Guys, would you be okay with your girlfriend wearing a shirt during sex?

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Let me start off by saying, I think in most cases, I can see why men have a problem with it. Most women who don’t want to take their shirt off, have insecurities about their bodies that are minuscule or don’t exist. However, I’m talking about women who have genuine issues with their bodies that are usually seen as a turn off for a guy.

I’m 24 and don’t have a body like most women around my age. I lost a lot of weight and I have some loose skin that is visible but doesn’t hang, large saggy boobs, stretch marks across my belly/boobs, large nipples that are at the end of my breast instead of the center, etc. I currently plan on staying a virgin because I can’t comprehend why a guy would want to see me naked when there’s plenty of women who have better bodies. If I decide to have sex, I’d be comfortable wearing a long sleeve oversized t shirt or wearing babydoll lingerie with dim lighting. I would find it embarrassing to take my shirt off, so I’m curious if you had a girlfriend like this, how would you feel?

PrudentGuy · Accepted Answer

Reading the details, honestly I can't imagine anything so "wrong" that I'll reject her as a person.

But I have 2 things against you: the lack of sexual confidence and a negative personality.

In fact, I get really turn off by these two traits, that I had turned down a few girls because of them.

My only rule in the bedroom is lights on and clothes off. Hence you know my answer to your question.

In order to "score point", you need to concern about how to carry yourself when you're naked, and how to show him you embrace your sensuality.

These are my sentiments and I think many guys here can relate to it.

EaterPeter · Accepted Answer

I would be ok if that's the only way to get sex from her. Otherwise not. Honestly it's hard to say. The visuals you are trying to create may paint you as not aesthetically pleasing and other person would not feel rhe same way as you do. You are saying yoy are saving yourself for your true partner. If you have at least 6 months i would recommend you to tone your body. I have dated women of different shapes and enjoyed their company with or without clothes. I have not dated with someone of tge image you are trying to paint of yourself so I can't say for sure.

AndyOh · Answer

I will say this... if a guy falls in love with you, he probably will not care about all those 'issues' you feel you have about your body. I get it, that you think all guys want the hot slim chick next door. But we don't... we want a woman who will love us, and all our quirks, take care of us like we will take care of you, and let us play with your body like we want you to play with ours. If it bothers you that much, some nice lingerie' in soft lighting would be a good start. Later, who cares, you are living together or married or whatever. Relax, and know that you are beautiful no matter what those issues keep telling you.

Porter21 · Answer

Yes I would! It would turn me on during sex & I would hope you take it off before we orgasm together! I don’t have a perfect body either I have man boobs I have stretch marks from losing weight also! So why worry about it? If a guy can’t except you for how you are then he is not for you! I would not be put off no matter what!

JPrez · Answer

I think if you explained your situation to the guy, most would be ok with it.

chriscdi · Answer

well if she wants to have sex with her shirt on i wouldn't have a problem but since she's doing that i might as well join in too, id wear my shirt and tell her we should put on socks too and thats legit

magiusX26 · Answer

sometimes but not all the time. one of my fave ways for her to dress actually has her in a shirt, schoolgirl.

AbsolutePeppar · Answer

that is sexy

genericname85 · Answer

i would advise you not to do that for your own sake. like can you imagine what that does to your own psyche? you will condition yourself into thinking "you're not worth being looked at". that's not something i even wish for my worst enemies... do yourself a favor and be naked for the guy who wants to be naked with you.

FakeNIK · Answer

Dating is not about only having sex. It's about sharing your interest, emotions, thoughts & when you truly connect with someone these little things doesn't matter, in my opinion you shouldn't feel ashamed get some confidence. Haven't you heard that song "You're perfect the way you are".