MrOracle | 11.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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It's the only thing some men want from some women, sure. But let me turn the question around: most women have a long list of things they want in a guy - often a list of things he MUST have to have any chance of dating her - but what do YOU bring to a relationship that a guy would value?
A lot of women either have no answer to this question, or they say "sex", and then they wonder why guys only want them for sex, when sex was the only thing they brought to the relationship. Guys mostly know who those girls are, and they mostly know that if sex is the only thing she really has to offer, then there's no point in expecting any more than sex from her, and thus, there's no point in giving her anything beyond what that sex is worth: some attention from the guy.
If you want guys to value you for more than just sex, then you have to OFFER more than just sex. And let me say this, because tons of girls get this completely wrong: the vast majority of men DO NOT CARE about your education, your degree (s), or your career. Those are things that women care about in men, but that doesn't mean that men care about those things in women - they don't. So you won't impress men by reading him your resume unless you're looking for a job. What men value in a woman is a COMPANION in life, and someone who will support him, as he supports her. Men mostly aren't looking for a woman who wants to bring to the table all the things he already has or already brings: he's looking for women who bring something to the table that he's not able to bring himself.
Women who do that successfully tend to get wifed up. Women who don't do that tend to get used for sex. Look around you, at all of your friends, co-workers, etc. If you pay attention and listen to what they tell you about their relationships, you'll find that this is overwhelmingly true.
Here's the thing, I offer much more than sex and bring more to the table than most men can. Most guys who know me, know that I'm not 'easy', and they don't like easy women either, so for them it's refreshing to find someone who isn't easy, but then they go and think I'll open up sexually to them simply because I haven't disregarded them. As a result, most guys tend to turn most things sexual, because for them it's a prerequisite to anything else.
It's understandable that guys are interested in sex, in exactly the same way that it would be understandable if, say, a North Korean (who are literally starving to death) is interested in food and has a hard time avoiding the topic. Virtually no man is interested in a sexless relationship, and sex certainly IS on a man's list of things that make women desirable to have a relationship with. But it's also okay to tell the guy: "Look, I get it, but I don't have sex outside of committed relationships. Sex is important to me too, but I don't do casual sex and I don't have sex with guys who haven't invested in our relationship, so if you're not willing to wait a little while and make that investment, then we're done here."
Don't be mad at him asking about sex - just tell him where you stand, and then he can decide if he's okay with that or not. If he's okay with it, then you know the pressure is off, and he knows that sex isn't totally off the table forever, and you can then talk about other things and build the relationship.
Oh I know every guy will want sex, in my experience it just seems to be the only thing they want. The thing is I always make it known sex isn't something I think about, definitely in the early stages, and they're okay with that but they seem to think my opinion is going to change and they still try. At that point I end up cutting them off, and this always seems to happen.
One of my guy friends said he did care about his partners income because he felt she’d be least likely to rip him off should they ever end up divorced. Sad but true.
bklynbadboy1 | 4.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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No we're not all like that but unfortunately for you your 18 and the guys in your age group are you with raging hormones so from 16 until about 27 that pretty much all we want i know cause I was like that but the good news or we do grow out is it. I hope that helps
bobalife | 114 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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It’s common, and it can be discouraging for us girls who want something serious. But there are guys who are also looking for relationships even if it may not be the majority. You just gotta filter out the guys who aren’t looking to date or something serious. Goodluck!
JackSmy | 2.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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But you are so young, and probably have no experience with more mature guys that take their time, and actually, honestly care about you, what you like, and want to know those things, and get to know WHO you are, and what you like, because maybe he might like that too! It often happens later, in your late 30's, and you just realize sex isn't really any big deal, but rather prefer sharing "special moments" with someone that you honestly, really LOVE, and you know what that means, with them.
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Jjpayne | 3.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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Yes and no. We are clearly attracted by female bodies but at the end of the day we also want a best friend. Someone to have fun with. I can't say that closeness will ever stop per say but sharing life with each other I think is important.
