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Is sex the only thing men want from women?

I don't think I've ever met a guy who hasn't tried to turn any type of conversation sexual.
Is sex the only thing men want from women?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It's the only thing some men want from some women, sure. But let me turn the question around: most women have a long list of things they want in a guy - often a list of things he MUST have to have any chance of dating her - but what do YOU bring to a relationship that a guy would value?

    A lot of women either have no answer to this question, or they say "sex", and then they wonder why guys only want them for sex, when sex was the only thing they brought to the relationship. Guys mostly know who those girls are, and they mostly know that if sex is the only thing she really has to offer, then there's no point in expecting any more than sex from her, and thus, there's no point in giving her anything beyond what that sex is worth: some attention from the guy.

    If you want guys to value you for more than just sex, then you have to OFFER more than just sex. And let me say this, because tons of girls get this completely wrong: the vast majority of men DO NOT CARE about your education, your degree (s), or your career. Those are things that women care about in men, but that doesn't mean that men care about those things in women - they don't. So you won't impress men by reading him your resume unless you're looking for a job. What men value in a woman is a COMPANION in life, and someone who will support him, as he supports her. Men mostly aren't looking for a woman who wants to bring to the table all the things he already has or already brings: he's looking for women who bring something to the table that he's not able to bring himself.

    Women who do that successfully tend to get wifed up. Women who don't do that tend to get used for sex. Look around you, at all of your friends, co-workers, etc. If you pay attention and listen to what they tell you about their relationships, you'll find that this is overwhelmingly true.

    • Here's the thing, I offer much more than sex and bring more to the table than most men can. Most guys who know me, know that I'm not 'easy', and they don't like easy women either, so for them it's refreshing to find someone who isn't easy, but then they go and think I'll open up sexually to them simply because I haven't disregarded them. As a result, most guys tend to turn most things sexual, because for them it's a prerequisite to anything else.

    • It's understandable that guys are interested in sex, in exactly the same way that it would be understandable if, say, a North Korean (who are literally starving to death) is interested in food and has a hard time avoiding the topic. Virtually no man is interested in a sexless relationship, and sex certainly IS on a man's list of things that make women desirable to have a relationship with. But it's also okay to tell the guy: "Look, I get it, but I don't have sex outside of committed relationships. Sex is important to me too, but I don't do casual sex and I don't have sex with guys who haven't invested in our relationship, so if you're not willing to wait a little while and make that investment, then we're done here." Don't be mad at him asking about sex - just tell him where you stand, and then he can decide if he's okay with that or not. If he's okay with it, then you know the pressure is off, and he knows that sex isn't totally off the table forever, and you can then talk about other things and build the relationship.

    • Oh I know every guy will want sex, in my experience it just seems to be the only thing they want. The thing is I always make it known sex isn't something I think about, definitely in the early stages, and they're okay with that but they seem to think my opinion is going to change and they still try. At that point I end up cutting them off, and this always seems to happen.

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  • No we're not all like that but unfortunately for you your 18 and the guys in your age group are you with raging hormones so from 16 until about 27 that pretty much all we want i know cause I was like that but the good news or we do grow out is it. I hope that helps

Most Helpful Girls

  • Nope. I have a friend who's man really doesn't care about sex.

    In fact she would rather him be more sexual.

    he loves her beauty but his interest is very much so much more about her personality.

    It is actually very adorable to see sometimes how he treats her.
    And pretty refreshing since it is so rare.

    • That's cute

    • Thanks 4 mho

    • No problemo

  • It’s common, and it can be discouraging for us girls who want something serious. But there are guys who are also looking for relationships even if it may not be the majority. You just gotta filter out the guys who aren’t looking to date or something serious. Goodluck!

    • Aye aye

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Yes become a good cook as they will also accept good cooking along with the sex.

  • I've noticed that too. I believe you can find men who are not only interested in sex but they're rare.

