problem, though assuming your listed age is correct, that isn't going to apply to you.
- Sometimes the guy isn't giving the girl enough foreplay to really get her going.
- Some girls just don't produce that much, just like some others produce "too much."

I don't know which of these might apply to you - and I might have missed an option too - but we fortunately live in a time where store-bought lube is high quality and easily available, so if for whatever reason you need lube, you can buy some to supplement what you make yourself.

shy_guy_30 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes if my girl gets dry during sex she just needs a reset. So we stop, I tell her to lie on her back, close her eyes and take a few deep breaths. I usually get some lube and massage her boobs, or just gently and slowly massage her pussy and butt hole (hers is sensitive). I tell her not to focus on outcomes. Don't think about cumming or getting wet or anything. Just enjoy the feeling of having your pussy massaged the same way you would enjoy a backrub. 9/10 times once the pressure is off and she's not trying to make her body do something she ends up getting super wet and swollen again.

My point is that it's nobody's fault and most of its in your head. If your worried about trying to get wet then thats probably the biggest barrier to getting wet. It's a horrible feedback loop and it happens to men and erections too. If im worried about getting hard, the chances are I won't get hard.

So just relax, take the pressure off yourself and just enjoy the moment. Get some lube and use it and don't even think about whether your wet or not. Once its out of your head I bet you'll start getting wet and if not, well who cares. Just use lube.

CurlyGirl42 · Accepted Answer

fault.. no.. but it can be something with her body.
Personally I sometimes stop getting wet during sex.. and if there is a lot of friction (it goes on for long and a lot in and out), I most often get dry.
It also got worse when I was on the pill, and I think other hormonal contracetoption can do the same. It probably also has a say where you are in your cycle and so, it is not that simple, so don't feel bad about it!
If you feel horny and you get dry anyway, tell it to the guys that it is just something that happens to you know and then, and get some lube to make the sex go more smoothly ;)..
If it actually is because you are getting less horny during sex, you also need to be honest about this. It is fair to change it up and do something else which works better for you to keep you wet and horny.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say fault if it happens naturally. Try drinking more water if you have this problem.

integrale77 · Answer

No fault of yours not all women get wet enough naturally so extra lube isn't going to hurt you can't have too much lube either.

slatyb · Answer

Not at all. If it does during sex then start using lube.

josephinelcajon · Answer

You need to be stimulated enough. He is not putting the effort in to do this! There are a few that are dryer they use a lube like KY its not shameful in my opinion

Ultimate_Gohan · Answer

Instead of finding who to blame u should be asking a doctor

chriscdi · Answer

is this girl aroused and still dry?

Andres77 · Answer

If they're complaining but they didn't eat ur pussy first then they need to shut the fuck up.

genericname85 · Answer

is it a mans fault, when his dick doesn't get hard during sex?

BoyCowBestCow · Answer

it's no ones fault really. some women just need more lubricant

Gedaria · Answer

Never heard that one before. Only reason I could think that could happen is he isn't getting you horny enough..

jasco · Answer

Honestly its both the man and the women fault. Men y'all gotta get her wet and ladies, try telling him what gets you wet

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Not your fault it happens

Valnac · Answer

That usually means her mind isn’t into it.

jl25sc · Answer

Lol nope! Just use lube and keep it handy nearby. It happens especially when you're not ovulating. Dont hurt yourself and cause chaffing.

BeachLuvR97 · Answer

Not if the guy is circumcised. If the head is permanently exposed like that, it rakes out all of the wetness.

Knightoffire · Answer

It is their fault that you are dry you know..

billluc69 · Answer

get some lube

gandolph3 · Answer

See a doctor

bclbn77006 · Answer

no,  it is not her problem. few girls do not produce enough liquid to moist the area.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe it could help you to read some fantasíe books Like my secret garden by Nancy Friday to trigger something in your mind...  Also could help initiate on your own do not wait him to do it.