If a guy can have fun with his sister, then surely that can translate to having fun like that with a female partner! Lol 😂
I don't just want sex. That gets mundane after a bit because you get annoyed with everything else. I want conversation, hanging out, sharing in hobbies and interests and if sex happens it happens but I don't just want only sex. I feel like sex is so much better if I have a connection with her. Like we share interests and ideas. We can make each other laugh or have fun and be sarcastic towards each other. I mean if you want nothing more than sticking your dick in a hole that doesn't talk stick to masturbation or buy a sex doll.
Of course men want more then just sex. The problem is if he doesn't make the situation sexual your going to friendzone him. Not every guy can navigate the extreme complexity of speaking to women (if he is to cautious your uninterested, he shows he is very interested to needy, doesn't make the concersation sexual you friendzone him, makes it too sexual he is a creep, if your not interested and he approaches he is a creep, if he doesn't approach and your interested he is a pushover/coward, etc. etc.). So some guys are going to make things hyper sexual because that is all they want but most guys are just trying to navigate the land mines women have put in place and not all of them are sucessful.
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0112358 | 12.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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No, but - it’s a high priority and harder to get then other things men want (for most men) so most focus on it a lot with attractive women where there’s an opportunity. - it’s all some guys want, and those guys approach a lot of women since they’re always single - if guys sense sex isn’t going to happen then nothing else she offers is relevant. If a woman isn’t sexually interested in me then... anything beyond friendship isn’t happening. And in that case either she’s fun to hang out with or not but I don’t care about anything else she has going on.
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sensible27 | 345 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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That seems like a generalisation and I would presume you're aware of it so the question fundamentally boils down to why are the people you've interacted with oriented the way they are, I don't know, could be selection issues. You can try dating apps if you think number of people you can meet in real life is too limiting. I'm sort of asexual and I don't know why but it seems like asexual people wouldn't be too hard to find if you wanna go that route. If you just wanna meet new people ok cupid might be a good site (swear I'm not paid, I don't even use it anymore but they used to publish interesting studies on humans)..
What guys want in a woman fall into two camps: 1) sex/sex appeal, and 2) relationship qualities
At your age, guys are heavily biased towards the first group. Sex and sex appeal are paramount because they're not interested in settling down. They have urges that they want to be satisfied and at some level not having these urges satisfied can have emotionally negative consequences.
As guys get older, the balance begins to shift towards relationship qualities, but sex appeal still takes on a major role.
So no, sex isn't the *only* thing men want, but it definitely is a significant want.
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NickAdy9405 | 71 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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Nah not at all. Let me explain this to you. When a guy really loves you and is attracted of you mentally and of your looks he will want to talk to you spend time with you, cuddle with you, eat with you, go out with you, and have sex with you. Sex is natural and normal. Most guys yeah, just want only sex but there are guys that want love and a nice long lasting relationship that also has sex. I never been that guy that want hook ups and just that i always wanted a mental connection with a girl. Brains attract me way more than looks. I honestly fucked mostly girls that look maybe 4/10-6/10 but sex is and was amazing because our mental connection.
Not really, companionship is probably better than the sex sometimes.
It became more apparent as I went through college. That just because I slept with this girl the first day we met. I really enjoyed how close we became, hanging out, going shopping or out to eat together. It setup the parameters that our friendship ended up much deeper than just having sex. Eventually she said she always wanted me in her life, and I couldn't agree more.
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Hangry22 | 967 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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Well considering how many guys go around saying girls only have a preowned pussy to offer them and nothing else, it's true
It seems like the majority of them is only interested in sex but that's also a good filter because they expose their true nature pretty easily. Which brings me to this pic. It's hilarious and true.
It’s part of it but I wanna travel with the girl I love, jog with her, watch movies with her, cook with her. Those are things that matter more to me. Of course sex and foreplay is important in a healthy relationship but I look at other factors. I can’t speak on behalf of other guys on here.
