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Is waiting for the right person for sex worth it?

cause it feels like im not gonna find anyone tbh, cause you never know when you are gonna die, i dont wanna die a virgin lol

people that didn't wait for the right person, do you regret it?

cause hormones be kicking no cap, masturbation isn't cutting it for me nomore, i want to wait for the right person but I don't know how long ill be waiting and I don't know if the right person will even happen so im sorta stuck here, anything? 🙃
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  • It's worth it because what if you feel like shit and the sex isn't what you imagined it to be if its a girl you dont feel a vibe and connection with and love! Trust me it will be worth it. Im 22 and still have mine but i think what gets me by is realizing how worth it it will be and that you didn't just give it to any girl. You also should think of your health sake and your mental health. Make sure its a girl you have a strong bond with and able to trust rather than a girl who only wants to stick around for one night. I just hear many stories of people regretting it from just giving it away to just anybody. My best advice is also when you meet a girl and have feelings for her and you begin to date her, take it one step at a time, kiss her, hold her hand, walk her home, or drive her home, girls like that lol at least most of us, and take baby steps making your move and when you least expect it, you'll have that special, passionate, sex connecting on that deep level you envision it to be. It happens when you least expect it. You will have it I believe you will! Be patient and it doesn't hurt to use toys if you want lol.

Most Helpful Girl

  • What does “waiting for the right person” even mean though really? What is the point? Unless you are some puritanical religious nutjob who thinks that God made sex only for a husband and wife to make babies then there’s really no good reason to wait. If you think your future partner will be jealous of the people you’ve been with before, then don’t choose someone so fragile and irrational. If you’re worried about diseases or pregnancy, be safe and sensible. If you think that saving yourself is somehow going to make the experience more special and intimate, all I can really say is: don’t be so bloody stupid. Sex between two virgins will be anything but special. It’ll be awkward and uncomfortable and disappointing. Live a little. Have some sex. Learn some skills. And don’t overthink it. Your future “special someone” doesn’t even need to know about your past. It’s better left there.

    • i am one of those nutjobs

    • 😌😌

Most Helpful Guys

  • Relationship is like gambling: we win some, we lose some. But if we never place the bet, we'll never win.

    "Right" is very subjective. And worse, it doesn't appear in her face. Hence there is no way you can know until you date and know that person better.

    This means, she may appear "just another girl". But until you asks her out, converse with her and possibly touch each other, you can never know if she's the right one.

    To conclude, my Opinion is to start dating and at least enter the level where you both start kissing and touching private parts. Then decide if you want to have sex. And don't procrastinate if it feels right. It could be better.

    • hm thats some good clean advice right there bro

  • I would say it's a waste of your time today's day and age there's no right person they're already done and had sex already so you mustn't get with the program I don't mean to be rude but it's what happening

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  • people who have pre-marital sex R not mature enough to wait until their - honeymoon - to have sex ! thanks

  • find someone you like for sex and wait for someone you want to settle down with

    • wouldn't that make you look bad tho

  • You are nineteen God's sake, you make it sound like you're forty. Look at it this way, when you're ready you will know and it will happen when it should. What you should be doing is enjoying your virginity because when it's gone it's gone.

    • enjoy? whats there to enjoy, it feels more like a burden than something youd enjoy but alright 🙃🤷🏽‍♂️

    • Okay, let me manifest your first time for you. You will lose it when you are twenty one and she will be a volunteer at the library. You will meet her there while doing some reading which you have started doing on Saturdays to pass the time, expand your vocabulary and relieve stress. You will not really notice her for eight months because you're so deep in your reading all the time and she doesn't dress very glamorous. It is not that her style is straight trash, it is just that she is so conservative she would wear a vest over a shirt and loose fitting pants or pencil skirt below her knees. She also wears her hair down in her face and she doesn't give eye contact. How you will come to know that you like her is when she decided to say while commending you for being a lover of literature as she's noticed you have been in for the past year just to read and relax. You will look up and wonder if this is the same girl you've been seeing around the library for the past year, because she is quite cute and you didn't notice until now. She will sit beside you telling you about this book she read and how you should try it, then she'll take it to you.

    • You will decide to take this book home and when you're done with it, both of you somehow become friends talking about books like two nerds, you will have zoom chat at nights for three months but you will still see her at work, by now she will be full time working there as before she was first a volunteer. But it will not be until six months time that you do end up sleeping together which will happen on a date night watching movies, you two had been dating after three months of being friends and you had prepared for this by keeping condoms in a safe cool place in your underwear drawer away from sharp objects. Because you now have a G. F, naturally it would finally happen, and it will be great. She is two years older than you are, very girl next door pretty and not a virgin, you are her third lover and she is clean. Do not rush into marriage but do what you will with this. Oh and she's hot under her clothes, she dresses like that because she's never has a job before, let alone a job in a library so she kinda over did the librarian look until she learned to dress it down while still looking appropriate. She used to hate reading until she got a job there.

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  • I don’t want to die a virgin too! I’m not afraid of death at all but that thought creeps me out lol.


    It’s worth it for me cause I don’t find the concept of having sex with someone I don’t have a connection quite appealing. Looking back I’m very glad I didn’t sleep with any of my ex boyfriends - I can’t imagine how I’d feel since clearly none of them were the “right ones” :)

    • yea but its different for women, virginity for women is worshipped, virginity for men is an embarrassment or burden, which completely sucks

    • I think a woman of value would judge a guy for more than just his virginity. Character is important too.

    • well sadly these women arenr easy to find

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  • the right person is a fantasy that only a small percentage of people get

  • Hmmmm I have no idea

    • very useful 🙃👏

    • You're welcome young one

    • okay dont do that

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  • Wait for the right person. The experience will be better too

    • what if it never happens tho 🙃

    • It will, just Don't absorb yourself in it. Focus on other stuff, other parts of your life. The right time and person will come

    • ehhh

  • you'll just keep waiting and waiting till you're dead lol
    I won't say do it with anyone but if you feel something if anything at all with that SO, I'd say just do it so you can get experience and please your "the one"

  • Yes it is

  • It can be

  • I don't know maybe as a virgin myself, it does suck being this old and not having a sex life. It's not like I wanted to save it for someone it's just that I never met anyone who wants to date me.

  • I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 27. So nothing sexual before then. Had sex 6 months later because she was the right person, we've been together since.

    • hm alright that is pretty helpful 🤔

  • Yes. It will be much more rewarding and worth the wait if you love her

    • seems like good advice

  • I'm mean I can't exactly judge cuz I lost my V at 15
    I mean it was for a good cause but yeah I still had sex before finding the right person Lol

  • Same, mastrubation doesn't work aswell as it used to in my teens butt I've had opportunities to lose it but underneath it all they didn't deserve being my first time, aside from the mediocre chat... they clearly mainly wanted sex including this virgin guy I met or they spend less time talking to my face then stare at my body as if I'm desperate or something. Id like a serious guy who wants to share a life and has same mindset, humour similar looks to me who doesn't compliment my looks till we get to know another. If im convinced he's the one id trust him enough to have sex I guess.

    • alright that seems legit

  • Being a virigin is totally fine. Wait till you like someone and that person likes you back. Or do you mean wait until marriage/wait for a life partner?

    • nah not all that I don't know if ill ever get married tbh

  • The right person will come. I regret losing my virginity at an early age omg! Remember that your definition of the right person may not ring true to someone else. You could meet someone you think isn’t the right person but turned out to be just the right person for you

  • Mostly yes.

  • Not really

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