Losing my virginity?

im 17 and this guy I've known for a while wants to have sex. im a virgin and i dont know if i should save it for somebody i love or just do it already since all of my friends have and i feel like i shouldve by now. any opinions?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Please wait. Don't treats us like it's a game. You're better off waiting till marriage to have sex and it should be with somebody that's going to love, cherish you, and overall wants to be with you. That guy just wants to screw you because he just wants to screw. He's not going to care about you and it's going to leave your very miserable. Because this more to sex than just anything physical. It's emotional, mental, psychological and spiritual too. The moment you grow extremely attached to that person is going to be hard for you to let that person go. He's going to move on to other women and you're going to feel used. Some men that you may want to be with may not want you because of your sexual choices. You're better off waiting. I don't care what he wants. Because the moment you have sex with him, he may think of you as a hoe or God forbid a slut. Especially since you're in high school and college-age, that's exactly how their behavior is. Keep your virginity because it's a part of Who You Are.

    • Like one or two have already said you are definitely not ready to be having excessive this is how you think. That kind of attitude is the quickest way for you to regret making that choice. Don't do it because your friends have. Because I promise you your friends are not stable minded and they probably already regretting their sexual decisions. But in front of you they often lie. Be true to yourself knowing that God has called for you to do different than what they choose to do. If they don't respect your choices sexually then they don't deserve to be your friends. there are better people out there who was not going to abuse you. Again, that guy just wants to hop in and hop out and then brushes everyone how he screw you. For all you know he's probably screwed your friends too.

  • I doubt you are ready for any type of sex, no one under eighteen is, even after that you're still learning yourself. If you have to be asking strangers on GAG what to do with your hymen, you are definitely not ready.

Most Helpful Guys

  • If you want to lose you virginity then you can but don't do it because your friends have. Now you could save it for someone you love but that could happen a month, a year or 5 years from now.

    When it comes to sex for women it's never really great first time round as there's high expectations, it either hurts or it doesn't last long or other.

    I think what you should do is save it for someone you know and trust because either if it goes well or not you can rest in the fact that your first time wasn't with someone you dated prob fell for had sex and prob down the line broke up and you regret giving that guy your virginity.

    If you trust this friend then I say go for it. at least in someway you can look back and think it wasn't with a boyfriend that broke your heart down the line but someone who was there for me and I was for him to experience it together

  • I recommend that you wait until you're ready and want to. Never do anything out of pressure to fit in. Thinking back on me and my friends talking about our first times, nearly all of my female friends said they regretted not waiting and they'd take it back if they could. While most of the guys were competing and bragging about how many they slept with.

    Losing your virginity is a big deal. Don't lose it to someone that doesn't care about how important it is to you.

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  • Don't do it because your friends have l lost theirs already, if you're going to lose your virginity for any reason, do not let it be THAT reason.

  • Never do something just because of your friends. Do things for you. I'm sure when you are ready you will feel it. Whether it's sooner or later.

  • well simply ask yourself do you want to have sex if yes then go ahead if no then dont people seem to place too much weight on virginity

  • if you are simply doing it because all your friends have then you are clearly not thinking straight, you might end up regretting it, just saying

  • I can sense you have doubts and that's not good. So save it for somebody you fall in love with, just don't wait forever.

  • If you are not sure what you want to do, save your virginity. Don't be pressured by him or anyone else. It's your body not theirs.

  • Try to save

  • If you're sure you definitely need to wait it's not something you want to regret

  • I would save it.

  • Save it for somebody you love unless you can't control your sexual drive and have to get sexually active.

  • Save yourself for marriage. Losing it to some guy will likely leave you heartbroken, pregnant, and/or infected.

  • Don’t have sex because other people are having sex but instead do it when you want to and feel comfortable. You don’t necessarily have to love them to have sex unless that’s what *you* want. If you wanna have sex go for it, but if you’re uncomfortable with it and want to wait then do that instead. It’s not always black and white ❤️

  • never, ever listen to your friends when it comes to losing virginity. These sluts are trying to drag you down to their level. If you save it for someone you love, and you choose wisely, you will be far, far happier than they will ever be. Don't give in to the peer pressure this is your life, your special moment!

  • Save it