No I love talking about everything but there is something you need to look st if this is happening to you ok have you heard about we all have a aura. We also have an inter energy thst it so beautiful and guys don't understand thst but they feel it. Itsva very sensual feeling it's like your a magnet pulling and push there aura and it feels beautiful also look into you being an Empath
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Anonymous
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I want comradery with a woman. I know sex would feel great, but I'm looking for more than just a feeling. I also want to raise children with a woman. I am a Christian virgin and seek the same. My life isn't devoted to pleasure or sex, but rather Christ. Pleasure enhances life, but it is by far no meaning to it. I've never had a sexual conversation outside of reproductive health with a woman. My conversations are about daily life and Christ' purpose.
No not at all i want her for many things, sex isn't even important , just being with your soul mate is what is the best part to me. I am pleased to say i have been with the most amazing lady for 30 years and i wouldn't trade her for anything. unless the batmobile is offered. she would have to go. then im afraid LOL
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Anonymous
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No matter what what men want from women, women will make excuses or flat out refuse, and then complain that men are reluctant to commit.
Women want a man who will "give her his all without expecting anything in return". Pretty words, but all it means is "serve me". And that's why men aren't "allowed" to have any expectations for women. They only see us as a means to an end (an easier life)
I disagree, I’d say an easier life is a single life (relationships take work for both of successful). But the rewards are much better for those (both) suited to it.
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@NorthShoreCalling what work does a woman put into a relationship?
Ohh a lot. I can see you insulting many women now. Do you have issues in life in general that stem from poor mothering or low self esteem so you choose unreliable partners? That’s the strong vibe I’m getting here. Look around! Plenty of people are happier together despite life not being perfect.
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@NorthShoreCalling that wasn't an answer, and deflecting into personal insults won't do anything. In almost every case, a relationship means more work for the man and less for the woman. Which is why women are always trying to get into relationships, and many men avoid them
Finchie40 | 1.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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Not the only thing but it’s definitely high on the list , We want her to want us as much as we want her , if you really like someone and they like you back the same then having sex shouldn’t even be an issue you should both want it when sex becomes an issue then that pretty much means the relationship is doomed
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Apple1996 | 5.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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Nah I always attract the non sex crazy type of men. I think it's a curse. They just want to have normal conversations with me and its so lame.😥
You think it's fun but then you realise that it simply means men only want sexual pleasure from you, they're not interested in getting to know you. In other words, they don't really like you, they just see you as a sexual object to have fun with.
Ah yeah that must suck. I'm not sure what would cause a guy to be that way. Maybe because they haven't ever gotten enough sex so they act out to try to get more but then come off as being sex crazed.
Of course we all want sex, but that's not everything for a lot of men. We want a life to you know. Men are gonna talk about sex regardless because that is our main objective, afterwards, its more or less just making her happy. Sex is a reward after the first time with a women and most ladies know this, most not all sadly
Umm, men ain't the only one. Constant rotation in my psyche. I just don't implement my thoughts until I have a full understanding of whom I'm dealing with before engaging in a plan of any type of relationship. If I have allowed you in my space. I'm attracted to you. It's what comes out of your mouth that will progress your intentions towards me.
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Gwenhwyfar | 2.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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Sadly, for a lot of guys, yes. But not all guys are like this.
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Makeushiver | 1.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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I prefer intelligent, compassionate, well-spoken women both in sexual and non-sexual settings. Intelligence often makes for better lovers so it's not many traits not normally considered sexual wind up being sexual since sex involves your whole neing
I mean it, I have no intrest in tell you pretty lies. Note that I'm only speaking for myself here, I have no idea if any other guy feels the same way as me on this topic
You've always striked me as the skeptical type, so I'll understand if you don't believe me.
Guarded and analytical, yeah that's a better way of saying it.
Yeah, I'd guess I am the minority.
I always considered myseld a rare case when it comes to certain things, but I never say that out loud because I don't want to sound to like I'm calling myself special, because I'm defiently not. At least I don't think I am.
Right but the thing is, it's the same guys who will say they're 'not like the others' or that sex isn't everything, that will turn around and make everything sexual. You can see where the skepticism would come from.
Coming from my prespective, if I didn't make every conversation I had with a girl be about romance or sex, my peers will just assume that I was gay. I had that happen a lot to me when I was in highschool. It was pretty damn annoying.
