Yea i dont believe in BC and i like it raw as long as we’ve been tested :)
Yes girl 👏 thats why I've only had sex witht my first boyfriend at 15 and then another at 23. I didn't know what i was doing the first time around but with the other, i did it because it finally felt right. Ended up not being right but yea 😂 The third needs to be the last in the best way possible
You have to do what's best for you. I have problems following my own mind for years. I was bullied a lot growing up so for me I didn't want to be a loser. I loves my ex but as we now know he was a Dick and probably treated me the way he did cos he could sense the low self esteem. "friends encouraged bad behaviour simply because it was funny to watch me get hurt again. When I look back I see I wasn't a bad looking girl. Just no confidence. If I could I'd do it again and I wouldn't have slept with so many just to prove I wasn't a chicken
Or not over my ex
Please be over him. he's awful. And yea i didn't have confidence either which is why i kept taking mine back. You read that old mytake right?
Yea, I'm learning I was just young and naive...
Thanks for mho x
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There are other STDs that you would need to go to a doctor for to check
@lovedejj_xo i agree girl
Ehh, most of those can be fixed right up with a Z-pack, and you can't catch herpes twice.
But you can pass it on
You sure can, generally telling someone you have it and whether or not they still want to have sex with you is on them at that point. Honestly I haven't had a problem there, and can't recall telling any women who were interested in me that changed their mind because of that. Like only one insisted on wearing condoms because of that. Different people have different priorities though. You asked a simple question and are getting pretty judgmental in my approach. I'm not aiming to have sex with you, or say that it's the one size fits all answer, just mine.
I respect your opinion. And I've always been judgmental. I just didn't think you were taking herpes seriously. But i see now that you are. So good for you
Yea i prefer to get tested and then go raw. When married, i do want to get my tubes tied in my early 30s
If they'll do it... I really think that should be up to the woman to decide not the doctor
Oh wow docs decide? Never knew that
Well they can refuse if they think you too young. Most won't do if you in early twenties. They think they'll get older and change mind or whatever
Yea i dont wanna be with someone whos afraid of becoming a father but i understand
Yea i dont believe in birth control and i like it raw. So the test will do
I like that option too!
Is there some reason you don't "Believe" in birth control Des?
@Screenwriter i dont want anything intentionally stopping me from pregnancy. Plus ik people who had issues during and after BC use... including weight gain
Yea i dont blame you. You def gotta get to know em so that you dont have to find out so late
It’s smart just to get tested yearly just to be safe in general , I don’t want to be the one spreading STD’s either
I say every few months
Yea either or just as long as you get it done
Some “virgins” have done certain foreplay and oral and should still be tested
"Virgins" right. Same rules apply. If she's sure she hasn't done anything to catch something like butt stuff, oral or she bit someone hard enough to draw blood for some reason, I don't see any reason to for a test. If she has since her last test, I would like it if she got another one.
people can be born with something or even catch something from scraping themselves on a rusty nail
I think the rusty nail thing is a bit far fetched unless you're coming in contact with someone else's body fluids and I don't think being born with one is common enough to really worry about.
Raw means likely to cum on eachother aka bodily fluids
Yep, that's what I said. If she's had sex, penatrative or otherwise or if she's been in contact with someone else's blood I'd like her to be tested.
I make it clear from the get go that i dont believe in BC and that i want it raw after we get tested. So i haven't given into many in life because im just tryna make love to the one i want to marry and procreate with. It didn't workout with the first two but at the same time, inwas only 15 when the first guy used his tricks on me
Okay but I'm pretty sure you've been warned that if you become a single mom your options for getting the guy you want will shrink a LOT.
I’m not too bothered. I want a baby more.
What is HPV?
@Tstrbrainer a virus, which in severe cases can lead to cancer.
Ooh, now there are cancerous viruses. All these makes me not to have sex ever
@Tstrbrainer Many things can give you cancer if you are unlucky, and it is mostly causing cervica cancerl in women (men more rarely get cancer from HPV) in most HPV cases there are no bad consequences. Besides many young women had the vaccine today so the risk is smaller if you are with someone young (< 30 depending on where in the world), or someone with few sex partners.So no need to be that sceptical about having sex.
Okay. Thanks for sharing. I had read that cancer is preventable through daily exercise. But even some healthy celebrities are also dying from it
Well good thing you came back clean
I'm glad I did too 😊👌
Condoms don't protect you against HPV.
But there is an HPV vaccine for women.
Yea i only have sex in a relationship and it has to be a loooong one at that. So i do prefer tests/raw over condoms
Not every pussy 🤣 good lord
Just about. My wife and I compared numbers. We're both between 60 and 70. Maybe 20 of those I didn't eat their pussies.Sex addiction... I did some really stupid shit.I won't gross you out here though. I'm just glad I survived it.
Im glad you survived it too. Meanwhile im not tryna surpass 3 lmao
Good call.Guard your heart.I had to undo a lot of psychological damage.
Oh i see
And it's better to simply get tested then decide if you want a child or not then decide on your prefered protection
Thats good and preferred
Exactly. I’m sterile, I’m good. But disease will always be a concern and condoms don’t stop them all or reliably. If a dude has aids and a condom on, what will you do if the condom breaks? Not much one can do, unless a cure is found, they’re essentially fucked.
