Why do we enjoy so much being submitted to men during sex?

I mean, that's the only way you could insult, hit and own a woman, but out of that... We are willing to do anything to please. But why does this satisfy us so much and turns us on?
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  • It's an evolved trait. Any time you want to understand a behaviour that doesn't really make sense in the modern world you have to look at our evolutionary history. While society may have progressed and evolved rapidly, it has done so too rapidly for us to do away with hundreds of thousands of years of evolved traits.

    In the past the world was much more dangerous and violent. Tribal warfare was common, there were predators, and in order to survive they had to hunt large dangerous animals and kill them with sharp sticks.

    The men were the warriors and hunters. Women as warriors/hunters is a modern day feminist fantasy, and many lies are told about history. In order for a tribe to survive the women and children needed to survive, putting them in harm's way would make zero sense. It was common sense for the men to do the fighting.

    This meant that the most violent men (and with the best hunting/war/fighting strategy) were the most successful men.

    Women then were and still are, if they're honest, most attracted to men who are capable of violence. Most women instinctively want to feel protected by their man. Even in modern civilisation this is the number one reason women in general prefer taller men, not that height is a real indicator of fighting ability.

    Notice that I say instinctively. Instincts aren't always conscious, they're often un-conscious. A lot of women just like yourself with this question don't know why they like what they like, all they know is that they do.

    Hybristophilia, the attraction to extremely violent men, is exclusive to women. Men don't send love letters to female murders and serial killers in prison asking to marry them the way some women do to guys like Ted Bundy.

    Some people theorise that this is the reason women enjoy rough sex. Somehow it signals to her that the man is aggressive and is capable of violence. This is because the area of the brain which affects aggression and the area which affects sexual desire are side by side.

    When two tribes would go to war, the men from the winning tribe would take the women from the losing tribe as wives - otherwise known as "war brides". Women who resisted this would be killed. Women who submitted would survive, and they'd go on to have children with their conquerors. What this means is that the women who were most likely to sexually submit to a dominant man were the ones who reproduced and passed on their genes - along with their submissive sexual instincts.

    In fact in more recent times rather than being forced to become wives after defeat, there are plenty of examples of women choosing to couple up with those they thought were going to win the war, sometimes mistakenly. For example during WW2 many French women coupled up with occupying Nazi officers.

    • Very interesting reading, yes sir. Thank you.

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  • "... that's the only way you could insult, hit and own a woman"

    I'm not sure what your point was with this ^ comment. But regardless, women love to be dominated in bed because it is what nature intended. It's just the way sex works. Have you ever seen two dogs having sex? Was the female ever in a dominant or even active position? No, because the male dog is the one doing the fucking and the female is the one getting fucked. That's just the way it is.

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  • I think its the animalistic nature of it combined with the excitement of the unknown - i. e. what will he want me to do and how will he want me to do? That probably gets the ole juices flowing.

  • Many would argue because women are submissive by nature

  • I don't women. Nor would hit or degrade them. To do so would defile the creation that God created. Women are far more important than to just treat badly.

  • Its coming from genes, thats the true way of being a woman. Just look at the nature.. cat, dog, lion, turtle, deer the female one always gets dominated by the strong alpha male, world is based on that.

  • Submitting yourself to a guy during sex is best way to get satisfaction

  • Has to do how you are wired.

  • The diffrence between men and women

  • because your good girls

  • I think its just how we're wired vs men

  • It is in your genetic makeup to be sexually submissive.