How to make people take you seriously when you say your not in the "mood"?

[meetkitty123]

Seriously we have all heard of tales. One person is not in a sexual mood but the other is. Or one person is reserved and the other is a sexual jokester.
Or perhaps
You find yourself telling people I'm not interested yet you're still bugged?
Or let's say you are in a relationship your sick, in pain or irritated yet your partner feels the best way to make you "feel" better is to be sexual and Insist you need an orgasm despite you telling them prior you just want to lay down and be held.
Or have you ever been pissed off at a partner and their response is to get sexual with you despite your clear annoyance to their advances.

I'm a hypersexual but I have to say Even I get to the point at times where I'm like Yo 🤬 enough pay real attention to me and my moods!

Yes as a hypersexual I have gotten turned down a lot... But at the same time I have to say I have learned when I've overstepped and when I need to back down...

Now getting others to step down... Maybe I'm too nice.
Usually I'm like please not now.
Or No I'm not feeling good.
Should I just be cold.
No.
Or get the F out of here 🤣
Seriously what's your style to get your point across.

[Jjpayne]

It's tough because when you are horny, and you have a partner you are anixious and eager to fill that need.

I'm going to take the position of a peace treaty. I am sure there are times that neither partner is in the mood. So you help them out with minimum effort to get them to a place where they are ok. For a guy maybe it's simply stroking his male member and for a girl it's simply fingering. It does not need to be engaging, it should feel like a simple backscratch. Backscratches are not fun per say but they are pretty easy to do and that's what this should be like. Just a very simple assist.

But that's for committed partners of course. If you are simply dating then heck no that's not a right or a privilege.

But if you really want to help them out with the message, get them a play sex toy too. That might be another compromise, you have a one and he has one. And you simply say, you have to do it that way to today.

But because a sexual urge can be like going to the bathroom, you have to release all that energy.

Yet another method, oddly enough is writing, you write out the fantasy that you are desiring and it might be even fun to show that to your partner

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Well, I have never been propositioned by a woman and I know how it feels I don't like to just be used for sex I want a woman to marry me and have my baby or maybe adopt a child or be a step-dad to kids, yes I would be a good dad to a girls kids I'm far from being a beast but I am a big pussycat and I don't mind a girl whose like a tiger in cage LMBO yes it's not right for a guy to always think of sex or make sex jokes that I agree hey immature guys are the ones who don't respect a girl and realize she doesn't want sex all the time even if she's hypersexual type of person

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks For MHO :)

[CriticalDiscourse]

I clearly say:

"I'm not in the mood and I'm not having sex with you, now back off, please," in my bitch tone. I refuse to play into the soft, female "too nice" persona pushed onto women that dictates that we don't hurt anyone's feelings, especially dudes.

No, floof that.

If I don't want to fuck you, I am not fucking you, will not give into pressure to fuck you, and will hurt you if you try to fuck me anyway.

Periodt.

[CriticalDiscourse]

Obviously, if this was my partner I'd be slightly gentler about it unless they really crossed the line. TO clarify.

[ohshee]

Panties mouse trap

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I just don't get into sexual relationships with people I have to "convince" to stop trying to have sex with me after I say no. It's not a debate and I don't engage with people who treat it like one.

[TeeBar]

I just stay limp... she usually gets the hint unless she simply wants to substitute for a Tootsie Roll.
I like Tootsie Rolls.

[chriscdi]

push them off you, im sure they would get the hint

[havingfun101]

"As a hypersexual" (has 1/4 the average sex drive as a man)

[Rocky143143143]

Can u please follow... I am trying to dm but I can't

[COMMODOREII]

I tell them no and walk away.

[bklynbadboy1]

Just be stern and mean what you say

[Valnac]

Please would be nice.

[Rudon00]

This is where respecting and being considerate is very important to having a healthy relationship.

[msc545]

Repeat the word "no" and walk away...

[Gramkabir]

It's just you've to say it... Nothing else... If your partner has understand your tone... Then it's ok or let him understand your tone or facial exposer when u r not in the mood actually...
As you r hypersexual, how do you manage your urge.. I'm too... It's really difficult...

[jimmy2]

I hear you. How would be just cuddling be then?

[krin_m]

I'm hypersexual and I do come across as demanding but I try to really pay attention to my partner's state of mind and I do not take it personally when I get turned down.
The other side of the equation, I normally try and get in the mood because I know I will love it when I do but when that is not possible, I'm really honest and do not sugarcoat it and ask to take a raincheck because eventually I know I'll get in the mood. :-) Not just at that moment!

[Blaine999]

Being very aggressive could help get your point across though I wouldn't recommend it if you're a nice person. Maybe giving them an ultimatum will get them to take notice

[Sampan2017]

Say straight away I'm not in mood