Girl yes haha
I feel ya
It only takes a week or two for results
yeah well but with girls you need to catch them in the right mood or it's never gonna happen. and being like "no wait, let's first get tested" is not exactly a mood enhancer.
Thatts why you get tested waaaay before horniness kicks in
so how do you do it? are you just like "oh by the way if you want to have sex, i'm gonna need you to get tested, so get that on the way" on the first date? xD
Pretty much. But i wouldn't bring it up til later in the relationship when we talk about having sex someday
so how long do you usually date before sex?
I dont even intentionally try to have sex before marriage. My last ex and i tried to wait til marriage but failed at the year and a half mark. We totally did it
lol what a waste of good life time xD sex doesn't get better the longer you wait for it.
It does. But you wouldn't know ig
of course i know. i had my first time when i was 30 xD i know what it's like waiting for it.
I didn't mean waiting more than a year or two though
I think a few weeks or months is enough. Life is too short to waste is waiting for the fun.
people make life shorter by being dumb. Bt to each its own
Sex doesn't kill you.
Lmao idiot 😂 look around
I even make the virgins get tested
That seems a little redundant to me.
Nah because i know some male/female virgins who have done anal but still claim to be a virgin... and some have done oral. You dont know where their mouth has been. Everyone needs to be tested
Well when I think Virgin I think someone who's never engaged in that kind of stuff.
I agree. But these are self proclaiming virgins who feel that doesn't count. So i’d have them get tested regardless. Plus anyone can step on a rusty nail and catch something. I know someone who didn't know they were born with something. So see Its better to get tested regardless.
I suppose that's a valid point.
Either way you should get tested because people can be born with disease or even catch it from random items/needles
Very unlikely but hopefully they are healthy
Yea i just meant in general
I agree bht even the ones you get to know may lie. You gotta be safe as a backup plan
Even when i slept with a virgin, i made gim get tested. Virgins have tried foreplay and shit befoee which is why they need to get tested as well
That's very thorough! I try to avoid sleeping with virgin as they are rarely very satisfying
Both of will be checked & we would have to be exclusive to each other.
Yea def get tested regardless
You can't always trust word of mouth lmao
It is. 🤩
I like it raw after getting tested.
Definitely. Feels way better. Plus kinda hurts putting those things on or taking them off
Might feel better for the guy. I can't tell the diff cause im so wet
Well it does feel much better. Can't get the real feel with that sh*t on
But I voted g. But its also been a minute though
Haha i bet
Can I pleeeeeze have my "like" ?
Yes be careful in these streets girlie
I see but what about condoms and getting tested
Tested before sex, then only condoms if we aren't both clean. Condoms are useless otherwise. Plus raw feels better.
Yea i like raw
But you can't trust that those girls are truly clean by word of mouth
No but I've never had been wrong it depends how I know them.
Birth control pills or the under the skin inserts that last 5 to 10 years work amazingly well. Most have a.001 failure rate when used properly.The issue with low-dose birth control pills is IF YOU FORGET TO TAKE THE PILL WITHIN AN HOUR OF YOUR NORMAL PILL TAKING TIME, you are at risk for pregnancy. You need backup birth control.If you don't know someone well enough to have this kind of discussion, DON'T HAVE SEX WITH THEM!!Men have control over impregnating a woman BEFORE the fact. After the fact, she is in control of the pregnancy issue. So exercise your rights carefully ALL THE TIME!!
Testing is better as we can go raw if it's safe. What are HPV? Can you get STDs if on birth control?
Lmao the fact you're asking this... I don't know if you should be having sex 😂
Birth control offers NO PROTECTION from STIs unless it's a condom. And condom's alone aren't the best birth control. Better to use condoms WITH a spermicide. There are many forms: foam spermicide, melting "bullets", melting sheets (about 2 by 2 inches). Condoms with spermicide are about 95% effective. Alone, about 70-80 percent. But condoms are the BEST protection against STIs.Still you must put them ON correctly AND take them OFF correctly. There are instructions WITH the condoms. You can't reuse a condom. You can't stay inside a partner until the condom is leaking sperm because you've shrunken. You can't SPILL THE CONTENTS of the condom on the leg or vaginal lips of the partner. SPERM SWIM!!! And vaginal juices facilitate said swimming.
Thanks for the input. But what are spermicides in general? Are they tablets?
@Screenwriter if he doesn't know that at 22 then he shouldn't be having sex. Plus i never said BC was protection against stds. I only included it because some use it along with the tests and condoms
@DizzyDesii we don't have sex education which you guys might have got.
Sex ed taught nothing. It only scared you if anything. You have to take the time to do internet research in your own. You’ll learn a lot more. And you shouldn't have sex until you’re aware
Hmmm, anyway I'm in the process of learning through this and various other forums
I even make the virgins get tested because theyve still done foreplay
Then i can call myself lucky
people can catch something from a rusty nail or even be born with something. Its safer to get tested
You probably will know before you're sexually active if you have a STD inborn.
No thats a good one
At least you get tested
Yes, even I like to cum inside if she using pills..
Lmao the whole she-bang 😂
Lol I don't want any chance of getting pregnant right now
You’re 17 and i dont dm anyways
Sounds good :) when do you want kids
When I find the fight girl
I want at least two
I hope u find a great amazing guy to have them with