During those days I really got around and explored my sexuality in college, I never had the patience to wait for STDs tests. I also didn't want to stress my boyfriends with the burden of forcing them to get tested, especially considering that not all STD tests are free and not everybody has health insurance. I also didn't want them to think that I was assuming that they were sick. Thus, I always had my boyfriends at the time wear condoms, which was enough for me. I never had an issue with condoms and I'm thankful that I had the wisdom to make sure my boyfriends wore them at all times back then. I even always made sure that I provided them so I knew that they weren't tampered with. If I didn't, then I'd probably be sick today based on the amount of sex I've had. Nowadays, I have a fiancee and he doesn't wear condoms. We both trust each other and both of us getting tested is just basic procedure with our regular doctor checkups. I have never taken birth control, by the way. I definitely won't take it now because I'm still deciding on if I want children soon.
Yea i dont believe in BC and i like it raw as long as we’ve been tested :)
I like to get tested before and during.
I realise now that the times I felt odd was probably because my ex was cheating my anxiety paranois moments of thrush was due to his dirty lifestyle.
I didn't cheat when I was with him so I had nothing to fear.
I did sleep with others when we split up.
I haven't ever had a one night stand.
I am intolerant to certain brands of condoms and I have a major issue with contraception.
I have pcos I don't need drugs messing it up.
I've learned abstaining is better.
So I'm waiting for the right one.
I think this was God's way of telling me to pick better partners.
A lesson I truly failed to grasp.
Everyone views things differently but I'm hearing and finally seeing.
Body =temple=respect.
Yes girl 👏 thats why I've only had sex witht my first boyfriend at 15 and then another at 23. I didn't know what i was doing the first time around but with the other, i did it because it finally felt right. Ended up not being right but yea 😂 The third needs to be the last in the best way possible
You have to do what's best for you. I have problems following my own mind for years. I was bullied a lot growing up so for me I didn't want to be a loser. I loves my ex but as we now know he was a Dick and probably treated me the way he did cos he could sense the low self esteem. "friends encouraged bad behaviour simply because it was funny to watch me get hurt again. When I look back I see I wasn't a bad looking girl. Just no confidence. If I could I'd do it again and I wouldn't have slept with so many just to prove I wasn't a chicken
Or not over my ex
My partners are all post-menopausal and pregnancy is not a concern. For the last 15 years, I've been tested after each relationship I ended. And my partners have also been tested. So we do not use condoms. Perhaps I am lucky but I don't have casual hookups and my partners have all been faithful and candid with me.
Thats ideal
Get tested and go raw. That’s why I’m saving my body for marriage. My future wife and I will get tested before our wedding and we will see if both of us are able to have kids.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!These days there are so many things out there: HPV, HIV, a hundred STIs. If he doesn't have a clean test in his hot little hands and we exchange our tests together, there's not going to be sex. SURE. It's no guarantee that he'll stay clean if you're not in an exclusive relationship.
But is it worth the risk to have sex with people whose STI status you know nothing about?
I'd rather be as safe as possible.
I agree
I never had to worry about that with my hubby and even tho can't get pregnant, they'd have to get tested and If still say condoms till you know they sleeping with noone else. But sadly, sometimes people don't find out right away when being cheated on, so I don't know I really prefer sex without condoms, why got tubes taken care of in my late 20's, but I also could trust my hubby... These days, people don't seem to take fidelity and safe sex seriously...
Yea i prefer to get tested and then go raw. When married, i do want to get my tubes tied in my early 30s
If they'll do it... I really think that should be up to the woman to decide not the doctor
Oh wow docs decide? Never knew that
So walgreens sells at home HIV tests which are covered by FSA accounts. That sounds like good enough for government work to me. Results take about 15-20 minutes to show, so about as long as it takes to have a drink, smoke a cigarette, see the control strip is good, and get it on.
