Do men ever feel used for sex?

Question

Do guys ever feel like they're being used for sex or hurt by it like women can be sometimes? Just legit curious. Started sleeping with this guy. Still trying to decide if I like him. He seems to like the idea of being used fetish wise for sex. I am okay with trying to act out his fantasies but... I don't want to hurt him or make him feel like I don't want to get to know him more past that. Hope that the feeling is mutual as in liking me too. But either way... when the heat of the moment dies, is it possible for a guy to feel used?

Answer 1

Kurαȷ | 882 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

If they let themselves be used, I guess.
I mean, I've been propositioned a number of times the whole "hey, do you wanna be fuck buddies? Like no feelings, just sex?".
And every time I just frowned and replied "Uh, no. I don't do that".

I mean, the other party makes their intentions entirely transparent.
If you are someone who believes certain things about sex and intimacy you wouldn't do things that go against those beliefs, and if you do and then regret it, well then that's entirely your own fault.

Answer 2

MikeTheBartender | 603 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

I definitely have had babes use me, especially in my younger days before I made pretty good money. it's never really bothered me, because I love sex. But there were a few that I got attached to that I would have liked to have dated and not just had sex.

Asker

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How would I know if he was getting attached to me?
MikeTheBartender

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If he's an expert you won't, but otherwise the normal stuff, is he getting jealous? Wants to spend more time w you? You meet his friends? Planning more interesting kind of dates? Etc
Asker

3 d
Ehhh he's a resident physician so he's very time pinched. I'm not sure what jealousy would look like. The last 3 times we met up he legit had to go to work very soon.

Answer 3

Asker

How would I know if he was getting attached to me?

Answer 4

MikeTheBartender

If he's an expert you won't, but otherwise the normal stuff, is he getting jealous? Wants to spend more time w you? You meet his friends? Planning more interesting kind of dates? Etc

Answer 5

Asker

Ehhh he's a resident physician so he's very time pinched. I'm not sure what jealousy would look like. The last 3 times we met up he legit had to go to work very soon.

Answer 6

Anonymous

It is. I don't think it hits as hard for guys as it does girls, or at least it didn't hit really hard for me, but I did recognize that I had been used and it did hurt a bit, because I actually did really like the girl. But I also got laid, so... Couldn't complain too much.

Answer 7

bamesjond0069 | 920 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

Yes. Im very masculine such that im many girls fantasies. Quite a few times I've actually thought a girl was cool and after we had sex she would be like "tbh the fucking is great and you drive me wild but my parents would never accept you so lets not go there."

I mean i dont really get hung up over girls but the fact i actually was going to give them a shot is hella rare so it was quite disappointing.

Answer 8

abc3643 | 5.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Looking back, in December 1988, I was used for sex.
I had romantic feelings so that hurt when it ended, but she never did.
I wasn't that hurt being used though and the sex WAS fun!

Asker

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How would I know if he was having romantic feelings for me?
abc3643

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He does. It is in his actions. Boys talk with actions not words.
abc3643

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Sorry... Thinking of another question. I don't know about any specific guy in your life, but what I said about boys spesking with actions is tryr.
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abc3643

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Trye
abc3643

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True

Answer 9

Asker

How would I know if he was having romantic feelings for me?

Answer 10

abc3643

He does. It is in his actions. Boys talk with actions not words.

Answer 11

abc3643

Sorry... Thinking of another question. I don't know about any specific guy in your life, but what I said about boys spesking with actions is tryr.

Answer 12

abc3643

Trye

Answer 13

abc3643

True

Answer 14

Avicenna | 5.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

I don't think we feel used for sex, but rather for emotions/feelings when there's the expectation of more than just sex. Otherwise, no.

Answer 15

Anonymous

I have a particular talent for cunnilingus. A casual partner I had referred me to her friends. I knew why, but made the best of the encounters.

Answer 16

similartoyou

Xper 2

I would love to feel used though.

Answer 17

Valnac | 10.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

Sure, sometimes that can be fun.

Answer 18

boxcarjoe | 57 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 3

Yes and I love it. We call it dick on delivery.

Answer 19

beatcoock | 2.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

Wish this happens with me

Answer 20

Mrobody

Xper 3

probably often...

Answer 21

COMMODOREII | 13.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Many times

Answer 22

thrombis | 353 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

Yes we do.

Answer 23

Board_Tennis77 | 546 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

I m stillvirgin

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