    • Extremely so

    • Yeah

  • Of course men want more then just sex. The problem is if he doesn't make the situation sexual your going to friendzone him. Not every guy can navigate the extreme complexity of speaking to women (if he is to cautious your uninterested, he shows he is very interested to needy, doesn't make the concersation sexual you friendzone him, makes it too sexual he is a creep, if your not interested and he approaches he is a creep, if he doesn't approach and your interested he is a pushover/coward, etc. etc.). So some guys are going to make things hyper sexual because that is all they want but most guys are just trying to navigate the land mines women have put in place and not all of them are sucessful.

  • Well considering how many guys go around saying girls only have a preowned pussy to offer them and nothing else, it's true

    • How unfortunate

  • I like your wit and intelligence. I like Weather Channel women, they are much smarter than average.

  • No I love talking about everything but there is something you need to look st if this is happening to you ok have you heard about we all have a aura. We also have an inter energy thst it so beautiful and guys don't understand thst but they feel it. Itsva very sensual feeling it's like your a magnet pulling and push there aura and it feels beautiful also look into you being an Empath

  • They want food too.

  • That is how guys are wired, esp when they are younger. That doesn't mean they don't want other things.

  • But you are so young, and probably have no experience with more mature guys that take their time, and actually, honestly care about you, what you like, and want to know those things, and get to know WHO you are, and what you like, because maybe he might like that too!
    It often happens later, in your late 30's, and you just realize sex isn't really any big deal, but rather prefer sharing "special moments" with someone that you honestly, really LOVE, and you know what that means, with them.

  • I don't just want sex. That gets mundane after a bit because you get annoyed with everything else. I want conversation, hanging out, sharing in hobbies and interests and if sex happens it happens but I don't just want only sex. I feel like sex is so much better if I have a connection with her. Like we share interests and ideas. We can make each other laugh or have fun and be sarcastic towards each other. I mean if you want nothing more than sticking your dick in a hole that doesn't talk stick to masturbation or buy a sex doll.

  • Nah I always attract the non sex crazy type of men. I think it's a curse. They just want to have normal conversations with me and its so lame.😥

    • Can we swap lol

    • Nah it sucks like the last thing I want to talk about is my day or how life is going. I'd rather be able to talk dirty. It's much more fun

    • You think it's fun but then you realise that it simply means men only want sexual pleasure from you, they're not interested in getting to know you. In other words, they don't really like you, they just see you as a sexual object to have fun with.

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  • You're 18. They grow out of it.

    • Only shortly before they are taken to the grave...

  • Yes and no.

    There are 3 different category of men:
    1) fuck boys who want to use you.
    2) guys who are into you.
    3) guys that are not into you.

    But, how many times has a girl ever come across to more of one ☝🏻 these guys in the list?

    I’d say #1 and #2 & #3 are a tie that drives us girls crazy. Which is our main concerned is #1. Thinking all guys are the same.

  • No, but I'll battle you in a game of ping pong

    • You mean table tennis

    • Exactly, but it's the same thing.

    • I guarantee you'd lose

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  • Than you are around immature guys.

    • Most guys my age are indeed immature so you're not wrong there

  • Yes and no. We are clearly attracted by female bodies but at the end of the day we also want a best friend.

    Is sex the only thing men want from women?Is sex the only thing men want from women?Is sex the only thing men want from women?Is sex the only thing men want from women?

    Someone to have fun with. I can't say that closeness will ever stop per say but sharing life with each other I think is important.

    If a guy can have fun with his sister, then surely that can translate to having fun like that with a female partner!

    Is sex the only thing men want from women?

    Lol 😂

  • Maybe you should change careers then, kiddo. Working as a stripper, you're going to get guys talk like that!

  • i can be friends. i'm only attracted to some. if they are attractive sex is good

  • I'm sure with some it is.
    Overall though I think both men and women are hard wired at a core level to want acceptance, companionship, bonding and closeness with someone of the opposite sex.

  • Not the only thing but it’s definitely high on the list , We want her to want us as much as we want her , if you really like someone and they like you back the same then having sex shouldn’t even be an issue you should both want it when sex becomes an issue then that pretty much means the relationship is doomed

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