How do I dominate a guy for my pleasure?

I'm usually submissive but this guy I've started seeing wants me to know what I want and use him for my pleasure. Apparently he is a switch too and I think I can be one. It's just a new concept for me... can I get some suggestions and ideas? I like him a lot and I do want to blow his mind.
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  • Dominance is more a state of mind. What are some of your fantasies?

    • Mmmm I've honestly not explored my sexuality. I did find it hot he said that his dick was mine only and for my pleasure. Any suggestions what I should do to explore? I've not been the more dominant person since I was a teenager. Since then most of my partners were vanilla or more dominant. I'm very open minded and feel as though I can go either way.

    • There are so many avenues. Are you into bondage? S&M?

    • I've never tried. I don't know if he's into that yet either. He seems to be a switch and can dominate me if I want him to. Ultimately he seems to want to please me. He's inexperienced from what I can tell too when it comes to how he treats my clit and starts rough and doesn't understand that I don't come that fast haha...

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Facesitting and foot worship is usually my go to recommendation to begin with. Or even just making him go down on you.

    • He said he wanted me to sit on his face and he wants me to be confident, know what I want, and use him for my pleasure. I've not been the more dominant partner since I was a teenager. Do you have any other suggestions I can do that won't hurt him? (Not sure if he's into pain or anything yet. He just wants me to use him for my pleasure.)

    • Literally just sit on his face lmao. Like I know some people have a hard time taking that step because they think they'll hurt the seat, but I've had like a 350 lb woman on my face full weight before myself, they'll be fine. Worst case scenario is a sore face (and tongue depending on how at it they go) Establish a tapping system if they need to breathe or you to get up. I usually go with two taps for air, three taps for longer air break/ to tell me something (like if they wanna stop; I facesit a lotta noobs sometimes lmao) and nonstop taps for emergencies (i. e. they need to me to get off.) With a tapping system, it's pretty much impossible to cause them any harm with facesitting on accident. Make sure they're on a bed or some sorta soft surface, maybe begin clothed to get yourself into it, whether just underwear or in leggings or something, and just sit on their face on the bed, forward or back, or if you're feeling particularly daring, bring them to the edge of the bed so your feet can reach the ground. Grind their face, don't get up (beyond giving air) until you're done cumming (once or multiple times). As for other things you can try, again, foot worship. Have him massage your feet and progress that to like kissing your feet and sucking them. Feels good, especially after a long day at work, and it's great foreplay. Or just straight up tell him he's giving you head today, and make him go down on you, any position you want, whether it be laying on your back, or to try something new and more dominant while standing up and they're on their knees. I make my girl do that for me in the shower all the time. Ask yourself what else you enjoy being done to you and just be a little selfish. Maybe you want your tits sucked, maybe you want him to lick your ass, etc.

    • Thanks for MHO! Lemme know how it goes! :*

Most Helpful Guy

  • Get on top and grind your pussy on his cock.
    If he’s willing, tie him down and blindfold him.

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  • riding

  • Gay kink in the straight link.

  • Well first of all you have to decide what is your limit. What you feel comfortable with. Watch some femdom porn or read some.

  • Tie him down, tease him, spank him, sit on his face, there are so much things you can do to him, depending on what you both are into

    • True. What are some beginner things to start with?

    • Maybe just tie him to the bed and edge him

    • What is edging him?

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  • Knee his balls while giving him a handjob.

    • Dumbass comment

    • @rhc1985 maybe for you

  • Buy him a cock cage, and yourself a strap on. So you can cage his cock, peg his ass and make him your bitch.