There are other STDs that you would need to go to a doctor for to check
@lovedejj_xo i agree girl
Ehh, most of those can be fixed right up with a Z-pack, and you can't catch herpes twice.
condoms are enough.. if one should be 100 % clear for STDs you anyway have to get tested and then again some months later since some STD do not show up on tests until some period after you got them.
HIV is luckily also treated today so you can have sex without transferring it and I personally have the HPV vaccine.
What is HPV?
@Tstrbrainer a virus, which in severe cases can lead to cancer.
Ooh, now there are cancerous viruses. All these makes me not to have sex ever
I wouldn’t sleep with anyone I think would have sexual diseases. It’s all about getting to know the person
I agree bht even the ones you get to know may lie. You gotta be safe as a backup plan
I'm a strong believer in mutual std tests & that worked for me. And I always tell guys not to trust a woman to handle the birth control. Have seen too many suckers get tricked by women who "forgot" to take birth control.
As OlderAndWiser points out, with older partners birth control isn't an issue. Although I remember hearing about some 60s woman who had a surprise pregnancy.
I make it clear from the get go that i dont believe in BC and that i want it raw after we get tested. So i haven't given into many in life because im just tryna make love to the one i want to marry and procreate with. It didn't workout with the first two but at the same time, inwas only 15 when the first guy used his tricks on me
Okay but I'm pretty sure you've been warned that if you become a single mom your options for getting the guy you want will shrink a LOT.
I’m not too bothered. I want a baby more.
I was counting flings when I voted if that’s what this question is for lol but I was voting on the last option bc of my boyfriend 💁🏻♀️
Yea i just meant in general
One of the best things about sex is just fucking,,, making love its being hot , and care free. You have to get checked you have to be on the same page sbout birth control in order to have the best sex ever. The last thing want to DO is not be myself and stressed about cumming or getting her i PREGNANT
Yea i dont wanna be with someone whos afraid of becoming a father but i understand
We should both get tested, condoms are not reliable enough. Plus I’d be concerned for getting pregnant too so getting rid of condoms before I wanna have kids is a no no.
I feel ya
have the same guy and the only one so i have no problems but i do take birth control pills because we dont want any babies.
Oh i see
I only do anal and make him wear 3 condoms.
3 lmao
I just wouldn't have sex with someone who feels like either of us needs to get tested.
people can catch something from a rusty nail or even be born with something. Its safer to get tested
You probably will know before you're sexually active if you have a STD inborn.
I'd say testing before might be a good thing. If you both do it together, it's better safe than sorry
And it's better to simply get tested then decide if you want a child or not then decide on your prefered protection
*preferred
Yepp
I wouldn’t ask a girl to get tested unless we were having raw sex and we were in a relationship. I always wear condoms though. I haven’t had raw sex since I was 18 and I only did it with one girl.
Yea i only have sex in a relationship and it has to be a loooong one at that. So i do prefer tests/raw over condoms
For me C, double protection is the safest...
Nice
I hate condoms but I use them with someone new until I feel her and I have a strong connection and that I can trust her then I don’t use
Them but I always get tested cuz you never know what you could pick up , my ass
Doesn’t want AIDS or any STD’s , why it grosses me out if a girl has a lot of partners and a reputation as being easy then I get really freaked out if I don’t find out until after The fact
Yea i dont blame you. You def gotta get to know em so that you dont have to find out so late
It’s smart just to get tested yearly just to be safe in general , I don’t want to be the one spreading STD’s either
I say every few months
You both should get tested anyway, since you might want to raw dog it eventually
Right
Get tested. Every partner i have gets tested before we do anything and will be tested a few times each year.
Thats good and preferred
Exactly. I’m sterile, I’m good. But disease will always be a concern and condoms don’t stop them all or reliably. If a dude has aids and a condom on, what will you do if the condom breaks? Not much one can do, unless a cure is found, they’re essentially fucked.
Exactly
Get tested and use condoms and birth control. I prefer condoms just to contain the mess, even if my partner and I are both clean
Good
Condoms, getting tested, and birth control
Lmao the whole she-bang 😂
Lol I don't want any chance of getting pregnant right now
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