Miristheiss | 2.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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I'm sure with some it is. Overall though I think both men and women are hard wired at a core level to want acceptance, companionship, bonding and closeness with someone of the opposite sex.
I am looking for someone to accept me. AsvI have found women don't really do that If they get an alpha male for example, they only care about what he does to how he makes her feel, If he loses his charm he becomes worthless I perceive that as not caring about the person but something that is vanity. I am perceived by most women as scum by the way. wonder what I did.
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lucas262 | 697 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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In today's market at least if women are ,, liberated,, and feminist chances are sex is the only thing she'll bring to the table.
Lot of men treat women like points on a board, lot of men don't and are lonely fucks.
Really you don't have to fish very far to find a good guy, the higher value a man is the more he tends to wanna fuck rather than love. Lot of people don't like lowering their standards,
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godfatherfan | 4.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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That is how guys are wired, esp when they are younger. That doesn't mean they don't want other things.
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Sevenpointfive | 2.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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i can be friends. i'm only attracted to some. if they are attractive sex is good
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Baseball21 | 57 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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Hell no definitely not the only thing as a matter a fact I could go through my whole relationship without having sex it is more about how you connect with your girl than about having sex. But I will say that when it comes to having sex I wish more women would be open to doing different things.
Exactly! Intelligent adults can agree on what works for BOTH of them. Like what's even the point in wasting your time with someone who wants something completely different?
katiesmuff | 6.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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Yes become a good cook as they will also accept good cooking along with the sex.
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SenseiSeptred | 373 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.
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No, not at all, but in many cases, if two people cannot even agree on the slightest of aspects, then even a friendship let alone a relationship would never work regardless of sexual aspects or not.
I understand. Im just saying before you actually say no to it, maybe they read the statement or your body actions wrong. Or it maybe is they are just a horn dog like you stated
No, it is about companionship, romance and affection and support and encouragement and loyalty. Sex without these things happen but not fun. These things without sex have a muxh greater importance
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Anonymous
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No, and that isn't incompatible with "I don't think I've ever met a guy who hasn't tried to turn any type of conversation sexual". So I don't understand the question.
It's like thinking about walking. I walk a lot, but I just do it everywhere I go without thinking. It's not something that becomes a "main thing" I think about.
It also doesn't reflect the question: "Is sex the only thing men want from women?" Answer is no. Strong no. You're making a connection between that and making a sexual comment which isn't there. That's the problem.
Me making a sexual comment does not mean sex is the only thing I want from women. Can I clarify the point any further?
For example, if we're always talking, and you're trying to have a normal conversation but I always manage to turn it into talking about sweets, you're going to think the only thing I care about are sweets.
Naturally, when I'm talking to a guy and he manages to twist every conversation into something sexual, or every action into something sexual, it is not wild for me to assume that sex is the only thing this guy cares about. After all, he hasn't given any indication otherwise.
Let's take that scenario and multiply it by 20. Twenty guys always working sex into any angle.
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"you're going to think the only thing I care about are sweets. " No, I'd see it more like you're interested in it and want share that interest with me. I think it would be weird to assume that's all they care about, because no one is like that.
You're making a leap there. Like, did you not consider the possibility that they like you and are trying not to get friendzoned? Why would you jump to the conclusion that if they want sex then they don't want anything else? People want sex. Everyone. But when a guy talks about it you assume that there's nothing else there?
It's not the only thing they want but it's one of the things they'll want in a potential partner
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Anonymous
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Is it not that we only want sex but thats how we feel love we are physical creatures. We see a girl talking with her soft voice, nice smell, soft skin and sensitive behavior. These gets us horny we can't control it.
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Anonymous3 dI want comradery with a woman. I know sex would feel great, but I'm looking for more than just a feeling. I also want to raise children with a woman. I am a Christian virgin and seek the same. My life isn't devoted to pleasure or sex, but rather Christ. Pleasure enhances life, but it is by far no meaning to it. I've never had a sexual conversation outside of reproductive health with a woman. My conversations are about daily life and Christ' purpose.2|00|0
Someone to have fun with. I can't say that closeness will ever stop per say but sharing life with each other I think is important. 
Lol 😂 
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